On today's show, I share a powerful daily habit that creates focus, gives you more clarity in your thinking, and actually makes recovery easier.

https://recoveredman.com/217

Does your personality or the way you define yourself get in the way of recovery?

https://recoveredman.com/216

What is the motivation for recovery? If it's primarily fear we have a problem. Fear-based recovery can inspire action at first but eventually exhausts us.

https://recoveredman.com/215

Nate Larkin and Aaron Porter join me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Pirate Monk Podcast. 

https://recoveredman.com/214

When it comes to situations in your life, how do you often respond?

Are you in habit of being an owner or a victim? Your ability to go porn depends on this...

https://recoveredman.com/213

Today, I am asking some questions... why do we struggle with commitment and follow-through? Why do resist creating healthy boundaries? And finally, if "the opposite of addiction is connection" why do we avoid it?

https://recoveredman.com/212

We focus on triggers a lot in recovery. Anticipating them. Avoiding them. Reducing them. But our thoughts, especially the ones that feel automatic often prompt our behaviors. This episode is about becoming aware of our thoughts and how to change them.

https://recoveredman.com/211

What story do you tell yourself after a setback?

• That you're not disciplined enough?
• That you're lacking confidence?
• Or will power?

The truth is we simply lack commitment.

https://recoveredman.com/209

"If we do not transform our pain," Richard Rohr writes. "We will most assuredly transmit it." On today's show, I talk about how we avoid pain with porn and how the work of recovery is about transforming pain.

https://recoveredman.com/207

Our culture would have us believe that all we can't fully enjoy life if we choose recovery.

But the opposite is true.

When we put the proper boundary on porn and our addictions, we get access to the rest of life.

In this virtually coaching session, we talk about how you can begin to design a kick-ass life.

https://recoveredman.com/206

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Do you have an idea of some actions you should take in recovery?

Or is there a behavior that you know you need to eliminate?

What's stopping you?

In this virtual coaching session, I explain how our excuses reveal our beliefs.

https://recoveredman.com/205

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I have a stack of emails today and I'm answering your questions...

What's the best way to tell my girlfriend about a relapse?
Is a realistic goal to abstain from masturbation when there is no relationship in sight?
Should I tell my accountability about the massage parlor?
Can you help me understand my horrific, porn withdrawal experience?

AND MORE...

1-on-1 Coaching
Interested in having a custom coaching experience with me? Send an email to matt@recoveredman.com with the subject "Coaching."

https://recoveredman.com/204

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Recently I was dealt a crushing blow. Because of a flight cancelation, I went from having a first class ticket to a middle seat in the back of the plane.

On this episode, we talk about dealing with disappointment and why we feel what we focus on.

https://recoveredman.com/203

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My interview with Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing.

https://recoveredman.com/202

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Today's episode is about being kind to yourself, having compassion, and finding self-care.

https://recoveredman.com/201

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Superfan, Jon Jones, interviews Matt in a special show to celebrate 200 episodes of Porn Free Radio.

https://recoveredman.com/200

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Gentlemen, we're not alone in this.

In this episode, we break down the ingenious PFR theme created by Adam the producer.

https://recoveredman.com/199

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The first step in recovery is exposure, whether it's from getting caught or getting courage. The exposure helps us press into honesty.

In this episode, we talk about the why we avoid exposure and the gifts of being known.

https://recoveredman.com/198

The post 198 – Getting Caught or Getting Courage appeared first on Recovered Man.

We draw big conclusions from the type of we've looked at. Feelings like we are unique. We are disgusting or abnormal. But these are tricks of our ego to keep us stuck.

https://recoveredman.com/197

The post 197 – What Does the Porn I Look At Say About Me? appeared first on Recovered Man.

In today's episode, I share what we can learn about recovery from the John Wick saga.

Get access to my new audio series, Coffee with the Dobber, on Patreon.

Link:
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It's confession time on Porn Free Radio. My sobriety is intact, but I have been struggling with a mistaken belief in two areas of my life. And it's time to come clean.

https://recoveredman.com/195

The post 195 – Mistaken Belief: If I Don’t Try, I Can’t Fail appeared first on Recovered Man.

On today's episode, your questions...How do you rebound after edging? What's the connection with porn addiction and depression/anxiety? And a crazy topic, I have never discussed on Porn Free Radio plus more.

https://recoveredman.com/194

The post 194 – How Do You Rebound After Edging? appeared first on Recovered Man.

In the second of 2 episodes, Matt finishes our discussion on the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by Cal Newport.

https://recoveredman.com/192

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In the first of 2 episodes, Matt digs into the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by author and Computer Science professor, Cal Newport.

https://recoveredman.com/192

The post 192 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man.

When we feel rejected we think, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody."

Rejection is a huge trigger and can be an obstacle to healthy recovery.

It keeps us isolated and alone.

https://recoveredman.com/191

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Need a boost?
A 7-day stretch goal can help energize your recovery this week.

In this episode, you'll learn what a 7-day stretch goal is, why it's important, and how to set one.

https://recoveredman.com/190

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In episode 113 of PFR, a listener named Jon wrote, "I'm becoming the type of man who does not look at porn."

This idea has connected with many listeners since it posted back in 2017.

Today, I read a letter from Rob who shares his inspiration for becoming the type of man who does not look at porn.

https://recoveredman.com/189

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Hope Ray, therapist and partner specialist, returns to discuss recovery, relationships, and more.

https://recoveredman.com/188

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On this episode of Porn Free Radio, I open up my inbox and answer your questions:

Should I get rid of anything that triggers me? If you’ve gone porn free for a few years before you get married do you have to tell your spouse about it? How much do I need to tell my wife after a slip? How do I help my (ex)boyfriend? What if I am addicted to something more addicting than porn alone? Help! I’m not sure what’s wrong with me… AND MORE.

https://recoveredman.com/187

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Sometimes I focus on the struggle too much. It's hard walking in recovery. I want to be honest about that.

But then I think what am I doing to kick ass in life?

What excites me? What sparks joy?

On today's show, we're talking about what it means to pursue a great life.

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The post 186 – Success Comes From 50% Recovery Work And 50% Kicking Ass In Life appeared first on Recovered Man.

Most relapses start with edging. Edging is any unsound activity that mimics our old patterns with porn.

In this episode, you'll learn to shift your thinking away from "this is not porn" mentality. 

https://recoveredman.com/185

The post 185 – How Successful Guys Overcome Edging appeared first on Recovered Man.

in this episode, we continue our Successful Guys series. We talk about boredom, distraction, and why cultivating solitude is important for recovery.

https://recoveredman.com/184

The post 184 – How Successful Guys Overcome Boredom appeared first on Recovered Man.

Continuing our successful guys series, I offer 3 powerful ideas for overcoming relapsing. 

https://recoveredman.com/183

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In this episode, we continue with our successful guys series by discussing shame. 

C.G. Jung called shame a "soul eating emotion.” It's the corrosive state where our failure and flaws come to define us. Where we see ourselves as broken and unable to change.

https://recoveredman.com/182

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You want to change your relationship and habits with porn. You want motivation to do what has to be done.

https://recoveredman.com/181

The post 181 – How Successful Guys Overcome Lack of Motivation appeared first on Recovered Man.

A lot of importance is placed on triggers in recovery. Almost too much.

Because its really the craving we need to learn to deal with.

https://recoveredman.com/180

The post 180 – How to Overcome Triggers And Craving appeared first on Recovered Man.

Are you overwhelmed getting started going porn free?

Or have you been in recovery, a while, and gotten bored? Maybe you've lost some focus or feel apathetic.

Join Matt for a cup of coffee and a discussion about the psychological concept of Flow.

You'll learn why staying in a state overwhelm or boredom is not good for your overall success, satisfaction, and happiness.

https://recoveredman.com/179

The post 179 – Coffee with the Dobber: Flow appeared first on Recovered Man.

In REV this week, I was asked to share my current plan. So my co-leader Jay and I went through Your PornFree Playbook and captured our current recovery plans. 

https://recoveredman.com/178

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Brian, a PFR super fan, shares 10 quotes that impacted him from the podcast. He's joined by his accountability partner, Clay.

Plus, you have to check out the original PFR song in this episode. It's amazing!

https://recoveredman.com/177

The post 177 – Reservoir of Hope with Brian and Clay appeared first on Recovered Man.

There's one thing you should know: there's a part of you that doesn't want to give up porn. It's your rebellious side that avoids responsibility and anything that feels like rules.

But THIS podcast episode is made especially for that part of you.

https://recoveredman.com/176

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If you ever thought, " I just need someone to hold me accountable." OR "I really need a good accountability partner.", this episode if for you.

https://recoveredman.com/175

The post 175 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 3: Accountability As Ownership appeared first on Recovered Man.

Are you committed to being porn free? Let me see your calendar.

What does your calendar show me about your commitment to recovery?

On this episode, I share the principal of what gets scheduled is what gets done.

https://recoveredman.com/174

The post 174 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 2: What Gets Scheduled Is What Gets Done appeared first on Recovered Man.

After a relapse have you ever wondered. "why did I do that?"

Regardless of who we are we are all driven to meet six human needs.

The first four needs show up commonly in our relapses and struggles. The last two needs emerge in our healthy recovery.

https://recoveredman.com/172

The post 173 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 1: Six Human Needs appeared first on Recovered Man.

Have you ever thought, "Man, I'm hopeless..." Or "I'm not good with self-discipline..." Or when it comes to recovery, "If I can't do this perfect... I can't do it..."

Maybe you have the thought that your brain is broken or the devil is out to get you. Or maybe deep down, you wonder, "If people really knew me they would be disgusted."

If you have had those thoughts, you may have a B.S. problem. And here's the hard truth... you will never be porn free until you deal with your B.S.

On today's episode, we talk all about... your B.S.

https://recoveredman.com/172

The post 172 – Do You Have a B.S. Problem? appeared first on Recovered Man.

Noah Church joins me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Love People Use Things podcast.

https://recoveredman.com/171

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Are you waiting for motivation to take action in your recovery?

In today's episode, I talk about why motivation doesn't work. It's important, but not the thing that moves us forward.

https://recoveredman.com/170

The post 170 – Are You Waiting For Motivation? appeared first on Recovered Man.

On this episode, I talk about my continued journey of transformation. If you're struggling with porn you need to listen. If you're struggling with porn AND your personal fitness - LISTEN TWICE.

https://recoveredman.com/169

The post 169 – Are You Living Fully Alive? appeared first on Recovered Man.

Do you remember Pornfree Radio?

On today's episode, we talk about why real recovery requires transformation and the 3 things we need to change.

https://recoveredman.com/168

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On today's episode, I work out my porn free Philadelphia travel plan ahead of my trip to Podcast Movement 2018.

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Have you every felt hijacked by obsessive thinking or porn behaviors? You react impulsively to moments of opportunity over and over again.

In this episode, we discuss how you can re-engineer your environment and the power of mindless recovery habits.

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The post 166 – Mindless Recovery appeared first on Recovered Man.

It's BOGO Wednesday on Pornfree Radio. Two topics for the price of one.

First up, I share a powerful tool you can use to get back on track after relapse.

Second, I examine why we're tempted to disown our difficult stories in recovery, and why wholeness requires we integrate ALL of our experiences.

http://recoveredman.com/165

The post 165 – Getting Back On Track After Relapse appeared first on Recovered Man.

Years ago, I went on a men's weekend. The leader of the weekend, John, was fond of saying, "Decrease the hesitation gentlemen... men are waiting!"

In the episode, I share the meaning of this phrase and how we can apply it in our recovery.

http://recoveredman.com/164

The post 164 – Decrease the Hesitation… Men Are Waiting appeared first on Recovered Man.

How long does it take to recover? It depends. Are you willing to do what it takes?

In this episode, I share about 3 cliches in recovery and why pressing into discomfort is the path to substantial recovery.

http://recoveredman.com/163

The post 163 – How Long Does It Take To Recover? appeared first on Recovered Man.

I discuss the way our mind plays tricks when we're in recovery. I share 5 common tricks we face and what the truth is.

http://recoveredman.com/162

The post 162 – Mind Playing Tricks On Me appeared first on Recovered Man.

This week is Father's Day in the United States and so we're talking about masculinity, specifically inspired masculinity. 

What it is and why is it important to our recovery.

http://recoveredman.com/161

The post 161 – We all have an intense longing for inspired masculinity appeared first on Recovered Man.

Jason George from The Griz Podcast visits PFR for 2nd of 2 episodes.

In this episode, Jason shares his recovery journey and why men in ministry struggle with porn. 

http://recoveredman.com/160

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Jason George from The Griz Podcast visits PFR for 1 of 2 episodes.

In this episode, Jason shares his early years, his struggle with pornography, and his spiritual awakening.

http://recoveredman.com/159

The post 159 – Jason George “The Griz” Pt. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man.

In part 3 of 3 Most Wanted topics, we talk specifically about your relationship status.

I start by focusing on challenges the single man faces in recovery. Then I compare that with the challenges married men face.

http://recoveredman.com/158

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In part 2 of 3 Most Wanted topics, we examine how fetish addiction affects our goal of going porn free.

In this episode, I explain the 4 stages of addiction as defined by Dr. A. Thomas Horvath. I also share 5 questions to engage your best thinking about how to deal with fetishes in your recovery.

http://recoveredman.com/157

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In part 1 of 3, Most Wanted topics, we examine how masturbation affects our goal of going porn free.

Get full show notes: http://recoveredman.com/156

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Pornfree Radio turns 4 years old this week. PFR Episode 001 launched 4/30/2014. Thousands of emails and 154 episodes later, we keep things going by discussing how addiction can be seen as an extreme version of habit.

Full show notes:
http://recoveredman.com/155

The post 155 – Overcoming Addiction appeared first on Recovered Man.

Part 3 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 3 - day 90 and beyond.

“Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”  -Steven Pressfield, The War of Art

http://recoveredman.com/154

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Part 2 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 2, days 31-90.

“Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”  -Steven Pressfield, The War of Art

http://recoveredman.com/153

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Part 1 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 1, the first 30 days.

“Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”  -Steven Pressfield, The War of Art

http://recoveredman.com/152

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"I did something I did not expect myself to do last night," Andrew, a PFR listener wrote in.

"I was up far too late, and could not go to sleep because I had this unsettling feeling in my body. I knew what I had to do..."

You won't believe what he did!

http://recoveredman.com/151

The post 151 – Up Late. Can’t Sleep. Uh-oh! appeared first on Recovered Man.

In part 2 of 2 episodes, I share recovery insights from Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday. (2016.

In this episode, I focus on how ego affects guys at 3 different stages of recovery.

Get the full show notes here:
http://recoveredman.com/150

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In part 1 of 2 episodes, I share a book I am reading called, Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday.

I discuss how ego has influenced both my addiction and recovery.

Get the full show notes here:
http://recoveredman.com/149

The post 149 – Ego Is The Enemy Pt. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man.

Long time listener and fan of the show Will asks, "what episodes would you recommend for new listeners?" Here's my take on the “Top 5” greatest hits.

Get the full show notes here:
http://recoveredman.com/148

The post 148 – Greatest Hits of Pornfree Radio Vol. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man.

In part 2 of 2 episodes, we continue to discuss Working At Home Without Relapsing. I share the 3 biggest threats to staying porn free while working at home.

Then I share tools to deal with each threat contributed by Pornfree Radio listeners.

http://recoveredman.com/147

Just curious... have you ever had to work from home? Maybe you have a flexible schedule that allows you to work at home. Or maybe it's a snow day or your home sick from work.

Is that a threat? Is it a challenge for you to stay porn free?

In part 1 of 2 episodes, we discuss how to work at home without relapsing.

With the podcast's emphasis on personal responsibility, it's easy to think the goal of recovery work is self-reliance. That in order to be strong we need to become emotionally self-reliant.

But this undermines our recovery work and delays emotional healing.

In this episode, I discuss the true goal of recovery.

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Show Notes
Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/145

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The post 145 – Isn’t Self-Reliance the Goal of Recovery? appeared first on Recovered Man.

Your recovery is NOT your relationship and your relationship is NOT your recovery.

On this special Valentine's Day episode, I explain the common confusion guys have with recovery work and their primary relationships.

This episode is aimed at anyone in a relationship or who wants to be.

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Show Notes
Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/144

Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz
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It's Wednesday!

On today's episode, I share Dave's 5 mistaken beliefs about porn. Dave was featured in PFR 138 when he reached the 2-year porn free milestone.

Earlier this week, he shared 5 mistaken beliefs he had with porn. I asked for his permission to share them with you now.

1.) The next change in my life will make it easier to quit porn.
2.) Porn compliments my sex life.
3.) Porn is a reward. It's "me time."
4.) Porn is a break from work. It's "a mind shot."
5.) Subscribing to porn sites is more efficient.

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I'm committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018.  And over 35 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us.

Show Notes
Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/143

Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz
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On today's episode, we follow the partner's journey. Lori and Jay Pyatt share their story of navigating porn addiction, betrayal, and recovery as a couple.

Lori mentors women who are healing from effects of their husband's porn addiction and trauma. Jay works with men in recovery from porn addiction.

Both Lori and Jay are BraveHearts Certified Mentors™ and offer couple mentoring as well.

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Show Notes
Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/142

Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz
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The post 142 – Your Porn. Her Pain. How Partners Heal w/ Lori and Jay Pyatt appeared first on Recovered Man.

When does quitting porn get easier? Really?

I get asked this all the time by listeners.

This past week, marked 7 years porn free for me. In this episode, I share 12 milestones that happened on my journey after which things got easier.

You'll learn:

- My new commitment for 2018
- Why recovery doesn't get easier
- The ease of a task is a sign of mastery
- Why mastery doesn't come from a calendar
- The 12 milestones in my journey that led to mastery

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Thanks for all your contributions. You donated over $3000 to Pornfree Radio in 2017! Thanks helping get this message out each week.

SEE YOU NEXT WEDNESDAY!!!!!!

Show Notes
Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/141

Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz
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Which came first? My intense sexual curiosity or porn exposure?
The answer might surprise you.

In this episode, I explore my early days of porn exposure and a new realization I had this week.

Show Notes
Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/140

Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz
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Recorded live on January 1, 2018. Grab your coffee (or hot beverage of choice) as we welcome in 2018 porn free!

In this episode:

- 5 Resolutions You Can Keep This Year
- A brave listener is interviewed about his January sprint plan
- Q&A

Show Notes
Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/139

REV Group Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz
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The post 139 – Pornfree Radio Live! New Years Day appeared first on Recovered Man.

In this final episode for 2017, Pornfree Radio listeners share their milestones, thank-yous, favorite artists, and more.

Show Notes
Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/138

REV Group Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz
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Do you struggle making time for self care?

Do you suck at being creative?

In today's episode, we break down 15 self care habits that take 5 minutes of less.

Now it's prescriptive- I try to match your problem or need to a corresponding habit.  And my hope is this will inspire your own creativity to see what's possible in recovery.

Show Notes
Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/137

Porn Free This Year - NEW!
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Get my free video training here. Build your recovery plan and go porn free in 2018.

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On this episode of Pornfree Radio we discuss a topic we've never discussed before: Purity. An unlikely subject for a podcast devoted to skipping Christian cliches about pornography and lust.

And yet I was compelled to share because of amazing interview I heard with Christopher West on the Integrity Restored podcast, episode 56.

You may re-think your definition of "Purity" when you hear this episode.

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Michael Leahy, author of Porn Nation, joins Pornfree Radio to discuss his journey out of porn and sex addiction. Michael is the CEO and founder of BraveHearts a faith-based mentoring organization for men recovering from porn and sex addiction.

Michael also shares about his upcoming Breaking Free Virtual Summit. Presenting 40+ speakers over 10 days. December 10-19, 2017.

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Part 3 of 3 in our series on Motivation examines the unpacks the ONE thing you need to take action.

Motivation as we have discussed is triggered by making choices but how do we focus our action.

In this episode, you learn:

- What the ONE thing is
- How you can use a focusing question to determine your next action
- A simple strategy to take action this week on your biggest problem with porn

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Part 2 of 3 in our series on Motivation examines the concept of an internal locus of control found in Smarter Faster Better by Charles Duhigg.

We build on this idea and unpack how motivation is triggered by making choices that demonstrate we are in control.

In this episode, you learn:

- What is the locus of control
- What is the difference between an internal and external locus of control
- Why training is helpful with motivation
- How motivation is triggered by choices that demonstrate we are in control
- Why it's important to tie something meaningful to your habits

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Part 1 of 3 in our series on Motivation starts with The Myth Of Self Discipline found in Gary Keller's book The ONE Thing.

In this episode, you learn:

- Why you don't need more discipline than you already have
- What "disciplined" people actually have
- What you need to choose get more control in your life
- Why willpower is like your mobile phone
- The best way to build habits

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Have you ever had something good happen in your life? A promotion? A birthday party? A big win? Then you looked at porn and everything came crashing down.

Maybe you got to a BIG recovery milestone like 30-days porn free. Only to look at porn again on day 31.

Or you maybe relapsed, got current with your wife and accountability group. Reset. Felt stable. Then inexplicably relapsed the very next day.

You may have an "Upper Limit Problem."

In this episode, you learn:

- What an Upper Limit Problem is
- How it affects recovery
- What are the mistaken beliefs it is built on
- How to get past it

You'll also learn 2 awesome tips from the guys in REV Group Coaching. Plus I weigh in on Harvey Weinstein and the #MeToo hashtag phenomenon. 

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In this episode, I answer a common question from new listeners: "What is Self Care?"

In this episode you'll learn:

- What self care is
- Why it's important
- How self care is connected to needs
- What Maslow's theory is
- How to apply Maslow's theory to our recovery
- What Self-Actualization means and what characteristics self-actualized people have

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Hugh Hefner was a callous, con man. He created the myth of “the playboy.” A rich man, who lived in his pajamas, worshipped by beautiful women. He sold his myth like Phillip Morris sold the Marlboro Man.

It was sex without consequences. Where women give without taking and never grow old. And we bought into it one masturbation session at a time. 

In this episode, I discuss his legacy and the "obviously wicked and destructive things" he left behind.

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In the second of 2 episodes, I share my journey discovering the The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails.

- I share the final 3 steps you need to create your own plan
- Common ways guys get stuck
- And finally why this system doesn't fail

Part 1 is found in episode 127.

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On a recent writer's retreat I challenged myself to:

Capture the steps to being porn free (the actual steps)
Design a system that doesn't fail
Create a plan, that if followed, could work for anybody
In the first of 2 episodes, I share my journey discovering the The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails. I share the first two steps and explain why it took 11 years for me to go from step 1 to step 2.

It's 5 steps in all.

Part 2 is found in episode 128 and it contains the last 3 steps.

Enjoy.

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Back from a summer vacation with my family this week. I discuss traveling to Florida on I-75, Disney World, and getting sick.

Also some timely fantasy football talk.

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Sam Dobschuetz, Coach and Stay-At-Home Dad, visits the Pornfree Radio studio aka my basement. 

Sam coaches youth group pastors and has a passion for helping guys get out of isolation, find community, and healthy self care.

We talk about growing up, Sam's experience with porn, and what he has seen as a youth group pastor, and now a coach of youth group leaders.

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In this episode, I'll show you how to porn-proof your home today.

I share:

- the actual tools I use
- walk you through their set up
- some awesome strategies that PFR listeners are using to manage content filters

Also I share Gary Wilson's (from yourbrainonporn.com) response to episode 123.

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My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions. 

- Why do you say that porn addiction recovery has little to do with brain science?
- How do you know when you're ready to help someone else in recovery?
- How does porn affect dating?
- What do you do to battle food addiction? 
- And more!

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Several years ago I participated in a men's weekend. It was a deep-dive counseling intensive. I'll admit it, I did beat on a drum at one point during the three days. But it was an incredible experience.

On Friday night, we had to answer 3 questions before the other men. I present the 3 questions for you now. Use these, this week, to lock in and focus your recovery.

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In this episode, we discuss "The Hero's Journey" with Ben Fraser, film maker and creator of the Brick House Web Series about quitting porn.

Ben shares how he used the archetype of "The Hero" to reframe his experience of recovery. 

Ben joined us first in PFR 24. He is a frequent contributor  to Pornfree Radio and is  now the Coaching Coordinator for Sprint Coaching and REV Group Coaching. 

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Summer is here and it's a great time to talk about "School's Out Syndrome." It's that feeling we have on the last day of school.  A perverse freedom that comes in transition when we don't feel like we have any authority or rules.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- What "School's Out Syndrome" is
- Why it's a dangerous lie to us in recovery
- And 3 truths that counteract it

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If you have been at recovery for a while you have probably had a "roller coaster week."

It's where you have some good recovery activities and momentum, then a relapse. How do we make sense of these ups and downs?

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Coach and founder of Dirty Girl Ministries, Crystal Renaud, joins Pornfree Radio. In this episode, we discuss the importance of moving from away from negative labels (i.e. addict) in recovery.

Crystal also shares her own story out of porn addiction and her recovery experience as a woman of faith.

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How you're responding after a slip or a relapse can determine the long-term health of your recovery.

In this episode, I share 3 common mistakes I routinely made after relapses and what you can do to avoid them.

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We've all been there. Whether it's at the mall, the grocery store, or even at church, we have these nagging lustful thoughts that come out of nowhere.

Because of our history of porn use, we seem wired to sexualize people in our path.

In this episode, Matt is joined by Scott from the Thursday night REV Group.

We discuss real strategies you can use to deal with this pattern and find freedom.

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