Recorded live on January 1, 2018. Grab your coffee (or hot beverage of choice) as we welcome in 2018 porn free!

In this episode:

- 5 Resolutions You Can Keep This Year
- A brave listener is interviewed about his January sprint plan
- Q&A

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/139

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In this final episode for 2017, Pornfree Radio listeners share their milestones, thank-yous, favorite artists, and more.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/138

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Do you struggle making time for self care?

Do you suck at being creative?

In today's episode, we break down 15 self care habits that take 5 minutes of less.

Now it's prescriptive- I try to match your problem or need to a corresponding habit.  And my hope is this will inspire your own creativity to see what's possible in recovery.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/137

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On this episode of Pornfree Radio we discuss a topic we've never discussed before: Purity. An unlikely subject for a podcast devoted to skipping Christian cliches about pornography and lust.

And yet I was compelled to share because of amazing interview I heard with Christopher West on the Integrity Restored podcast, episode 56.

You may re-think your definition of "Purity" when you hear this episode.

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Michael Leahy, author of Porn Nation, joins Pornfree Radio to discuss his journey out of porn and sex addiction. Michael is the CEO and founder of BraveHearts a faith-based mentoring organization for men recovering from porn and sex addiction.

Michael also shares about his upcoming Breaking Free Virtual Summit. Presenting 40+ speakers over 10 days. December 10-19, 2017.

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Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/135

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Part 3 of 3 in our series on Motivation examines the unpacks the ONE thing you need to take action.

Motivation as we have discussed is triggered by making choices but how do we focus our action.

In this episode, you learn:

- What the ONE thing is
- How you can use a focusing question to determine your next action
- A simple strategy to take action this week on your biggest problem with porn

Get the full show notes here:
https://recoveredman.com/134

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Part 2 of 3 in our series on Motivation examines the concept of an internal locus of control found in Smarter Faster Better by Charles Duhigg.

We build on this idea and unpack how motivation is triggered by making choices that demonstrate we are in control.

In this episode, you learn:

- What is the locus of control
- What is the difference between an internal and external locus of control
- Why training is helpful with motivation
- How motivation is triggered by choices that demonstrate we are in control
- Why it's important to tie something meaningful to your habits

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/133

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Part 1 of 3 in our series on Motivation starts with The Myth Of Self Discipline found in Gary Keller's book The ONE Thing.

In this episode, you learn:

- Why you don't need more discipline than you already have
- What "disciplined" people actually have
- What you need to choose get more control in your life
- Why willpower is like your mobile phone
- The best way to build habits

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/132

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Have you ever had something good happen in your life? A promotion? A birthday party? A big win? Then you looked at porn and everything came crashing down.

Maybe you got to a BIG recovery milestone like 30-days porn free. Only to look at porn again on day 31.

Or you maybe relapsed, got current with your wife and accountability group. Reset. Felt stable. Then inexplicably relapsed the very next day.

You may have an "Upper Limit Problem."

In this episode, you learn:

- What an Upper Limit Problem is
- How it affects recovery
- What are the mistaken beliefs it is built on
- How to get past it

You'll also learn 2 awesome tips from the guys in REV Group Coaching. Plus I weigh in on Harvey Weinstein and the #MeToo hashtag phenomenon. 

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/131

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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In this episode, I answer a common question from new listeners: "What is Self Care?"

In this episode you'll learn:

- What self care is
- Why it's important
- How self care is connected to needs
- What Maslow's theory is
- How to apply Maslow's theory to our recovery
- What Self-Actualization means and what characteristics self-actualized people have

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/130

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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Hugh Hefner was a callous, con man. He created the myth of “the playboy.” A rich man, who lived in his pajamas, worshipped by beautiful women. He sold his myth like Phillip Morris sold the Marlboro Man.

It was sex without consequences. Where women give without taking and never grow old. And we bought into it one masturbation session at a time. 

In this episode, I discuss his legacy and the "obviously wicked and destructive things" he left behind.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/129

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In the second of 2 episodes, I share my journey discovering the The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails.

- I share the final 3 steps you need to create your own plan
- Common ways guys get stuck
- And finally why this system doesn't fail

Part 1 is found in episode 127.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/128

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On a recent writer's retreat I challenged myself to:

Capture the steps to being porn free (the actual steps)
Design a system that doesn't fail
Create a plan, that if followed, could work for anybody
In the first of 2 episodes, I share my journey discovering the The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails. I share the first two steps and explain why it took 11 years for me to go from step 1 to step 2.

It's 5 steps in all.

Part 2 is found in episode 128 and it contains the last 3 steps.

Enjoy.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/127

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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Back from a summer vacation with my family this week. I discuss traveling to Florida on I-75, Disney World, and getting sick.

Also some timely fantasy football talk.

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Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/126

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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Sam Dobschuetz, Coach and Stay-At-Home Dad, visits the Pornfree Radio studio aka my basement. 

Sam coaches youth group pastors and has a passion for helping guys get out of isolation, find community, and healthy self care.

We talk about growing up, Sam's experience with porn, and what he has seen as a youth group pastor, and now a coach of youth group leaders.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/125

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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In this episode, I'll show you how to porn-proof your home today.

I share:

- the actual tools I use
- walk you through their set up
- some awesome strategies that PFR listeners are using to manage content filters

Also I share Gary Wilson's (from yourbrainonporn.com) response to episode 123.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/124

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions. 

- Why do you say that porn addiction recovery has little to do with brain science?
- How do you know when you're ready to help someone else in recovery?
- How does porn affect dating?
- What do you do to battle food addiction? 
- And more!

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/123

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Several years ago I participated in a men's weekend. It was a deep-dive counseling intensive. I'll admit it, I did beat on a drum at one point during the three days. But it was an incredible experience.

On Friday night, we had to answer 3 questions before the other men. I present the 3 questions for you now. Use these, this week, to lock in and focus your recovery.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/122

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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In this episode, we discuss "The Hero's Journey" with Ben Fraser, film maker and creator of the Brick House Web Series about quitting porn.

Ben shares how he used the archetype of "The Hero" to reframe his experience of recovery. 

Ben joined us first in PFR 24. He is a frequent contributor  to Pornfree Radio and is  now the Coaching Coordinator for Sprint Coaching and REV Group Coaching. 

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/121

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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Summer is here and it's a great time to talk about "School's Out Syndrome." It's that feeling we have on the last day of school.  A perverse freedom that comes in transition when we don't feel like we have any authority or rules.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- What "School's Out Syndrome" is
- Why it's a dangerous lie to us in recovery
- And 3 truths that counteract it

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If you have been at recovery for a while you have probably had a "roller coaster week."

It's where you have some good recovery activities and momentum, then a relapse. How do we make sense of these ups and downs?

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Coach and founder of Dirty Girl Ministries, Crystal Renaud, joins Pornfree Radio. In this episode, we discuss the importance of moving from away from negative labels (i.e. addict) in recovery.

Crystal also shares her own story out of porn addiction and her recovery experience as a woman of faith.

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How you're responding after a slip or a relapse can determine the long-term health of your recovery.

In this episode, I share 3 common mistakes I routinely made after relapses and what you can do to avoid them.

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We've all been there. Whether it's at the mall, the grocery store, or even at church, we have these nagging lustful thoughts that come out of nowhere.

Because of our history of porn use, we seem wired to sexualize people in our path.

In this episode, Matt is joined by Scott from the Thursday night REV Group.

We discuss real strategies you can use to deal with this pattern and find freedom.

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https://recoveredman.com/116

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In this episode, I go off the dome, and respond to critical feedback from two listeners.

Warning: I get fired up.

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https://recoveredman.com/115

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I get a lot of questions these days about Smart Phones and Smart TVs. Networked internet devices are the norm now. But they can also be a big threat to our sobriety.

In this episode, I share a powerful metaphor you can use when making decisions about smart devices and how they fit with your recovery goals.

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On this week's episode, I share an a-ha moment from a PFR listener. Jon shares how he's gotten to 81 days porn and masturbation free by making daily investment building his character.

He writes, "I am inhabiting a place of becoming the type of man that does not look at porn. Instead of; practicing behaviors that keep me from looking at porn."

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Get the full show notes here:

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The post 113 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn appeared first on Recovered Man.

Are you avoiding failure in your life? Are you trying to escape negative thoughts, feelings, or emotions?

This pattern of avoidance could be fueling your porn addiction and at the same time thwarting your recovery.

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Hope Ray is back! In this episode, we discuss the top 3 lies that partners believe when their husbands or boyfriend's struggle with porn.

Hope first joined us in episodes 70 and 74 of Pornfree Radio. She specializes in working with partners and couples who are healing from the effects of porn and sex addiction.

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In this episode, I unpack the good and bad news about hitting rock bottom.

The bad news is few people will be able to porn free unless they have hit rock bottom.
But I also have some really good news...

I also answer two burning questions from listeners.

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The post 110 – Do I have to hit rock bottom to recover? appeared first on Recovered Man.

My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions:

- Are there any porn free sexual acts?
- Do you have any advice or specific tips for those of us who wrestle with same-sex pornography?
- How can I move forward with abstinent dating?
- Help! I've been struggling to find a decent consequence for relapse.
- Is it unreasonable for me to want to see my boyfriend's phone?
- What to do with extreme temptation?

... and more!

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In this episode, we open the Pornfree mail bag, read your letters and answer questions like:

- Any suggestions for parents of someone who doesn't seem to want to fight to be porn free?
- Do you have any advice for a depressed, porn-addicted teenager?
- How can a recovering porn addict can engage in good self care at different phases of life?
- Is it normal to be scared to give up porn?
- How should Christians think about participation in a 12-step program alongside their faith practice?

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The post 108 – 110 Days Porn Free While Studying For The Bar Exam appeared first on Recovered Man.

In this episode, you'll learn how to create a hyper focused 7-day porn free recovery plan. This continues our "Back 2 Basics" series targeted at new listeners.

"To go porn free for a month, you have to go porn free for a week."

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The post 107 – Back 2 Basics: The 7-Day Porn Free Plan appeared first on Recovered Man.

Continuing our Back 2 Basics series, we review the tool of F.A.S.T.T. check-ins. This structured check-in process will anchor your recovery each week and improve your success.

This check-in format comes from Dr. Milton Magness. Its original use was for sex addicts and their partners after disclosure. However F.A.S.T.T. Check-ins provide a great framework for any kind of ongoing accountability.

The components of a F.A.S.T.T. Check-in include:

- Feelings
- Activities in Recovery
- Slip Report (or Sobriety Check)
- Threats
- Tools

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How can we measure the health of our recovery daily?

In this episode, I share a new tool for daily recovery tracking that was inspired by the National Hockey League (NHL).

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The post 105 – Back 2 Basics: Daily Tracking appeared first on Recovered Man.

In this uncut, unedited episode of Pornfree Radio, I share 5 things that help me deal with depression.

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The post 104 – How To Deal With Depression appeared first on Recovered Man.

Do you want to jumpstart your recovery this week? Take massive action.

Matt is joined by Steve, a Pornfree Radio listener, who took 10 actions last week and shares each of them here.

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The post 103 – How To Take Massive Action appeared first on Recovered Man.

On my 6th anniversary of being porn free, I answer 2 recent questions; "How do you sustain long-term sobriety?" and "What does the struggle look like for you now?"

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The post 102 – How Do You Sustain Long-Term Sobriety? appeared first on Recovered Man.

In 1939, the most important recovery book of all time was written. It has sold more than 30 million copies!

However you won't find it when searching for "porn addiction" on Amazon.

And chances are you have never read it. But it's a powerful recovery document and should be part of every guy's toolbox.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- About the "Big Book"
- Why and for who it was written
- How the allergy of the body and obsession of the mind leads to powerlessness
- What it means to us as we recover from porn addiction

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The post 101 – The Most Important Recovery Book You’ve Never Read appeared first on Recovered Man.

Celebrating 100 episodes of Pornfree Radio by putting the focus on you the listener.

On this episode... Ben, a listener from the Pacific Northwest, joins Pornfree Radio and shares his story.

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The post 100 – Nice to meet you, I’m addicted to porn appeared first on Recovered Man.

My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions:

- How do I start to feel again?
- How do you address incognito with browsers?
- Help! I'm a big sports fan and when my team loses, I relapse
- Do you have any advice for me on how to pick up the phone?
- Do you have any insight regarding the inevitable progression of the disease?
- How did your wife get past the betrayal?
- My accountability partner is not being honest...

... and more!

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The post 099 – How do I start to feel again? appeared first on Recovered Man.

In this episode, we open the Pornfree mail bag, read your letters and answer questions like:

- Do you have any tips for finding a group?
- How long is a reasonable time to think about opening myself up for possible dating?
- How honest is too honest especially this early in our romantic relationship?
- Guys keep dropping out of my recovery group, Help!
- If he doesn't believe he has a porn addiction despite my objection and pain ... do I just have no choice but to divorce?
- If you’re really about helping everyone... why are all your paid-for products so expensive?
- My accountability partner fell of the wagon, what do I do?
- My dad struggles with porn also, how can I help?
- My wife won't have sex with me. Now what?

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The post 098 – Do you have any tips for finding a group? appeared first on Recovered Man.

Pornography is a habit that is practiced in isolation and in secret. Isn't it just common sense that to break that habit you need others?

This is part 3 of our 3-part series for going porn free in 2017.

You'll learn:

- Why you need a tribe to recover
- Why committing to a group is the single most powerful action you can take to go porn free
- The 7 benefits of being in a strong recovery group

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The post 097 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 3: Your Tribe appeared first on Recovered Man.

"Winners anticipate, losers react."
- Tony Robbins.

Listeners who have had success listening to Pornfree Radio have one thing in common. They have a plan. A custom recovery plan is essential to getting free from porn addiction.

This is part 2 of our 3-part series for going porn free in 2017.

You'll learn:

- Why motivation is an exhaustible resource
- Why anticipation beats reaction
- The 8 components of a strong recovery plan

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The post 096 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 2: Your Plan appeared first on Recovered Man.

You need to know why you are eliminating porn from your life. The more clear you are, the better.

It can't just be for your wife, your faith, your family, your job, etc. You have all those things now and you're still stuck.

This is the first of 3 episodes on going porn free in 2017.

You'll learn:

- Why uncovering your true desire is essential to get free
- The difference between external and internal motivation
- A powerful exercise to reveal your why

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The post 095 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 1: Your Why appeared first on Recovered Man.

In this episode, we talk about... Goal Setting. For years goal setting was something I resisted. But in recovery it's become a growing strength.

Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series sits in.

You'll learn:

- Why setting goals matter and why it's essential to your recovery.
- What it means to be a lazy perfectionist?
- The 4 keys for follow through that doesn't suck (My Slacker's Guide To Accomplishing Goals.)

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The post 094 – My Intentions Are Good, But My Follow Through Sucks appeared first on Recovered Man.

How does a morning routine help keep you porn free? That and more are the focus of this episode. Ben Fraser from the Brick House web series sits in.

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The post 093 – Back 2 Basics: Morning Routine appeared first on Recovered Man.

A topic that keeps coming up is edging. Edging are the little behaviors that mimic our old ways of acting out.

Hashtags, images searches, channel surfing, second looks, all fall into this category. They seem innocent compared to our old addiction. But they can spell trouble.

Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series sits in and shares his thoughts.

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The post 092 – Back 2 Basics: Edging appeared first on Recovered Man.

Matt shares a tool he has been using recently in 1-on-1 coaching to help clients identify the primary feelings in their life.

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The post 091 – The Feeling Wheel appeared first on Recovered Man.

"Matt, I'm not perfect. But you know what I am good at? Not relapsing."

One of my friends, with many years of sobriety, once told me this. The secret is what you do when you start getting shaky.

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The post 090 – I’m Not Perfect…But I’m Good At Not Relapsing appeared first on Recovered Man.

Alex Lerza from rTribe visits Pornfree Radio and shares why connection is the opposite of addiction. Alex by training is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. His work as a therapist has come out of his own recovery.

His journey led him to create an app in 2015, with fellow therapist, Josh Kalsbeek, to help people recover for porn addiction. rTribe is a social recovery app for porn and sex addiction. It connects thousands of people each day who are working on recovery from porn. Download the app or visit rTribe.org for more information.

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The post 089 – Social Recovery with Alex Lerza from rTribe appeared first on Recovered Man.

When looking for help with porn addiction, books seem like a safe way to learn. Especially when ordered online. But what do the search results from Amazon.com tell us about our porn addiction?

I saw some common themes in the books represented. I break down 3 types of the porn addiction books and ask the question: Do they help us recover or are they an excuse for not taking action?

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The post 088 – What I Found When I Searched for “Porn Addiction” on Amazon.com appeared first on Recovered Man.

Whether you're new to Pornfree Radio or have been listening from the beginning, there's a common journey we share.

We all start divided with an external life we show people and a hidden life where our addiction lives. Our ultimate goal is to be whole. To have the inside and outside match.

But how do we get there?

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The post 087 – A Man Divided Cannot Stand appeared first on Recovered Man.

What's missing in recovery? YOU.

Are you showing up? Are you supporting others? Do you know the value of your presence? In this episode, we discuss why everyone should be in a group.

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The post 086 Missing In Action appeared first on Recovered Man.

A year into my recovery, I attended the worst men's group ever. Nobody was having much success and I felt worse going home then when I got there.

In this episode, I share what was missing and how you can revive a struggling group.

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The post 085 The Worst Men’s Group Ever appeared first on Recovered Man.

In episode 75, I shared 5 lies that keep us coming back to porn. This was one of our most downloaded podcasts of the summer.

On a recent Reddit thread, I posted the original 5 lies and users contributed more lies in the comments.

In this episode, I share the lies here and 5 powerful truths that help overcome them.

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The post 084 More Lies That Keep Us Coming Back To Porn appeared first on Recovered Man.

Providing great accountability is more than just encouraging someone when they relapse. In this episode, we talk about 3 tools you can use to make your accountability stronger. These tools can be difference between a guy staying stuck and getting to the next level in their recovery.

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The post 083 Ask More Questions appeared first on Recovered Man.

Is your accountability partner a CHAMP? In this episode, we answer your questions about accountability and accountability partners. You'll also learn the 5 characteristics of great accountability partners.

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The post 082 The 5 Characteristics of Great Accountability Partners appeared first on Recovered Man.

Fresh off of Podcast Movement 2016, Matt welcomes Angus Nelson from the "Up In Your Business" podcast. On this episode, Angus opens up about his history with porn and gets vulnerable.

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Matt shares two recent stories from coaching clients and the 1 consistent habit you need to stay porn free.

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https://recoveredman.com/080

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There are three choices you have when dealing with porn. In this episode, Matt shares an embarrassing story and how it applies to your recovery.

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https://recoveredman.com/079

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In episode 4 of Pornfree Radio, we talked about the biggest mistake people make when quitting porn. This episode is one of our most popular and has been downloaded over 5000 times.

In this follow up, I revisit the topic with some further thoughts with how guys get stuck.

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In each Pornfree Radio podcast, a sale is made. Either you buy what I'm selling about being porn free or you sell me an excuse why you can't.

In this episode, we talk about the seven deadly excuses that come up when trying to quit porn.

DISCLAIMER: These excuses are not aimed at anyone specific. If they sound familiar it's because I hear them a lot.

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I've talked to over sixty guys 1-on-1 this past year about their struggle with porn. When I asked what it has cost them, there is a common answer that comes up over and over again.

But is it the whole story? In this episode, we look at what they said and dig deeper.

In this episode:

- The #1 thing we say porn costs us
- How we dishonor our value with porn
- How porn overrides our lives
- How porn snowballs into the next day
- Why it robs us of our presence

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Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/076

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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There are 5 lies I hear over and over again from guys trying to quit porn. These are the mistaken beliefs that go through right before we act out.
In this episode, I label the 5 lies and share 5 powerful truths to help overcome them.

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Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/075

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In episode 70, Hope Ray joined us from HopeRayTherapy.com to discuss the Partners' experience. Hope returns to answer questions from partners, wives, and girlfriends.

In this episode, we answer:

- How do I begin a conversation with my significant other about his porn use?
- Do ultimatums work?
- What if my husband is a brick wall?
- What if he says he's sorry, but doesn't change?
- What if my husband looks at teen porn?

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/074

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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Summer is here. And with it brings time off, vacations, new schedules, bikinis, and summer clothing. In this episode, Matt shares ten porn free hacks you can use this Summer to stay on the right track.  Don’t miss hack #8. It’s a new one that goes against popular advice. Sprint Coaching 3-Month Summer Special Fill […]

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Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/073

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Can I be a recovering porn addict and an artist at the same time? What about drawing nudes? Or what about art that is erotic? In the art world, the line between porn and art can be thin. In some cases, one person's "art" is another person's porn!

How can one balance being an artist, viewing art, drawing from life and avoid being triggered?

Hope Ray (from Episode 70) returns Monday, June 6th to answer your questions about recovery and relationships. Email matt@pornfreeradio.com to ask a question.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/072

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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The nagging question after any relapse is 'Why?" Why did I look at porn when I was committed not to? Why did I look at porn even though it's harmful to my relationship? Why did I look at porn and put my job at risk?

There are two reasons that drive us to porn and they have little to do with brain science or our capacity for lust.

Hope Ray (from Episode 70) returns Monday, June 6th to answer your questions about recovery and relationships. Email matt@pornfreeradio.com to ask a question.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/071

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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It's been 2 years of Pornfree Radio and this is a show unlike any other. On this episode we focus on partners. We discuss disclosures, coming clean, check-ins, and the partners' experience.

Counselor Hope Ray sits joins Matt for an informative discussion that will help both motivated guys who want to quit looking at porn and the partners who love them.
In this episode:

What and when to tell your wife
The disclosure process
What staggered disclosure is and why it's damaging
F.A.S.T.T. Check-ins

Hope Ray returns Monday, June 6th to answer your questions about recovery and relationships. Email matt@pornfreeradio.com to ask a question.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/070

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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Opening the mailbag once again this week with a stack of questions from you the listener.

In this episode:

"Is sex in recovery okay?"
"What about hard mode?"
"What about sex when your older?"
"What happens when you and your partner have a different sex drive?"
"What if you're addicted to images that aren't traditional pornography?"

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/069

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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On this episode, Matt digs into the PFR mailbag and answers some questions listeners want to know.

Questions covered:

"Are you still doing the podcast?"
"How long does it take to quit porn?"
"What worse to relapse in porn or masturbation?"
"Can you recover if you have not hit rock bottom?"
"Where can you look for an accountability partner?"

"We don't think our way to right action, we act our way to right thinking."
- AA Recovery Quote

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/068

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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Sometimes we discover that we just plain want to hang on porn. We want to be passive and put the responsibility of moving forward on someone else. But it's time to make a decision.

In Episode 66, I asked the question, "Do you really want to fix this?"

This episode struck a nerve with the audience. I received more email then I ever have before. Some guys were worried I was quitting podcasting. Several guys thought my sharp comments were directly at them. And many more shared the action they were taking as a result from this show.

So I thought I would go deeper into what set me off. It's the passive will and a failure to take responsibility.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- The quote that almost got me in a fight
- What we discover about our struggle
- What the passive will is
- About the decision we must make
- What it means to decide

"Sometimes we discover that we just plain want to hang on to the sinful behavior, and some of us even have to face the fact that we then hope to blame God for not "healing" us. We see right away when we are dealing with a passive will, someone who looks lumpishly to a counselor or minister of God to do what only he himself can do. All such things as these come to the fore, along with the memories of where the heart opened itself to envy, bitterness, lust and so on. Then in full confession of our sins of God, we acknowledge our rank foolishness and our propensities to pride and rebellion, and we make a decision about sin."

- Leanne Payne, The Healing Presence

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/067

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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This show resets the vision of Pornfree Radio. If you are new listener feel free to listen to some old shows. If you're a long timer, it's time to have an honest conversation: Do you want to fix this? Do you really want to fix this?

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/066

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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This is the final episode in a 3 podcast series about dealing with porn at work. We've identified in episode 63 the risks of using porn at work. In episode 64 we talked about how your leadership is compromised.

In part 3, Ben from the Brick House Web Series, joins me to discuss strategies for eliminating porn at work and getting things done.

If you don't pay appropriate attention to what has your attention, it will take more of your attention than it deserves. - David Allen, Getting Things Done

In this episode, you'll learn:

- What GTD is
- Why you need to treat your work environment as a project
- Why you need a plan for work
- What are the unique emotional triggers, mistaken beliefs, and weak links at work
- How to take action at work
- Why we need a self care at work

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/065

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

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http://recoveredman.com/rev

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This is part 2 of 3 episodes on porn use and the work place. Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series joins me again. This time we discuss the effect of porn use on your leadership at work.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- How porn steals your focus at work
- How it
- How it zaps your vision and erodes your confidence
- How it compromises your moral leadership
- Why even if people don't find out, they will experience the effects

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/064

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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According to a survey* conducted by the Barna Group in the U.S. in 2014: 63% of adult men have looked at pornography at least one time while at work in the past 3 months; 38% have done so more than once.

It's a BIG issue. And there are HUGE risks to viewing porn at work.

Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series joins me for 1st of 3 podcasts on porn use at work.

*2014 ProvenMen.org Pornography Use at Work Survey (conducted by the Barna Group)

In this episode, you'll learn:

- About your personal risk of using porn at work
- The jaw dropping stats of porn at work
- What triggers work place porn use
- The 4 main areas of risk
- The harm of "working under the influence"
- Why porn steals more than just your time

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/063

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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Matt is joined by Brick House web series creator, Ben Fraser. Ben first visited Pornfree Radio for episode 24 on Creativity and Recovery.

In this episode, Matt and Ben discuss the second season of Brick House (now available on YouTube.) Then they turn their attention to a passionate letter from a listener.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/062

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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The post 062 A Bone To Pick appeared first on Recovered Man.

Saying goodbye to your stash is hard to do. It's been with you a long time. It's like a security blanket. But it is something that has to be done if you want freedom.

In this episode, we talk about the strength to delete it all. We also discuss the things to watch out for when you get close to 30 days porn free.

You'll learn:

- About my second chance offers for 2016
- The details of a listener success story
- What it took to finally delete that old stash
- 4 things to watch out for when your near the 30-day porn free mark

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Get access to Your Porn Free Playbook or 1-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz at a great rate through February 5, 2016. Save $100 off Your Porn Free Playbook Course OR $300 off a 3-month coaching package.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/061

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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In this episode, recorded on my 5th anniversary of being 100% porn free. I share the 5 biggest things that have helped me stay porn free since January 2011.

In this episode you'll learn:

- About my last relapse
- Why I need consistent, transparent relationships with other guys
- Why open communication and trust with my wife was key to my success
- Why I eliminated dangerous media in my life
- How I took a hard line on edging
- How helping others helps keep me porn free

Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course)
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Sprint Coaching Openings
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Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/060

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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Continuing our discussion on relapse from episode 58. In this show we talk about the lies we believe and how to prevent relapse.

In this episode you'll learn:

- Matt's favorite character from Star Wars: The Force Awakens
- Common lies we believe when in relapse
- Warning signs of relapse
- How to avoid relapse
- Why bringing even small things into the light helps us
- Listener Question: What do you do when you're trying to sleep and lustful thoughts keep pounding your mind?

Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret. But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible, for anything that becomes visible is light.

- Ephesians 5:11-14 (ESV)

Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course)
Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community.
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Sprint Coaching Openings
Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/059

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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The post 059 Fail Better Pt 2: Preventing Relapse appeared first on Recovered Man.

I get a ton of email about relapse. Immediately after a relapse guys send me questions trying to figure out what went wrong. Or sometimes they are trying to figure out what series of behaviors constitutes relapse. All that and more as we spend the 1st of 2 episodes on relapse.

In this episode you'll learn:

- What relapse means
- When it begins and more importantly when it ends
- How we can take ownership
- How to assess what happened
- Why relapse can be a gift

Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.
- Samuel Beckett

Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course)
Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community.
http://recoveredman.com/playbook

Sprint Coaching Openings
Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/058

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

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http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

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The post 058 Fail Better Pt 1: Recovering From Relapse appeared first on Recovered Man.

There is a part of you that doesn't want to listen to this podcast. Because to go porn free in 2016 you might have to do some things differently than this year. But you need to press through the resistance and embrace the process. In this episode, we discuss the 5 steps to going porn free in 2016.

In this episode you'll learn:

- What a sprint plan is
- Why you need to be selfish
- The 3 roadblocks to being porn free
- The biggest mistake people make when quitting porn
- The new habits you need this year
- What activates your plan

Free download:
2016 Monthly Worksheet and Checklist
http://recoveredman.com/57

Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course)
Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community.
http://recoveredman.com/playbook

Sprint Coaching Openings
Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/057

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

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This time a year, we hear a lot of stories about sending letters to Santa. But on this episode Matt reads a letter he received, this week, from the North Pole.

Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course)
Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community.
http://recoveredman.com/playbook

Sprint Coaching Openings
Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/056

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

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http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

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Fresh off the American holiday of Thanksgiving, where over indulgence is common, and Black Friday, America's shopping spectacle, Matt digs into one of the best letters he has ever gotten on PFR.

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Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/055

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

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The post 055 I Just Completed a Massive Binge… appeared first on Recovered Man.

In this episode, we talk about The 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People. We hosted a webinar a few weeks back on this subject and over 60 guys jumped on to watch. But many of you couldn't make it.

If you have struggled going 100% porn free this past year it may be that you're just missing a 1 or 2 key puzzle pieces. So today I reveal the 5 essential habits of porn free people who go 30, 60, 365+ days without porn.

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Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/054

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 054 The 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People appeared first on Recovered Man.

If everything I do is preventative, setting up filters, rules, boundaries,etc. -- how do I know if I'm recovering? Am I really getting better? What are proactive things can I do speed up my recovery?

Register for our free Webinar
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Wed Nov. 11. 8PM CST.
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Sprint Coaching Openings
Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/053

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 053 How Do I Know If I’m Getting Better? appeared first on Recovered Man.

Smartphones are the #1 threat to being porn free today. They are up to a 100x more powerful than computers we used a few years ago and sit on our nightstand. But smartphones are not the problem, it's our relationship with them.

Register for our free Webinar
5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People
Wed Nov. 11. 8PM CST.
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Sprint Coaching Openings
Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/052

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 052 What Does Your Smartphone Look Like? appeared first on Recovered Man.

Slips. Close calls. Edging. How do we define those little behaviors that are related to our old porn rituals? Matt tackles the age old recover problem: Did we have a slip or did we relapse?

Register for our free Webinar
5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People
Wed Nov. 11. 8PM CST.
http://recoveredman.com/webinar

Sprint Coaching Openings
Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/051

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 051 Slips Vs. Acting Out appeared first on Recovered Man.

The real scandal behind the Ashley Madison hack didn't make headlines, but it has real implications for guys who want to go porn free. I'll share what we can learn from Ashley Madison and what it has in common with sites like Google,YouTube, and Facebook.

Sprint Coaching Openings
Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/050

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 050 The Real Scandal Behind Ashley Madison appeared first on Recovered Man.

This summer my mailbox has been full. In this episode, I'll be answering questions from listeners. You can always email at matt@pornfreeradio.com. I am the only one who checks that email box. Please include your first name. If there is anything you need to keep private please give me the heads up.

Questions discussed in this episode:

- Why did I Binge after 30 days of success?
- How do you build more trust in your relationship with your wife?
- What advice do you have for partners on the other side of porn addiction?
- How do I not get conceded in my recovery, letting down my guard because I figured it out?

Sprint Coaching Openings
Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/049

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 049 Why Did I Binge After 30 Days of Success? appeared first on Recovered Man.

Have you ever gotten home and realized you were alone with unaccountable time? And your next thought was, "Yippe I can look at porn."

Or have you ever had 10 minutes of free time on your smart phone and thought no one will know if I do a quick search?

Well you have experienced Home Alone Syndrome. It's that all too common trap we get in when we are alone. It can short circuit weeks of strong sobriety in minutes.

In this episode we break down the 3 lies that surround Home Alone Syndrome. We also discuss 3 ways to counteract this dangerous pattern.

Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment

Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/048

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 048 Home Alone Syndrome appeared first on Recovered Man.

This is part 2 of 2 episodes with Craig Perra from the Mindful Habit. In this episode, Craig continues to document his profound and emotional experience shooting the reality TV show, Living With the Enemy, where he lived with a porn star for 8 days.

The show concludes with a powerful scene where Craig takes Emily back to the scene of his darkest moment.

Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment

Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/047

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 047 I Lived With A Porn Star Pt 2: Craig Perra appeared first on Recovered Man.

In early 2015, Craig Perra, life coach from the Mindful Habit, lived with a porn star, Emily Nicholson for 8 days. They were on the Lifetime reality series, Living With the Enemy.

This is part 1 of 2 episodes with Craig where we get his take on the show and how it affected him. In this episode we talk about Craig's experience being on set at a porn shoot.
The second of two episodes on temptation is all about the way of the escape. Temptation is common to all men. And we have the ability to make choices in the moment. It might feel automatic now, but you can disrupt the temptation cycle and find the way of escape.

Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment

Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/046

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 046 I Lived With A Porn Star Pt 1: Craig Perra appeared first on Recovered Man.

The second of two episodes on temptation is all about the way of the escape. Temptation is common to all men. And we have the ability to make choices in the moment. It might feel automatic now, but you can disrupt the temptation cycle and find the way of escape.

Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment

Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/045

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 045 Temptation Pt 2: The Way of Escape appeared first on Recovered Man.

Our first of two episodes on temptation is all about your desire. Before you learn how to deal with temptation, you have to first define what it really means. Then you have to see the temptation cycle and how your desire drives it.

Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment

Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/044

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 044 Temptation Pt 1: Your Desire appeared first on Recovered Man.

The phrase "porn addiction side effects" is searched in Google over 60, 000 times a month. Guys are looking for answers in attempt to self-diagnose things like, Porn-induced Erectile Dysfunction, depression, intrusive thoughts, dopamine headaches, fetishes, and escalating behaviors. In this episode, we look at the porn addiction side effects that are common to all of us who struggle.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/043

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 043 Porn Addiction Side Effects appeared first on Recovered Man.

Our final installment in our three-part series on Getting Started, focuses on your plan. "Fail to plan. Plan to fail.", is a true statement. Without a plan in place you continue to get triggered, go to unsafe places, and relapse. Again and again. At the end of this episode you will have the tools to build a simple plan that you can improve on as time goes on.

See episode 040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom and 041 Getting Started Pt 2: Phone A Friend to listen from the beginning.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/042

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 042 Getting Started Pt 3: Your Plan appeared first on Recovered Man.

The second in our three-part series on Getting Started, focuses on asking for help. Whether it's a phone call, a text, or a face to face meeting we need to bring others into our struggle with pornography. Pornography addiction thrives in isolation and the way out is making connection. See episode 040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom to listen from the beginning.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/041

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 041 Getting Started Pt 2: Phone A Friend appeared first on Recovered Man.

Our first in a three-part series on Getting Started is all about hitting rock bottom and how your darkest moment can be a great gift in your recovery.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/040

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom appeared first on Recovered Man.