Thu, 30 May 2019
We draw big conclusions from the type of we've looked at. Feelings like we are unique. We are disgusting or abnormal. But these are tricks of our ego to keep us stuck. https://recoveredman.com/197 The post 197 – What Does the Porn I Look At Say About Me? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Fri, 24 May 2019
In today's episode, I share what we can learn about recovery from the John Wick saga. Get access to my new audio series, Coffee with the Dobber, on Patreon. Link: The post 196 – John Wick Focus appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 16 May 2019
It's confession time on Porn Free Radio. My sobriety is intact, but I have been struggling with a mistaken belief in two areas of my life. And it's time to come clean. https://recoveredman.com/195 The post 195 – Mistaken Belief: If I Don’t Try, I Can’t Fail appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 9 May 2019
On today's episode, your questions...How do you rebound after edging? What's the connection with porn addiction and depression/anxiety? And a crazy topic, I have never discussed on Porn Free Radio plus more. https://recoveredman.com/194 The post 194 – How Do You Rebound After Edging? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 30 April 2019
In the second of 2 episodes, Matt finishes our discussion on the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by Cal Newport. https://recoveredman.com/192 The post 193 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Fri, 26 April 2019
In the first of 2 episodes, Matt digs into the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by author and Computer Science professor, Cal Newport. https://recoveredman.com/192 The post 192 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Sun, 24 March 2019
When we feel rejected we think, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody." Rejection is a huge trigger and can be an obstacle to healthy recovery. It keeps us isolated and alone. https://recoveredman.com/191 The post 191 – Rejection appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Fri, 1 March 2019
Need a boost? In this episode, you'll learn what a 7-day stretch goal is, why it's important, and how to set one. https://recoveredman.com/190 The post 190 – 7-Day Stretch Goals appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Fri, 22 February 2019
In episode 113 of PFR, a listener named Jon wrote, "I'm becoming the type of man who does not look at porn." This idea has connected with many listeners since it posted back in 2017. Today, I read a letter from Rob who shares his inspiration for becoming the type of man who does not look at porn. https://recoveredman.com/189 The post 189 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 13 February 2019
Hope Ray, therapist and partner specialist, returns to discuss recovery, relationships, and more. https://recoveredman.com/188 The post 188 – More Hope appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 24 January 2019
On this episode of Porn Free Radio, I open up my inbox and answer your questions: Should I get rid of anything that triggers me? If you’ve gone porn free for a few years before you get married do you have to tell your spouse about it? How much do I need to tell my wife after a slip? How do I help my (ex)boyfriend? What if I am addicted to something more addicting than porn alone? Help! I’m not sure what’s wrong with me… AND MORE. https://recoveredman.com/187 The post 187 – What I want to do, I can’t do. I do what I hate. appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Fri, 11 January 2019
Sometimes I focus on the struggle too much. It's hard walking in recovery. I want to be honest about that. But then I think what am I doing to kick ass in life? What excites me? What sparks joy? On today's show, we're talking about what it means to pursue a great life. https://recoveredman.com/186 The post 186 – Success Comes From 50% Recovery Work And 50% Kicking Ass In Life appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Fri, 4 January 2019
Most relapses start with edging. Edging is any unsound activity that mimics our old patterns with porn. In this episode, you'll learn to shift your thinking away from "this is not porn" mentality. https://recoveredman.com/185 The post 185 – How Successful Guys Overcome Edging appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Fri, 28 December 2018
in this episode, we continue our Successful Guys series. We talk about boredom, distraction, and why cultivating solitude is important for recovery. https://recoveredman.com/184 The post 184 – How Successful Guys Overcome Boredom appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Fri, 21 December 2018
Continuing our successful guys series, I offer 3 powerful ideas for overcoming relapsing. https://recoveredman.com/183 The post 183 – How Successful Guys Overcome Relapsing appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 13 December 2018
In this episode, we continue with our successful guys series by discussing shame. C.G. Jung called shame a "soul eating emotion.” It's the corrosive state where our failure and flaws come to define us. Where we see ourselves as broken and unable to change. https://recoveredman.com/182 The post 182 – How Successful Guys Overcome Shame appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 6 December 2018
You want to change your relationship and habits with porn. You want motivation to do what has to be done. https://recoveredman.com/181 The post 181 – How Successful Guys Overcome Lack of Motivation appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 29 November 2018
A lot of importance is placed on triggers in recovery. Almost too much. Because its really the craving we need to learn to deal with. https://recoveredman.com/180 The post 180 – How to Overcome Triggers And Craving appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 15 November 2018
Are you overwhelmed getting started going porn free? Or have you been in recovery, a while, and gotten bored? Maybe you've lost some focus or feel apathetic. Join Matt for a cup of coffee and a discussion about the psychological concept of Flow. You'll learn why staying in a state overwhelm or boredom is not good for your overall success, satisfaction, and happiness. https://recoveredman.com/179 The post 179 – Coffee with the Dobber: Flow appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 1 November 2018
In REV this week, I was asked to share my current plan. So my co-leader Jay and I went through Your PornFree Playbook and captured our current recovery plans. https://recoveredman.com/178 The post 178 – Matt, What’s Your Plan Look Like? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 24 October 2018
Brian, a PFR super fan, shares 10 quotes that impacted him from the podcast. He's joined by his accountability partner, Clay. Plus, you have to check out the original PFR song in this episode. It's amazing! https://recoveredman.com/177 The post 177 – Reservoir of Hope with Brian and Clay appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 17 October 2018
There's one thing you should know: there's a part of you that doesn't want to give up porn. It's your rebellious side that avoids responsibility and anything that feels like rules. But THIS podcast episode is made especially for that part of you. https://recoveredman.com/176 The post 176 – There’s A Part Of You That Doesn’t Want To Give Up Porn appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 11 October 2018
If you ever thought, " I just need someone to hold me accountable." OR "I really need a good accountability partner.", this episode if for you. https://recoveredman.com/175 The post 175 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 3: Accountability As Ownership appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 3 October 2018
Are you committed to being porn free? Let me see your calendar. What does your calendar show me about your commitment to recovery? On this episode, I share the principal of what gets scheduled is what gets done. https://recoveredman.com/174 The post 174 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 2: What Gets Scheduled Is What Gets Done appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 26 September 2018
After a relapse have you ever wondered. "why did I do that?" Regardless of who we are we are all driven to meet six human needs. The first four needs show up commonly in our relapses and struggles. The last two needs emerge in our healthy recovery. https://recoveredman.com/172 The post 173 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 1: Six Human Needs appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 13 September 2018
Have you ever thought, "Man, I'm hopeless..." Or "I'm not good with self-discipline..." Or when it comes to recovery, "If I can't do this perfect... I can't do it..." Maybe you have the thought that your brain is broken or the devil is out to get you. Or maybe deep down, you wonder, "If people really knew me they would be disgusted." If you have had those thoughts, you may have a B.S. problem. And here's the hard truth... you will never be porn free until you deal with your B.S. On today's episode, we talk all about... your B.S. https://recoveredman.com/172 The post 172 – Do You Have a B.S. Problem? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 29 August 2018
Noah Church joins me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Love People Use Things podcast. https://recoveredman.com/171 The post 171 – Love People Use Things with Noah Church appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 22 August 2018
Are you waiting for motivation to take action in your recovery? In today's episode, I talk about why motivation doesn't work. It's important, but not the thing that moves us forward. https://recoveredman.com/170 The post 170 – Are You Waiting For Motivation? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 15 August 2018
On this episode, I talk about my continued journey of transformation. If you're struggling with porn you need to listen. If you're struggling with porn AND your personal fitness - LISTEN TWICE. https://recoveredman.com/169 The post 169 – Are You Living Fully Alive? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 8 August 2018
Do you remember Pornfree Radio? On today's episode, we talk about why real recovery requires transformation and the 3 things we need to change. https://recoveredman.com/168 The post 168 – Real Recovery Requires Transformation appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 25 July 2018
On today's episode, I work out my porn free Philadelphia travel plan ahead of my trip to Podcast Movement 2018. http://recoveredman.com/167 The post 167 – My Porn Free Philadelphia Trip Plan appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 23 July 2018
Have you every felt hijacked by obsessive thinking or porn behaviors? You react impulsively to moments of opportunity over and over again. In this episode, we discuss how you can re-engineer your environment and the power of mindless recovery habits. http://recoveredman.com/166 The post 166 – Mindless Recovery appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 11 July 2018
It's BOGO Wednesday on Pornfree Radio. Two topics for the price of one. First up, I share a powerful tool you can use to get back on track after relapse. Second, I examine why we're tempted to disown our difficult stories in recovery, and why wholeness requires we integrate ALL of our experiences. http://recoveredman.com/165 The post 165 – Getting Back On Track After Relapse appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 9 July 2018
Years ago, I went on a men's weekend. The leader of the weekend, John, was fond of saying, "Decrease the hesitation gentlemen... men are waiting!" In the episode, I share the meaning of this phrase and how we can apply it in our recovery. http://recoveredman.com/164 The post 164 – Decrease the Hesitation… Men Are Waiting appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 28 June 2018
How long does it take to recover? It depends. Are you willing to do what it takes? In this episode, I share about 3 cliches in recovery and why pressing into discomfort is the path to substantial recovery. http://recoveredman.com/163 The post 163 – How Long Does It Take To Recover? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 20 June 2018
I discuss the way our mind plays tricks when we're in recovery. I share 5 common tricks we face and what the truth is. http://recoveredman.com/162 The post 162 – Mind Playing Tricks On Me appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 13 June 2018
This week is Father's Day in the United States and so we're talking about masculinity, specifically inspired masculinity. What it is and why is it important to our recovery. http://recoveredman.com/161 The post 161 – We all have an intense longing for inspired masculinity appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 6 June 2018
Jason George from The Griz Podcast visits PFR for 2nd of 2 episodes. In this episode, Jason shares his recovery journey and why men in ministry struggle with porn. http://recoveredman.com/160 The post 160 – Jason George “The Griz” Pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 30 May 2018
Jason George from The Griz Podcast visits PFR for 1 of 2 episodes. In this episode, Jason shares his early years, his struggle with pornography, and his spiritual awakening. http://recoveredman.com/159 The post 159 – Jason George “The Griz” Pt. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 23 May 2018
In part 3 of 3 Most Wanted topics, we talk specifically about your relationship status. I start by focusing on challenges the single man faces in recovery. Then I compare that with the challenges married men face. http://recoveredman.com/158 The post 158 – Most Wanted Pt. 3: Single vs. Married appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 16 May 2018
In part 2 of 3 Most Wanted topics, we examine how fetish addiction affects our goal of going porn free. In this episode, I explain the 4 stages of addiction as defined by Dr. A. Thomas Horvath. I also share 5 questions to engage your best thinking about how to deal with fetishes in your recovery. http://recoveredman.com/157 The post 157 – Most Wanted Pt. 2: Fetishes and Going Porn Free appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 10 May 2018
In part 1 of 3, Most Wanted topics, we examine how masturbation affects our goal of going porn free. Get full show notes: http://recoveredman.com/156 The post 156 – Most Wanted Pt. 1: Masturbation and Going Porn Free appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 2 May 2018
Pornfree Radio turns 4 years old this week. PFR Episode 001 launched 4/30/2014. Thousands of emails and 154 episodes later, we keep things going by discussing how addiction can be seen as an extreme version of habit. Full show notes: The post 155 – Overcoming Addiction appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 25 April 2018
Part 3 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 3 - day 90 and beyond. “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.” -Steven Pressfield, The War of Art http://recoveredman.com/154 The post 154 – Resistance In Recovery Pt. 3 – 90 Days Plus appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 18 April 2018
Part 2 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 2, days 31-90. “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.” -Steven Pressfield, The War of Art http://recoveredman.com/153 The post 153 – Resistance In Recovery Pt. 2 – Days 31-90 appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 11 April 2018
Part 1 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 1, the first 30 days. “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.” -Steven Pressfield, The War of Art http://recoveredman.com/152 The post 152 – Resistance In Recovery Pt. 1: First 30 Days appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 4 April 2018
"I did something I did not expect myself to do last night," Andrew, a PFR listener wrote in. "I was up far too late, and could not go to sleep because I had this unsettling feeling in my body. I knew what I had to do..." You won't believe what he did! http://recoveredman.com/151 The post 151 – Up Late. Can’t Sleep. Uh-oh! appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 28 March 2018
In part 2 of 2 episodes, I share recovery insights from Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday. (2016. In this episode, I focus on how ego affects guys at 3 different stages of recovery. Get the full show notes here: The post 150 – Ego Is The Enemy Pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 21 March 2018
In part 1 of 2 episodes, I share a book I am reading called, Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday. I discuss how ego has influenced both my addiction and recovery. Get the full show notes here: The post 149 – Ego Is The Enemy Pt. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 14 March 2018
Long time listener and fan of the show Will asks, "what episodes would you recommend for new listeners?" Here's my take on the “Top 5” greatest hits. Get the full show notes here: The post 148 – Greatest Hits of Pornfree Radio Vol. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 7 March 2018
In part 2 of 2 episodes, we continue to discuss Working At Home Without Relapsing. I share the 3 biggest threats to staying porn free while working at home. Then I share tools to deal with each threat contributed by Pornfree Radio listeners. http://recoveredman.com/147
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Wed, 28 February 2018
Just curious... have you ever had to work from home? Maybe you have a flexible schedule that allows you to work at home. Or maybe it's a snow day or your home sick from work. Is that a threat? Is it a challenge for you to stay porn free? In part 1 of 2 episodes, we discuss how to work at home without relapsing. |
Wed, 21 February 2018
With the podcast's emphasis on personal responsibility, it's easy to think the goal of recovery work is self-reliance. That in order to be strong we need to become emotionally self-reliant. But this undermines our recovery work and delays emotional healing. In this episode, I discuss the true goal of recovery. Contribute to Pornfree Radio in 2018! I'm committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018. And over 40 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us. Show Notes Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 145 – Isn’t Self-Reliance the Goal of Recovery? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 14 February 2018
Your recovery is NOT your relationship and your relationship is NOT your recovery. On this special Valentine's Day episode, I explain the common confusion guys have with recovery work and their primary relationships. This episode is aimed at anyone in a relationship or who wants to be. Contribute to Pornfree Radio in 2018! I'm committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018. And over 36 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us. Show Notes Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 144 – Your Recovery Is Not Your Relationship… appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 7 February 2018
It's Wednesday! On today's episode, I share Dave's 5 mistaken beliefs about porn. Dave was featured in PFR 138 when he reached the 2-year porn free milestone. Earlier this week, he shared 5 mistaken beliefs he had with porn. I asked for his permission to share them with you now. 1.) The next change in my life will make it easier to quit porn. Contribute to Pornfree Radio in 2018! I'm committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018. And over 35 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us. Show Notes Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 143 – Dave’s 5 Mistaken Beliefs About Porn appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 31 January 2018
On today's episode, we follow the partner's journey. Lori and Jay Pyatt share their story of navigating porn addiction, betrayal, and recovery as a couple. Lori mentors women who are healing from effects of their husband's porn addiction and trauma. Jay works with men in recovery from porn addiction. Both Lori and Jay are BraveHearts Certified Mentors™ and offer couple mentoring as well. Contribute to Pornfree Radio Each Month Show Notes Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 142 – Your Porn. Her Pain. How Partners Heal w/ Lori and Jay Pyatt appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 24 January 2018
When does quitting porn get easier? Really? I get asked this all the time by listeners. This past week, marked 7 years porn free for me. In this episode, I share 12 milestones that happened on my journey after which things got easier. You'll learn: - My new commitment for 2018 Contribute to Pornfree Radio Each Month Thanks for all your contributions. You donated over $3000 to Pornfree Radio in 2017! Thanks helping get this message out each week. SEE YOU NEXT WEDNESDAY!!!!!! Show Notes Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 141 – When does quitting porn get easier? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 10 January 2018
Which came first? My intense sexual curiosity or porn exposure? In this episode, I explore my early days of porn exposure and a new realization I had this week. Show Notes Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Contibute to Pornfree Radio Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 140 – My Amazing Porn Discovery! appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 2 January 2018
Recorded live on January 1, 2018. Grab your coffee (or hot beverage of choice) as we welcome in 2018 porn free! In this episode: - 5 Resolutions You Can Keep This Year Show Notes REV Group Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Contibute to Pornfree Radio Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 139 – Pornfree Radio Live! New Years Day appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 26 December 2017
In this final episode for 2017, Pornfree Radio listeners share their milestones, thank-yous, favorite artists, and more. Show Notes REV Group Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Contibute to Pornfree Radio Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 138 – Thank You For 2 Years Porn Free appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 19 December 2017
Do you struggle making time for self care? Do you suck at being creative? In today's episode, we break down 15 self care habits that take 5 minutes of less. Now it's prescriptive- I try to match your problem or need to a corresponding habit. And my hope is this will inspire your own creativity to see what's possible in recovery. Show Notes Porn Free This Year - NEW! Get my free video training here. Build your recovery plan and go porn free in 2018. Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Contibute to Pornfree Radio Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 137 – 5-Minute Self Care Habits appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 12 December 2017
On this episode of Pornfree Radio we discuss a topic we've never discussed before: Purity. An unlikely subject for a podcast devoted to skipping Christian cliches about pornography and lust. And yet I was compelled to share because of amazing interview I heard with Christopher West on the Integrity Restored podcast, episode 56. You may re-think your definition of "Purity" when you hear this episode. Porn Free This Year - NEW! Get my free video training here. Build your recovery plan and go porn free in 2018. Show Notes Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Contibute to Pornfree Radio Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 136 – Looking At A Woman And Not Seeing appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 4 December 2017
Michael Leahy, author of Porn Nation, joins Pornfree Radio to discuss his journey out of porn and sex addiction. Michael is the CEO and founder of BraveHearts a faith-based mentoring organization for men recovering from porn and sex addiction. Michael also shares about his upcoming Breaking Free Virtual Summit. Presenting 40+ speakers over 10 days. December 10-19, 2017. Buy the Summit All-Access Pass or attend for free (Sessions are only available for 48 hours.) Show Notes Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Contibute to Pornfree Radio Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 135 – Breaking Free with Michael Leahy, Author and CEO of BraveHearts appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 28 November 2017
Part 3 of 3 in our series on Motivation examines the unpacks the ONE thing you need to take action. Motivation as we have discussed is triggered by making choices but how do we focus our action. In this episode, you learn: - What the ONE thing is Show Notes Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Contibute to Pornfree Radio Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 134 – Motivation Pt. 3: The ONE Thing appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 20 November 2017
Part 2 of 3 in our series on Motivation examines the concept of an internal locus of control found in Smarter Faster Better by Charles Duhigg. We build on this idea and unpack how motivation is triggered by making choices that demonstrate we are in control. In this episode, you learn: - What is the locus of control Show Notes Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Contibute to Pornfree Radio Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 133 – Motivation Pt. 2: Internal Locus of Control appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 13 November 2017
Part 1 of 3 in our series on Motivation starts with The Myth Of Self Discipline found in Gary Keller's book The ONE Thing. In this episode, you learn: - Why you don't need more discipline than you already have Show Notes Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Contibute to Pornfree Radio Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 132 – Motivation Pt. 1: The Myth of Self Discipline appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 19 October 2017
Have you ever had something good happen in your life? A promotion? A birthday party? A big win? Then you looked at porn and everything came crashing down. Maybe you got to a BIG recovery milestone like 30-days porn free. Only to look at porn again on day 31. Or you maybe relapsed, got current with your wife and accountability group. Reset. Felt stable. Then inexplicably relapsed the very next day. You may have an "Upper Limit Problem." In this episode, you learn: - What an Upper Limit Problem is You'll also learn 2 awesome tips from the guys in REV Group Coaching. Plus I weigh in on Harvey Weinstein and the #MeToo hashtag phenomenon. Show Notes Contibute to Pornfree Radio Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 131 – Things were going so well and then you looked at porn again!?! appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 10 October 2017
In this episode, I answer a common question from new listeners: "What is Self Care?" In this episode you'll learn: - What self care is Show Notes Contibute to Pornfree Radio Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 130 – Back 2 Basics: What Is Self Care? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 3 October 2017
Hugh Hefner was a callous, con man. He created the myth of “the playboy.” A rich man, who lived in his pajamas, worshipped by beautiful women. He sold his myth like Phillip Morris sold the Marlboro Man. It was sex without consequences. Where women give without taking and never grow old. And we bought into it one masturbation session at a time. In this episode, I discuss his legacy and the "obviously wicked and destructive things" he left behind. Show Notes Contibute to Pornfree Radio Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 129 – The 7 Lies of Hugh Hefner appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 26 September 2017
In the second of 2 episodes, I share my journey discovering the The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails. - I share the final 3 steps you need to create your own plan Part 1 is found in episode 127. Show Notes Contibute to Pornfree Radio Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 128 – The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails Pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Fri, 22 September 2017
On a recent writer's retreat I challenged myself to: Capture the steps to being porn free (the actual steps) It's 5 steps in all. Part 2 is found in episode 128 and it contains the last 3 steps. Enjoy. Show Notes Contibute to Pornfree Radio Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 127 – The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails Pt. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 6 September 2017
Back from a summer vacation with my family this week. I discuss traveling to Florida on I-75, Disney World, and getting sick. Also some timely fantasy football talk. Free Webinar: The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails w/ Matt Dobschuetz Show Notes Contibute to Pornfree Radio Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 126 – Road Trip: Porn on I-75 appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Fri, 18 August 2017
Sam Dobschuetz, Coach and Stay-At-Home Dad, visits the Pornfree Radio studio aka my basement. Sam coaches youth group pastors and has a passion for helping guys get out of isolation, find community, and healthy self care. We talk about growing up, Sam's experience with porn, and what he has seen as a youth group pastor, and now a coach of youth group leaders. Show Notes Contibute to Pornfree Radio Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 125 – Know You’re Not Alone w/ Sam Dobschuetz appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 8 August 2017
In this episode, I'll show you how to porn-proof your home today. I share: - the actual tools I use Also I share Gary Wilson's (from yourbrainonporn.com) response to episode 123. Show Notes Contibute to Pornfree Radio Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 124 – How To Porn-Proof Your Home appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 31 July 2017
My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions. - Why do you say that porn addiction recovery has little to do with brain science? Show Notes Contibute to Pornfree Radio Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 123 – Start Before You’re Ready appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 20 July 2017
Several years ago I participated in a men's weekend. It was a deep-dive counseling intensive. I'll admit it, I did beat on a drum at one point during the three days. But it was an incredible experience. On Friday night, we had to answer 3 questions before the other men. I present the 3 questions for you now. Use these, this week, to lock in and focus your recovery. Show Notes Contibute to Pornfree Radio Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 122 – 3 Questions To Laser Focus Your Recovery This Week appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Sun, 9 July 2017
In this episode, we discuss "The Hero's Journey" with Ben Fraser, film maker and creator of the Brick House Web Series about quitting porn. Ben shares how he used the archetype of "The Hero" to reframe his experience of recovery. Ben joined us first in PFR 24. He is a frequent contributor to Pornfree Radio and is now the Coaching Coordinator for Sprint Coaching and REV Group Coaching. Show Notes Contibute to Pornfree Radio Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 121 The Hero’s Journey with Ben Fraser appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 19 June 2017
Summer is here and it's a great time to talk about "School's Out Syndrome." It's that feeling we have on the last day of school. A perverse freedom that comes in transition when we don't feel like we have any authority or rules. In this episode, you'll learn: - What "School's Out Syndrome" is REV Group Coaching Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 120 – School’s Out Syndrome appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 5 June 2017
If you have been at recovery for a while you have probably had a "roller coaster week." It's where you have some good recovery activities and momentum, then a relapse. How do we make sense of these ups and downs? REV Group Coaching 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 119 – Riding the Recovery Roller Coaster appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 30 May 2017
Coach and founder of Dirty Girl Ministries, Crystal Renaud, joins Pornfree Radio. In this episode, we discuss the importance of moving from away from negative labels (i.e. addict) in recovery. Crystal also shares her own story out of porn addiction and her recovery experience as a woman of faith. REV Group Coaching 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 118 – Redefining Identity with Crystal Renaud appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 23 May 2017
How you're responding after a slip or a relapse can determine the long-term health of your recovery. In this episode, I share 3 common mistakes I routinely made after relapses and what you can do to avoid them. Get Access: Free Webinar - Monday May 29th REV Group Coaching 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 117 – 3 Common Mistakes Guys Make After A Relapse appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 16 May 2017
We've all been there. Whether it's at the mall, the grocery store, or even at church, we have these nagging lustful thoughts that come out of nowhere. Because of our history of porn use, we seem wired to sexualize people in our path. In this episode, Matt is joined by Scott from the Thursday night REV Group. We discuss real strategies you can use to deal with this pattern and find freedom. REV Group Coaching 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 116 – How To Deal With Pornographic Thoughts in Public appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 8 May 2017
In this episode, I go off the dome, and respond to critical feedback from two listeners. Warning: I get fired up. The post 115 – Warning: Matt Gets Fired Up appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 4 May 2017
I get a lot of questions these days about Smart Phones and Smart TVs. Networked internet devices are the norm now. But they can also be a big threat to our sobriety. In this episode, I share a powerful metaphor you can use when making decisions about smart devices and how they fit with your recovery goals. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 114 – Smart Phones, Smart TVs, and Whatever Comes Next appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 25 April 2017
On this week's episode, I share an a-ha moment from a PFR listener. Jon shares how he's gotten to 81 days porn and masturbation free by making daily investment building his character. He writes, "I am inhabiting a place of becoming the type of man that does not look at porn. Instead of; practicing behaviors that keep me from looking at porn." 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 113 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 5 April 2017
Are you avoiding failure in your life? Are you trying to escape negative thoughts, feelings, or emotions? This pattern of avoidance could be fueling your porn addiction and at the same time thwarting your recovery. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 112 – Avoiding Failure appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 28 March 2017
Hope Ray is back! In this episode, we discuss the top 3 lies that partners believe when their husbands or boyfriend's struggle with porn. Hope first joined us in episodes 70 and 74 of Pornfree Radio. She specializes in working with partners and couples who are healing from the effects of porn and sex addiction. Free Download from Hope REV Group Coaching Application 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 111 – The Top 3 Lies Partners Believe with Hope Ray appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 20 March 2017
In this episode, I unpack the good and bad news about hitting rock bottom. The bad news is few people will be able to porn free unless they have hit rock bottom. I also answer two burning questions from listeners. REV Group Coaching Application 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 110 – Do I have to hit rock bottom to recover? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 13 March 2017
My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions: - Are there any porn free sexual acts? ... and more! REV Group Coaching 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 109 – What we live for is more important than what we give up appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 8 March 2017
In this episode, we open the Pornfree mail bag, read your letters and answer questions like: - Any suggestions for parents of someone who doesn't seem to want to fight to be porn free? Register Now for REV Group Coaching Sign up for Build a 7-Day Porn Free Plan Webinar (March 13) 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 108 – 110 Days Porn Free While Studying For The Bar Exam appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 1 March 2017
In this episode, you'll learn how to create a hyper focused 7-day porn free recovery plan. This continues our "Back 2 Basics" series targeted at new listeners. "To go porn free for a month, you have to go porn free for a week." 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 107 – Back 2 Basics: The 7-Day Porn Free Plan appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 20 February 2017
Continuing our Back 2 Basics series, we review the tool of F.A.S.T.T. check-ins. This structured check-in process will anchor your recovery each week and improve your success. This check-in format comes from Dr. Milton Magness. Its original use was for sex addicts and their partners after disclosure. However F.A.S.T.T. Check-ins provide a great framework for any kind of ongoing accountability. The components of a F.A.S.T.T. Check-in include: - Feelings 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 106 – Back 2 Basics: F.A.S.T.T. Check-Ins appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 13 February 2017
How can we measure the health of our recovery daily? In this episode, I share a new tool for daily recovery tracking that was inspired by the National Hockey League (NHL). Download Daily Recovery Tracking Calendar here: 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 105 – Back 2 Basics: Daily Tracking appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Thu, 9 February 2017
In this uncut, unedited episode of Pornfree Radio, I share 5 things that help me deal with depression. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 104 – How To Deal With Depression appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Wed, 25 January 2017
Do you want to jumpstart your recovery this week? Take massive action. Matt is joined by Steve, a Pornfree Radio listener, who took 10 actions last week and shares each of them here. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 103 – How To Take Massive Action appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 16 January 2017
On my 6th anniversary of being porn free, I answer 2 recent questions; "How do you sustain long-term sobriety?" and "What does the struggle look like for you now?" 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 102 – How Do You Sustain Long-Term Sobriety? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Tue, 10 January 2017
In 1939, the most important recovery book of all time was written. It has sold more than 30 million copies! However you won't find it when searching for "porn addiction" on Amazon. And chances are you have never read it. But it's a powerful recovery document and should be part of every guy's toolbox. In this episode, you'll learn: - About the "Big Book" 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 101 – The Most Important Recovery Book You’ve Never Read appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 2 January 2017
Celebrating 100 episodes of Pornfree Radio by putting the focus on you the listener. On this episode... Ben, a listener from the Pacific Northwest, joins Pornfree Radio and shares his story. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 100 – Nice to meet you, I’m addicted to porn appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 26 December 2016
My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions: - How do I start to feel again? ... and more! REV Group Coaching 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 099 – How do I start to feel again? appeared first on Recovered Man. |
Mon, 19 December 2016
In this episode, we open the Pornfree mail bag, read your letters and answer questions like: - Do you have any tips for finding a group? REV Group Coaching 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt Contribute to Pornfree Radio Show Notes Facebook Twitter Google+ FEEDBACK Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 098 – Do you have any tips for finding a group? appeared first on Recovered Man. |