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How does a morning routine help keep you porn free? That and more are the focus of this episode. Ben Fraser from the Brick House web series sits in.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

A topic that keeps coming up is edging. Edging are the little behaviors that mimic our old ways of acting out.

Hashtags, images searches, channel surfing, second looks, all fall into this category. They seem innocent compared to our old addiction. But they can spell trouble.

Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series sits in and shares his thoughts.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 6:31pm CST

Matt shares a tool he has been using recently in 1-on-1 coaching to help clients identify the primary feelings in their life.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:40pm CST

"Matt, I'm not perfect. But you know what I am good at? Not relapsing."

One of my friends, with many years of sobriety, once told me this. The secret is what you do when you start getting shaky.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:31pm CST

Alex Lerza from rTribe visits Pornfree Radio and shares why connection is the opposite of addiction. Alex by training is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. His work as a therapist has come out of his own recovery.

His journey led him to create an app in 2015, with fellow therapist, Josh Kalsbeek, to help people recover for porn addiction. rTribe is a social recovery app for porn and sex addiction. It connects thousands of people each day who are working on recovery from porn. Download the app or visit rTribe.org for more information.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:28pm CST

When looking for help with porn addiction, books seem like a safe way to learn. Especially when ordered online. But what do the search results from Amazon.com tell us about our porn addiction?

I saw some common themes in the books represented. I break down 3 types of the porn addiction books and ask the question: Do they help us recover or are they an excuse for not taking action?

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:58pm CST

Whether you're new to Pornfree Radio or have been listening from the beginning, there's a common journey we share.

We all start divided with an external life we show people and a hidden life where our addiction lives. Our ultimate goal is to be whole. To have the inside and outside match.

But how do we get there?

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 5:09pm CST

What's missing in recovery? YOU.

Are you showing up? Are you supporting others? Do you know the value of your presence? In this episode, we discuss why everyone should be in a group.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:10am CST

A year into my recovery, I attended the worst men's group ever. Nobody was having much success and I felt worse going home then when I got there.

In this episode, I share what was missing and how you can revive a struggling group.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:43pm CST

In episode 75, I shared 5 lies that keep us coming back to porn. This was one of our most downloaded podcasts of the summer.

On a recent Reddit thread, I posted the original 5 lies and users contributed more lies in the comments.

In this episode, I share the lies here and 5 powerful truths that help overcome them.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:13pm CST

Providing great accountability is more than just encouraging someone when they relapse. In this episode, we talk about 3 tools you can use to make your accountability stronger. These tools can be difference between a guy staying stuck and getting to the next level in their recovery.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:28pm CST

Is your accountability partner a CHAMP? In this episode, we answer your questions about accountability and accountability partners. You'll also learn the 5 characteristics of great accountability partners.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:50pm CST

Fresh off of Podcast Movement 2016, Matt welcomes Angus Nelson from the "Up In Your Business" podcast. On this episode, Angus opens up about his history with porn and gets vulnerable.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

Matt shares two recent stories from coaching clients and the 1 consistent habit you need to stay porn free.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

There are three choices you have when dealing with porn. In this episode, Matt shares an embarrassing story and how it applies to your recovery.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:20am CST

In episode 4 of Pornfree Radio, we talked about the biggest mistake people make when quitting porn. This episode is one of our most popular and has been downloaded over 5000 times.

In this follow up, I revisit the topic with some further thoughts with how guys get stuck.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:31pm CST

In each Pornfree Radio podcast, a sale is made. Either you buy what I'm selling about being porn free or you sell me an excuse why you can't.

In this episode, we talk about the seven deadly excuses that come up when trying to quit porn.

DISCLAIMER: These excuses are not aimed at anyone specific. If they sound familiar it's because I hear them a lot.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:36am CST

I've talked to over sixty guys 1-on-1 this past year about their struggle with porn. When I asked what it has cost them, there is a common answer that comes up over and over again.

But is it the whole story? In this episode, we look at what they said and dig deeper.

In this episode:

- The #1 thing we say porn costs us
- How we dishonor our value with porn
- How porn overrides our lives
- How porn snowballs into the next day
- Why it robs us of our presence

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:56pm CST

There are 5 lies I hear over and over again from guys trying to quit porn. These are the mistaken beliefs that go through right before we act out.
In this episode, I label the 5 lies and share 5 powerful truths to help overcome them.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 5:19pm CST

In episode 70, Hope Ray joined us from HopeRayTherapy.com to discuss the Partners' experience. Hope returns to answer questions from partners, wives, and girlfriends.

In this episode, we answer:

- How do I begin a conversation with my significant other about his porn use?
- Do ultimatums work?
- What if my husband is a brick wall?
- What if he says he's sorry, but doesn't change?
- What if my husband looks at teen porn?

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:30pm CST

Summer is here. And with it brings time off, vacations, new schedules, bikinis, and summer clothing. In this episode, Matt shares ten porn free hacks you can use this Summer to stay on the right track.  Don’t miss hack #8. It’s a new one that goes against popular advice. Sprint Coaching 3-Month Summer Special Fill […]

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:50pm CST

Can I be a recovering porn addict and an artist at the same time? What about drawing nudes? Or what about art that is erotic? In the art world, the line between porn and art can be thin. In some cases, one person's "art" is another person's porn!

How can one balance being an artist, viewing art, drawing from life and avoid being triggered?

Hope Ray (from Episode 70) returns Monday, June 6th to answer your questions about recovery and relationships. Email matt@pornfreeradio.com to ask a question.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:53pm CST

The nagging question after any relapse is 'Why?" Why did I look at porn when I was committed not to? Why did I look at porn even though it's harmful to my relationship? Why did I look at porn and put my job at risk?

There are two reasons that drive us to porn and they have little to do with brain science or our capacity for lust.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:33pm CST

It's been 2 years of Pornfree Radio and this is a show unlike any other. On this episode we focus on partners. We discuss disclosures, coming clean, check-ins, and the partners' experience.

Counselor Hope Ray sits joins Matt for an informative discussion that will help both motivated guys who want to quit looking at porn and the partners who love them.
In this episode:

What and when to tell your wife
The disclosure process
What staggered disclosure is and why it's damaging
F.A.S.T.T. Check-ins

Hope Ray returns Monday, June 6th to answer your questions about recovery and relationships. Email matt@pornfreeradio.com to ask a question.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:20pm CST

Opening the mailbag once again this week with a stack of questions from you the listener.

In this episode:

"Is sex in recovery okay?"
"What about hard mode?"
"What about sex when your older?"
"What happens when you and your partner have a different sex drive?"
"What if you're addicted to images that aren't traditional pornography?"

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:52pm CST

On this episode, Matt digs into the PFR mailbag and answers some questions listeners want to know.

Questions covered:

"Are you still doing the podcast?"
"How long does it take to quit porn?"
"What worse to relapse in porn or masturbation?"
"Can you recover if you have not hit rock bottom?"
"Where can you look for an accountability partner?"

"We don't think our way to right action, we act our way to right thinking."
- AA Recovery Quote

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:30pm CST

Sometimes we discover that we just plain want to hang on porn. We want to be passive and put the responsibility of moving forward on someone else. But it's time to make a decision.

In Episode 66, I asked the question, "Do you really want to fix this?"

This episode struck a nerve with the audience. I received more email then I ever have before. Some guys were worried I was quitting podcasting. Several guys thought my sharp comments were directly at them. And many more shared the action they were taking as a result from this show.

So I thought I would go deeper into what set me off. It's the passive will and a failure to take responsibility.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- The quote that almost got me in a fight
- What we discover about our struggle
- What the passive will is
- About the decision we must make
- What it means to decide

"Sometimes we discover that we just plain want to hang on to the sinful behavior, and some of us even have to face the fact that we then hope to blame God for not "healing" us. We see right away when we are dealing with a passive will, someone who looks lumpishly to a counselor or minister of God to do what only he himself can do. All such things as these come to the fore, along with the memories of where the heart opened itself to envy, bitterness, lust and so on. Then in full confession of our sins of God, we acknowledge our rank foolishness and our propensities to pride and rebellion, and we make a decision about sin."

- Leanne Payne, The Healing Presence

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:46pm CST

This show resets the vision of Pornfree Radio. If you are new listener feel free to listen to some old shows. If you're a long timer, it's time to have an honest conversation: Do you want to fix this? Do you really want to fix this?

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:46am CST

This is the final episode in a 3 podcast series about dealing with porn at work. We've identified in episode 63 the risks of using porn at work. In episode 64 we talked about how your leadership is compromised.

In part 3, Ben from the Brick House Web Series, joins me to discuss strategies for eliminating porn at work and getting things done.

If you don't pay appropriate attention to what has your attention, it will take more of your attention than it deserves. - David Allen, Getting Things Done

In this episode, you'll learn:

- What GTD is
- Why you need to treat your work environment as a project
- Why you need a plan for work
- What are the unique emotional triggers, mistaken beliefs, and weak links at work
- How to take action at work
- Why we need a self care at work

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

This is part 2 of 3 episodes on porn use and the work place. Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series joins me again. This time we discuss the effect of porn use on your leadership at work.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- How porn steals your focus at work
- How it
- How it zaps your vision and erodes your confidence
- How it compromises your moral leadership
- Why even if people don't find out, they will experience the effects

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

According to a survey* conducted by the Barna Group in the U.S. in 2014: 63% of adult men have looked at pornography at least one time while at work in the past 3 months; 38% have done so more than once.

It's a BIG issue. And there are HUGE risks to viewing porn at work.

Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series joins me for 1st of 3 podcasts on porn use at work.

*2014 ProvenMen.org Pornography Use at Work Survey (conducted by the Barna Group)

In this episode, you'll learn:

- About your personal risk of using porn at work
- The jaw dropping stats of porn at work
- What triggers work place porn use
- The 4 main areas of risk
- The harm of "working under the influence"
- Why porn steals more than just your time

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:01pm CST

Matt is joined by Brick House web series creator, Ben Fraser. Ben first visited Pornfree Radio for episode 24 on Creativity and Recovery.

In this episode, Matt and Ben discuss the second season of Brick House (now available on YouTube.) Then they turn their attention to a passionate letter from a listener.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:27pm CST

Saying goodbye to your stash is hard to do. It's been with you a long time. It's like a security blanket. But it is something that has to be done if you want freedom.

In this episode, we talk about the strength to delete it all. We also discuss the things to watch out for when you get close to 30 days porn free.

You'll learn:

- About my second chance offers for 2016
- The details of a listener success story
- What it took to finally delete that old stash
- 4 things to watch out for when your near the 30-day porn free mark

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:24pm CST

In this episode, recorded on my 5th anniversary of being 100% porn free. I share the 5 biggest things that have helped me stay porn free since January 2011.

In this episode you'll learn:

- About my last relapse
- Why I need consistent, transparent relationships with other guys
- Why open communication and trust with my wife was key to my success
- Why I eliminated dangerous media in my life
- How I took a hard line on edging
- How helping others helps keep me porn free

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:38pm CST

Continuing our discussion on relapse from episode 58. In this show we talk about the lies we believe and how to prevent relapse.

In this episode you'll learn:

- Matt's favorite character from Star Wars: The Force Awakens
- Common lies we believe when in relapse
- Warning signs of relapse
- How to avoid relapse
- Why bringing even small things into the light helps us
- Listener Question: What do you do when you're trying to sleep and lustful thoughts keep pounding your mind?

Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret. But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible, for anything that becomes visible is light.

- Ephesians 5:11-14 (ESV)

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:40pm CST

I get a ton of email about relapse. Immediately after a relapse guys send me questions trying to figure out what went wrong. Or sometimes they are trying to figure out what series of behaviors constitutes relapse. All that and more as we spend the 1st of 2 episodes on relapse.

In this episode you'll learn:

- What relapse means
- When it begins and more importantly when it ends
- How we can take ownership
- How to assess what happened
- Why relapse can be a gift

Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.
- Samuel Beckett

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Direct download: pfr58.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:49pm CST

There is a part of you that doesn't want to listen to this podcast. Because to go porn free in 2016 you might have to do some things differently than this year. But you need to press through the resistance and embrace the process. In this episode, we discuss the 5 steps to going porn free in 2016.

In this episode you'll learn:

- What a sprint plan is
- Why you need to be selfish
- The 3 roadblocks to being porn free
- The biggest mistake people make when quitting porn
- The new habits you need this year
- What activates your plan

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 5:10pm CST

This time a year, we hear a lot of stories about sending letters to Santa. But on this episode Matt reads a letter he received, this week, from the North Pole.

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Direct download: pfr56.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:12am CST

Fresh off the American holiday of Thanksgiving, where over indulgence is common, and Black Friday, America's shopping spectacle, Matt digs into one of the best letters he has ever gotten on PFR.

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The post 055 I Just Completed a Massive Binge… appeared first on Recovered Man.

Direct download: pfr55.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

In this episode, we talk about The 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People. We hosted a webinar a few weeks back on this subject and over 60 guys jumped on to watch. But many of you couldn't make it.

If you have struggled going 100% porn free this past year it may be that you're just missing a 1 or 2 key puzzle pieces. So today I reveal the 5 essential habits of porn free people who go 30, 60, 365+ days without porn.

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Direct download: pfr54.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:08pm CST

If everything I do is preventative, setting up filters, rules, boundaries,etc. -- how do I know if I'm recovering? Am I really getting better? What are proactive things can I do speed up my recovery?

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Direct download: pfr53.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

Smartphones are the #1 threat to being porn free today. They are up to a 100x more powerful than computers we used a few years ago and sit on our nightstand. But smartphones are not the problem, it's our relationship with them.

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Direct download: pfr52.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:58pm CST

Slips. Close calls. Edging. How do we define those little behaviors that are related to our old porn rituals? Matt tackles the age old recover problem: Did we have a slip or did we relapse?

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 6:09pm CST

The real scandal behind the Ashley Madison hack didn't make headlines, but it has real implications for guys who want to go porn free. I'll share what we can learn from Ashley Madison and what it has in common with sites like Google,YouTube, and Facebook.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:45pm CST

This summer my mailbox has been full. In this episode, I'll be answering questions from listeners. You can always email at matt@pornfreeradio.com. I am the only one who checks that email box. Please include your first name. If there is anything you need to keep private please give me the heads up.

Questions discussed in this episode:

- Why did I Binge after 30 days of success?
- How do you build more trust in your relationship with your wife?
- What advice do you have for partners on the other side of porn addiction?
- How do I not get conceded in my recovery, letting down my guard because I figured it out?

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The post 049 Why Did I Binge After 30 Days of Success? appeared first on Recovered Man.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:07pm CST

Have you ever gotten home and realized you were alone with unaccountable time? And your next thought was, "Yippe I can look at porn."

Or have you ever had 10 minutes of free time on your smart phone and thought no one will know if I do a quick search?

Well you have experienced Home Alone Syndrome. It's that all too common trap we get in when we are alone. It can short circuit weeks of strong sobriety in minutes.

In this episode we break down the 3 lies that surround Home Alone Syndrome. We also discuss 3 ways to counteract this dangerous pattern.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

This is part 2 of 2 episodes with Craig Perra from the Mindful Habit. In this episode, Craig continues to document his profound and emotional experience shooting the reality TV show, Living With the Enemy, where he lived with a porn star for 8 days.

The show concludes with a powerful scene where Craig takes Emily back to the scene of his darkest moment.

Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

In early 2015, Craig Perra, life coach from the Mindful Habit, lived with a porn star, Emily Nicholson for 8 days. They were on the Lifetime reality series, Living With the Enemy.

This is part 1 of 2 episodes with Craig where we get his take on the show and how it affected him. In this episode we talk about Craig's experience being on set at a porn shoot.
The second of two episodes on temptation is all about the way of the escape. Temptation is common to all men. And we have the ability to make choices in the moment. It might feel automatic now, but you can disrupt the temptation cycle and find the way of escape.

Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:26am CST

The second of two episodes on temptation is all about the way of the escape. Temptation is common to all men. And we have the ability to make choices in the moment. It might feel automatic now, but you can disrupt the temptation cycle and find the way of escape.

Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:34am CST

Our first of two episodes on temptation is all about your desire. Before you learn how to deal with temptation, you have to first define what it really means. Then you have to see the temptation cycle and how your desire drives it.

Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:13pm CST

The phrase "porn addiction side effects" is searched in Google over 60, 000 times a month. Guys are looking for answers in attempt to self-diagnose things like, Porn-induced Erectile Dysfunction, depression, intrusive thoughts, dopamine headaches, fetishes, and escalating behaviors. In this episode, we look at the porn addiction side effects that are common to all of us who struggle.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 5:39pm CST

Our final installment in our three-part series on Getting Started, focuses on your plan. "Fail to plan. Plan to fail.", is a true statement. Without a plan in place you continue to get triggered, go to unsafe places, and relapse. Again and again. At the end of this episode you will have the tools to build a simple plan that you can improve on as time goes on.

See episode 040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom and 041 Getting Started Pt 2: Phone A Friend to listen from the beginning.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:18pm CST

The second in our three-part series on Getting Started, focuses on asking for help. Whether it's a phone call, a text, or a face to face meeting we need to bring others into our struggle with pornography. Pornography addiction thrives in isolation and the way out is making connection. See episode 040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom to listen from the beginning.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:56pm CST

Our first in a three-part series on Getting Started is all about hitting rock bottom and how your darkest moment can be a great gift in your recovery.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:10am CST

You ever wonder why stores place candy by the checkout counter? In this episode, we talk about what we can learn at the grocery store about our porn addiction. I also share three ways you can use reverse engineering to reinforce quitting porn.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:20pm CST

If we’ve left the country where porn controls our life, how can we still live in our old house there? For many the desire to change is followed by this struggle. We have packed up and moved for good and yet we still want to go back and try and live in our old house. We want to revisit old habits. Matt just completed an actual move so the metaphor is top of mind for our journey out of porn.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:50am CST

Looking back at my recovery process, I wouldn't change much. The missteps and relapses helped me strengthen my plan. I learned a lot from my mistakes. But I realize now there were something in those early days that I could of done which would of shaved years off of the process. Mind you it's not something easy. But if you can put in place and keep it, you're recovery will immediately go to the next level.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 6:03pm CST

Pornfree Radio is for motivated guys who want to quit looking at porn. But how do you find motivation? Are there any bad motivations for quitting porn? Why does it help to get specific about what your primary motivation is?

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:29pm CST

Craig Perra, founder of The Mindful Habit, returns for a powerful conversation about 12 Step groups and the disease model for treating addiction. Together, we discuss some of the pros and cons of 12 step groups and the alternatives.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

Christian guys make up the majority of my audience and Christians have some compelling reasons to want to eliminate porn from their lives. It's in direct conflict with the teachings of Jesus.

In Jesus' most famous sermon he said, "You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Jesus equates this act of looking at a women with lustful intent as being the same as breaking the 7th commandment, "You shall not commit adultery."

But knowing what’s right and doing something about are two different things.

Christian guys bring some strengths to our porn free community and also some blind spots. I cover them both here and have some advice for taking action.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:44am CST

When I started this podcast I wasn't sure who would join this community and go on this ride for me. I had been mostly doing this stuff with in my church and was used to working with Christian guys. But a good number of downloads came from guys who considered themselves non-religious. No mater what word you use, Agnostic, Atheist, Skeptic, Free Thinker, etc. there is hope for you to quit porn.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:33am CST

The culture tells us porn addiction is made up. But we know different. There is something about this behavior that we have grown tired of. It is not serving us well. In this episode, Matt goes through a simple self-assessment of porn addiction. He also shares a simple definition of addiction that may change the way you define it.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

Getting caught downloading pornography by my wife was not my rock bottom. In this episode, I tell the story of the most significant and scary night in my recovery. My personal turning point.

Happy to be back after my hiatus. New episodes are coming each and every Monday along with new content and ways to connect.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:31am CST

Screw resolutions! You need a plan to go porn free in 2015. This episode is all about giving you steps to go 100% porn free for the WHOLE year.

Make sure to download the free checklist and monthly worksheet at http://recoveredman.com/30 to help you get the most out of this episode.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:22pm CST

This is NOT a review of the 2008 Mickey Rourke film, The Wrestler. Instead, it's a metaphor of the porn free life. Matt digs into the parallels between our journey and the dedication required in the sport of wrestling.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:42pm CST

Matt hits the listener mailbag in this episode tackling questions about getting over the 3-day hump and how to deal with porn fantasies in the bedroom.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:12am CST

We have all been guilty of defining success solely in terms of the number of porn free days we have. In this episode, we discuss 5 alternative ways you can measure your success in overcoming porn addiction.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:13am CST

Your problem might not be porn, it might be shame. Shame keeps us isolated and in the dark. In this environment, porn addiction thrives and grows like mold on forgotten left overs in the back of the fridge.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:42pm CST

In this episode, Matt shares some surprising advocates in the mainstream with strong opinions about the harm of porn in today's culture.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

We discuss the relationship between creativity and recovery with Ben Fraser, creator of the Brick House Web Series about quitting porn. Ben shares about his own journey out of porn addiction and how he turned his struggle into a musical comedy to help others.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

Our greatest trap in life comes from a quote by Henri Nouwen. Hint: it's not porn or lust. This trap can undermine the recovery work you are doing and actually perpetuate your porn addiction.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:11pm CST

There is one thing that precedes every relapse with porn. It's not a powerful trigger, a stressful day at work, free porn on your hotel TV, or a web link sent from a coworker. It's an internal action we CHOOSE.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:17pm CST

This week we respond to listener feedback from Episode 19 and Episode 20. We revisit the metaphor of the "full pardon" in Episode 19 and dig more into the nostalgia and voyeurism tied in with celebrity nudity from episode 20.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:24pm CST

This show is ripped from recent headlines. The internet almost shut down a few weeks back when hackers released nude photos of a group of famous celebrities. This got me to thinking about our response as people committed to being pornfree. First, how should we think of this. Second, how can we avoid these powerful triggers.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

After being caught with porn, or after a relapse, how you talk to your wife about it could be the difference in saving your relationship and losing it.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

If you're single does it matter if you keep pornfree? In this episode, Matt tackles the issue of porn and the single guy.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:20pm CST

Craig Perra, life coach and founder of The Mindful Habit method of porn and sex addiction recovery, returns to teach a lesson from his exclusive online course on the stubborn habit of objectifying and oogling.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:12am CST

This is the first of two dynamic episodes with Craig Perra, life coach and founder, of The Mindful Habit method of porn and sex addiction recovery.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:43pm CST

There are things porn addicts know coming into recovery and more importantly things they need to know. This episode was from a workshop with Matt Dobschuetz recorded live for ministry leaders in Indianapolis, Indiana on August 9, 2014.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:13pm CST

As you start to look around in your own journey and recovery, you start seeing others who are a little farther behind who are making the same mistakes you did. And you start getting a vision for helping them. Here's 7 tips for starting your group.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

It may seem counter-intuitive to those looking for help with porn addiction. But early in my own recovery I started a support group and I actually helped myself. Could you start a group in your area in the next year?

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

The M-Word aka Masturbation is the 800 lb gorilla in the room in any conversation about pornography.

Most people with a porn problem have a strong masturbation habit. So what happens with masturbation when we shut off the porn?

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

A conversation with Luke Gilkerson, Internet Community Manager for Covenant Eyes. Luke is perhaps the most prolific blogger on the subject of porn and recovery on the internet with 1500+ posts. In this episode we start off talking about the relationship between technology and porn. We end by discussing the benefits of deep friendship in overcoming the isolation that comes with porn addiction.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

Caution: Slippery Slope Ahead. In this episode, we discuss the four pitfalls with popular media that can lead us right back to porn if we are not careful.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:36pm CST

There is one key in your recovery that is the foundation for living the rest of your life pornfree. Hint: it's not your days sober or how perfect you are.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:25pm CST

Father's Day 2014. In this bonus episode, I discuss Reddit feedback from last week's episode, 007 What My Dad Didn't Tell Me About Porn.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:22pm CST

This week is Father's day and it got me to thinking about my dad. My dad was a loving father who modeled integrity and humility. However he was very silent on the issue of sexuality and pornography. My dad struggled to talk with me about the issue of porn even as an adult. So you can imagine how lost I felt has a teenager and young man as I got swallowed up in addiction.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

Life is not all about defensive strategies around porn addiction. In this episode, I share about 5 benefits from going pornfree AKA the Good Stuff.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:00pm CST

Staying pornfree while traveling doesn't happen by accident. It takes work. I'll give some of my best tips for travel and hotels. I'll also walk you through T-UP, a planning exercise I go through before each trip.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

This week we talk about the biggest mistake people make when quitting porn. I also share how I once spent $250/min to look at porn.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

In Episode 3, we talk about dumb smartphones, Master Locks, and other stories about limiting access to porn. Little things can go a big way in breaking your addiction to porn.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:47pm CST

Continuing the conversation about coming clean about pornography addiction. In this episode we talk about some of the emotional benefits we experience when we are honest with safe people in our lives.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 7:01pm CST

Your first step to healing is coming clean about your problem with pornography and masturbation. What can you do this week to come clean? Take a risk and tell someone what's going on with you. Be concrete about what you are sharing. You don't have to be graphic but you should mention pornography and masturbation. Share the frequency and don't minimize or try to hide. Who could you tell? Your goal is be honest with yourself and others. Even if they don't have the best response. This is practice for you in learning to be honest on a ongoing basis.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 5:53pm CST