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I get a ton of email about relapse. Immediately after a relapse guys send me questions trying to figure out what went wrong. Or sometimes they are trying to figure out what series of behaviors constitutes relapse. All that and more as we spend the 1st of 2 episodes on relapse.

In this episode you'll learn:

- What relapse means
- When it begins and more importantly when it ends
- How we can take ownership
- How to assess what happened
- Why relapse can be a gift

Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.
- Samuel Beckett

Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course)
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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:49pm CST

There is a part of you that doesn't want to listen to this podcast. Because to go porn free in 2016 you might have to do some things differently than this year. But you need to press through the resistance and embrace the process. In this episode, we discuss the 5 steps to going porn free in 2016.

In this episode you'll learn:

- What a sprint plan is
- Why you need to be selfish
- The 3 roadblocks to being porn free
- The biggest mistake people make when quitting porn
- The new habits you need this year
- What activates your plan

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 5:10pm CST

This time a year, we hear a lot of stories about sending letters to Santa. But on this episode Matt reads a letter he received, this week, from the North Pole.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:12am CST

Fresh off the American holiday of Thanksgiving, where over indulgence is common, and Black Friday, America's shopping spectacle, Matt digs into one of the best letters he has ever gotten on PFR.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

In this episode, we talk about The 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People. We hosted a webinar a few weeks back on this subject and over 60 guys jumped on to watch. But many of you couldn't make it.

If you have struggled going 100% porn free this past year it may be that you're just missing a 1 or 2 key puzzle pieces. So today I reveal the 5 essential habits of porn free people who go 30, 60, 365+ days without porn.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:08pm CST

If everything I do is preventative, setting up filters, rules, boundaries,etc. -- how do I know if I'm recovering? Am I really getting better? What are proactive things can I do speed up my recovery?

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

Smartphones are the #1 threat to being porn free today. They are up to a 100x more powerful than computers we used a few years ago and sit on our nightstand. But smartphones are not the problem, it's our relationship with them.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:58pm CST

Slips. Close calls. Edging. How do we define those little behaviors that are related to our old porn rituals? Matt tackles the age old recover problem: Did we have a slip or did we relapse?

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 6:09pm CST

The real scandal behind the Ashley Madison hack didn't make headlines, but it has real implications for guys who want to go porn free. I'll share what we can learn from Ashley Madison and what it has in common with sites like Google,YouTube, and Facebook.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:45pm CST

This summer my mailbox has been full. In this episode, I'll be answering questions from listeners. You can always email at matt@pornfreeradio.com. I am the only one who checks that email box. Please include your first name. If there is anything you need to keep private please give me the heads up.

Questions discussed in this episode:

- Why did I Binge after 30 days of success?
- How do you build more trust in your relationship with your wife?
- What advice do you have for partners on the other side of porn addiction?
- How do I not get conceded in my recovery, letting down my guard because I figured it out?

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:07pm CST

Have you ever gotten home and realized you were alone with unaccountable time? And your next thought was, "Yippe I can look at porn."

Or have you ever had 10 minutes of free time on your smart phone and thought no one will know if I do a quick search?

Well you have experienced Home Alone Syndrome. It's that all too common trap we get in when we are alone. It can short circuit weeks of strong sobriety in minutes.

In this episode we break down the 3 lies that surround Home Alone Syndrome. We also discuss 3 ways to counteract this dangerous pattern.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

This is part 2 of 2 episodes with Craig Perra from the Mindful Habit. In this episode, Craig continues to document his profound and emotional experience shooting the reality TV show, Living With the Enemy, where he lived with a porn star for 8 days.

The show concludes with a powerful scene where Craig takes Emily back to the scene of his darkest moment.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

In early 2015, Craig Perra, life coach from the Mindful Habit, lived with a porn star, Emily Nicholson for 8 days. They were on the Lifetime reality series, Living With the Enemy.

This is part 1 of 2 episodes with Craig where we get his take on the show and how it affected him. In this episode we talk about Craig's experience being on set at a porn shoot.
The second of two episodes on temptation is all about the way of the escape. Temptation is common to all men. And we have the ability to make choices in the moment. It might feel automatic now, but you can disrupt the temptation cycle and find the way of escape.

Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:26am CST

The second of two episodes on temptation is all about the way of the escape. Temptation is common to all men. And we have the ability to make choices in the moment. It might feel automatic now, but you can disrupt the temptation cycle and find the way of escape.

Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment

Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:34am CST

Our first of two episodes on temptation is all about your desire. Before you learn how to deal with temptation, you have to first define what it really means. Then you have to see the temptation cycle and how your desire drives it.

Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:13pm CST

The phrase "porn addiction side effects" is searched in Google over 60, 000 times a month. Guys are looking for answers in attempt to self-diagnose things like, Porn-induced Erectile Dysfunction, depression, intrusive thoughts, dopamine headaches, fetishes, and escalating behaviors. In this episode, we look at the porn addiction side effects that are common to all of us who struggle.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 5:39pm CST

Our final installment in our three-part series on Getting Started, focuses on your plan. "Fail to plan. Plan to fail.", is a true statement. Without a plan in place you continue to get triggered, go to unsafe places, and relapse. Again and again. At the end of this episode you will have the tools to build a simple plan that you can improve on as time goes on.

See episode 040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom and 041 Getting Started Pt 2: Phone A Friend to listen from the beginning.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:18pm CST

The second in our three-part series on Getting Started, focuses on asking for help. Whether it's a phone call, a text, or a face to face meeting we need to bring others into our struggle with pornography. Pornography addiction thrives in isolation and the way out is making connection. See episode 040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom to listen from the beginning.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:56pm CST

Our first in a three-part series on Getting Started is all about hitting rock bottom and how your darkest moment can be a great gift in your recovery.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:10am CST

You ever wonder why stores place candy by the checkout counter? In this episode, we talk about what we can learn at the grocery store about our porn addiction. I also share three ways you can use reverse engineering to reinforce quitting porn.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:20pm CST

If we’ve left the country where porn controls our life, how can we still live in our old house there? For many the desire to change is followed by this struggle. We have packed up and moved for good and yet we still want to go back and try and live in our old house. We want to revisit old habits. Matt just completed an actual move so the metaphor is top of mind for our journey out of porn.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:50am CST

Looking back at my recovery process, I wouldn't change much. The missteps and relapses helped me strengthen my plan. I learned a lot from my mistakes. But I realize now there were something in those early days that I could of done which would of shaved years off of the process. Mind you it's not something easy. But if you can put in place and keep it, you're recovery will immediately go to the next level.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 6:03pm CST

Pornfree Radio is for motivated guys who want to quit looking at porn. But how do you find motivation? Are there any bad motivations for quitting porn? Why does it help to get specific about what your primary motivation is?

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:29pm CST

Craig Perra, founder of The Mindful Habit, returns for a powerful conversation about 12 Step groups and the disease model for treating addiction. Together, we discuss some of the pros and cons of 12 step groups and the alternatives.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

Christian guys make up the majority of my audience and Christians have some compelling reasons to want to eliminate porn from their lives. It's in direct conflict with the teachings of Jesus.

In Jesus' most famous sermon he said, "You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Jesus equates this act of looking at a women with lustful intent as being the same as breaking the 7th commandment, "You shall not commit adultery."

But knowing what’s right and doing something about are two different things.

Christian guys bring some strengths to our porn free community and also some blind spots. I cover them both here and have some advice for taking action.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:44am CST

When I started this podcast I wasn't sure who would join this community and go on this ride for me. I had been mostly doing this stuff with in my church and was used to working with Christian guys. But a good number of downloads came from guys who considered themselves non-religious. No mater what word you use, Agnostic, Atheist, Skeptic, Free Thinker, etc. there is hope for you to quit porn.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:33am CST

The culture tells us porn addiction is made up. But we know different. There is something about this behavior that we have grown tired of. It is not serving us well. In this episode, Matt goes through a simple self-assessment of porn addiction. He also shares a simple definition of addiction that may change the way you define it.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

Getting caught downloading pornography by my wife was not my rock bottom. In this episode, I tell the story of the most significant and scary night in my recovery. My personal turning point.

Happy to be back after my hiatus. New episodes are coming each and every Monday along with new content and ways to connect.

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:31am CST

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