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“What we call personality,” Steve Chandler writes. “Is just a history of habits.”

Fixed beliefs about who we are can block us from making the commitments that lead to transformation.

On this episode, Sam Dobschuetz joins Matt to discuss.

https://recoveredman.com/324

Direct download: pfr324.mp3
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Do you struggle making time for self care? Do you suck at being creative? In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, we break down 15 self care habits that take 5 minutes of less.

https://recoveredman.com/323

Direct download: pfr323.mp3
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I asked a group of coaching clients recently, "what is your weakest link in your recovery?"

Answers ranged from objectifying women to old iPads, from social media to working at home alone. Even feelings like rejection and entitlement were part of the mix.

On this episode, I'll explain what's behind these weak links and how to eliminate them

https://recoveredman.com/322

Direct download: pfr322.mp3
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Sam Dobschuetz joins Porn Free Radio for a super-sized episode. In this show, you'll learn Matt's 17 Porn Free Pro Tips.

These powerful tips will help you level up your recovery. Many are brand new ideas. (#16 is a game changer IMHO.)

https://recoveredman.com/321

Direct download: pfr321.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:11pm CST

Being sick brings many situations that can lead to slips.

For example, feeling fatigued, out of routine, being alone, bored, entitlement, need to rest, entertainment/browsing, no exercise etc.

In this episode, we talk about the tools we can use to get better without relapsing.

https://recoveredman.com/320

Direct download: pfr320.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:00pm CST

In this classic PFR episode, I share the 12 commitments that led to mastery in my journey to quit porn.  Originally published January 24, 2018.

https://recoveredman.com/319

Direct download: pfr319.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:53am CST

New to PFR... its our PUNK episodes.  A four-part coaching series.

Part 4 is reducing the effort and sacrifice required. It takes less work to succeed than to fail!

https://recoveredman.com/318

Direct download: pfr318.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:39am CST

The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2023 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., Matt “The Dobber” Dobschuetz and your host, Sammy D (Sam Dobschuetz.) 

Join three coaches for our third annual episode about our shared passion, NFL Football.

https://recoveredman.com/317

Direct download: pfr317.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:27pm CST

New to PFR... its our PUNK episodes.  A four-part coaching series.

Part 3 is about decreasing the time it takes for you to see progress and get to your end goal.

https://recoveredman.com/316

Direct download: pfr316.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:25am CST

New to PFR... it's our PUNK episodes.  A four-part coaching series.

Part 2 is about increasing your perceived likelihood for success and building your confidence. 

https://recoveredman.com/315

Direct download: pfr315.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:59am CST

New to PFR... it's our PUNK episodes.  A four-part coaching series.

Part 1 is about maximizing your porn free dream. Getting more clarity about where you're going. 

https://recoveredman.com/314

Direct download: pfr314.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:49pm CST

Michael and Aaron visit PFR to celebrate 2 years porn free. Both listeners reached this milestone earlier this Summer.

In this episode, the guys share about life before the streak, their current recovery habits, and dealing with temptation. They also consider the future impact as a result of this transformation. 

https://recoveredman.con/313

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In recovery we focus a lot on triggers. Avoiding them. Reducing them. Anticipating them.

But our thoughts, especially the ones that feel automatic, often prompt our behaviors.

This PFR classic episode, from Oct of 2019, is about becoming aware of our automatic thoughts and how to change them.

https://recoveredman.com/312

Direct download: pfr312.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:43am CST

In recovery circles we often use labels rather than descriptions. Words like sex addict or porn addiction are hastily applied or adopted. But often we miss getting a greater understanding of ourselves and the truth of our situation.

Bill Herring, LCSW, CSAT joins Porn Free Radio to share his framework for assessing problematic sexuality. It can easily be used to assess problematic porn use.
https://recoveredman.com/311

Direct download: pfr311.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01pm CST

In this episode, you’ll learn how to create a hyper-focused 7-day recovery plan.

Originally published March 1, 2017.

https://recoveredman.com/310

Direct download: pfr310.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:06pm CST

It’s another EPIC PFR crossover podcast. This time with Vern Tompke from Finding Traction. 

In this episode we talk about hope for two types of guys:

  1. A guy new to recovery and
  2. A guy who's been at recovery a while, but has only experienced mixed success. For him doubts are starting to creep in.

Whether you relate to one guy or the other, I share with you 5 ways to get more hope in your recovery.

https://recoveredman.com/309

Direct download: pfr309.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:45am CST

In PFR episode 307, we looked at problematic porn use through Dr. Robert Vallerand's passion framework.

Dr. Vallerand proposes two types of passion; obsessive passion and harmonious passion.

When letting go obsessive passions it is necessary to cultivate harmonious ones. On this show we talk about how to find your harmonious passions.

https://recoveredman.com/308

Direct download: pfr308.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:01pm CST

Sam Dobschuetz, cohost of Coffee with the Dobber and the 2 Ramblers Podcast, joins PFR this week. On this episode, we discuss looking at problematic porn use through a passion framework. We compare the two types of passion proposed by Dr. Robert Vallerand (Université du Québec à Montréal) and some takeaways for transforming your passions.

This was originally released as a Coffee with the Dobber, our exclusive podcast for contributors to PFR

Direct download: pfr307.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:36am CST

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share how successful guys overcome edging.

Edging is any unsound activity that mimics our old patterns with porn. It's one of main habits that blocks long-term recovery and success. 

And chances are if you don’t know what it is, you’re probably doing it.

https://recoveredman.com/306

Direct download: pfr306.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:00am CST

Coach Jay Pyatt, from The Couple Cure, returns to Porn Free Radio for a discussion about lying.

Matt has often said that lying was the "second addiction" he had to recover from. The habits around lying, hiding, keeping secrets, omission, and minimizing were just as strong as the porn was.

Our long-term recovery depends on us building the skills of honesty.

https://recoveredman.com/305

Direct download: pfr305.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:18pm CST

Golf season is officially here in the U.S. and Texas golf pro, JR Bohn, joins us on Porn Free Radio.

We discuss the parallels between golf and recovery including building skills, the importance of your approach and set up, and recovering from bad shots. 

We discuss the parallels between golf and recovery including building skills, the importance of your approach and set up, and recovering from bad shots.

And for you guys who love taking care of your lawns, we talk grass and the secret to growing bent-grass greens in Texas.

FORE!

https://recoveredman.com/304

Direct download: pfr304.mp3
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In part 2 of our Excuses series, Matt shares some powerful questions to challenge the negative and distorted thinking revealed in our excuses.

If you missed part 1, listen to PFR 302 – Excuses Pt. 1: The Top 50 Revealed w/ Vern Tompke and Jason George.

All progress starts by telling the truth.”
— Dan Sullivan

https://recoveredman.com/303

 

Direct download: pfr303.mp3
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In part one of a two-part series, Vern Tompke and Jason George join Porn Free Radio. In this episode, we discuss the top 50 excuses guys make for keeping porn in their life.

In part 2, Matt shares some tools for overcoming denial and eliminating excuses in your recovery.

https://recoveredman.com/302

Direct download: pfr302.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:42pm CST

Guys often see relapse as an event where a bottom-line behavior in engaged in. In this scenario recovery is measured by the absence of relapse events.

It's more helpful to see relapse as a state that we can easily enter in and out of based on our thoughts and actions. It's full of hiding, unsound activities, and unhealthy living.

https://recoveredman.com/301

Direct download: pfr301.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 6:15pm CST

We celebrate episode 300 of Porn Free Radio with the return of Dr. Benjamin Hardy, author of Be Your Future Self Now.

In this episode you'll learn about your "Future Self" and how you can leverage this powerful concept in your recovery today. 

https://recoveredman.com/300

Direct download: pfr300.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:11pm CST

In this SUPER-SIZED episode, I'm hitting the Porn Free Radio mailbag and answering questions like... How do I watch TV during recovery? What can you do to guard yourself against temptation? Do you recommend any good books on forming good habits? What wisdom can you share with struggling teens? All this and more.

https://recoveredman.com/299

Direct download: pfr299.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:27am CST

Getting long-term sobriety is similar to getting your car to go 300,000 miles. It's going to take really good maintenance habits. 

On this episode, Matt shares 10 Keys to Long-Term Sobriety with REV Coach, Vern Tompke.  

https://recoveredman.com/298

Direct download: pfr298.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:28am CST

Jason Portnoy, author of the memoir, Silicon Valley Porn Star, shares his road to healing from porn and sex addiction in the midst of silicon valley success.

https://recoveredman.com/297

Direct download: pfr297.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:26am CST

In recovery, we often measure success with days, streaks, and sobriety dates. But should we? What's the value?

On today's episode, Matt Dobschuetz is joined by REV Coaches, Chris White and Vern Tompke.

https://recoveredman.com/296

Direct download: pfr296.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:50am CST

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share my 10 porn rules for my recovery.

Now your rules may look different, but if you see one that could help you, try it out! It could be the difference between you going 10 days porn free and 10 years porn free.

Originally published October 1, 2020.

https://recoveredman.com/295

Direct download: pfr295.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:31pm CST

The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2022 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., and your host Matt Dobschuetz.

Join three coaches for our second annual episode about our shared passion, NFL football.

https://recoveredman.com/294

Direct download: pfr294.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:42am CST

Porn Free Radio is full of Matt's porn and recovery stories. But for 292 episodes, one voice has been conspicuously absent; Matt's wife, Janice Dobschuetz.

In this episode, Janice tells her side of the story.

Together with Hope Ray, Janice recounts her memories of discovering Matt's porn use in marriage and the early days of recovery. She also shares her advice and hope for partners in the same situation now.

https://recoveredman.com/293

Direct download: pfr293.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:48pm CST

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share 5 common lies I hear from guys trying to quit porn and 5 powerful truths to overcome them.

https://recoveredman.com/292

Direct download: pfr292.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:06pm CST

In early 2022, the Chicago Bears hired a new head coach. Matt Eberflus, previously the defensive coordinator for the Indianapolis Colts, has a philosophy that he instills in all his teams. In this episode, we apply Coach E's HITS Principal to our recovery. Bear Down!

https://recoveredman.com/291

Direct download: pfr291.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:22pm CST

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share my interview with Psychotherapist Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. Originally published July 2, 2019.

https://recoveredman.com/290

Direct download: pfr290.mp3
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Nick Stumbo, Executive Director for Pure Desire, sits in on Porn Free Radio Today. In this episode, Matt and Nick talk about being all in with recovery, basketball,  the 2022 Pure Desire summit, and our favorite decade, the 90's.

https://recoveredman.com/289

Direct download: pfr289.mp3
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Dr. Jake Porter, Founder & President of Daring Ventures, sits in on Porn Free Radio today.

In this conversation, Dr. Jake shares about the powerful connection between attachment and recovery. You'll learn about the hopeful process of earned secure attachment, where as adults, we can learn to rebuild security and attachment in our relationships.

https://recoveredman.com/288

Direct download: pfr288.mp3
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In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share a vision for you. The hard work you're doing to be porn free today WILL lead to more satisfaction in your future if you embrace connection and fellowship. Originally published January 10, 2020.

“The most satisfactory years of your existence lie ahead.”
Alcoholics Anonymous (The Big Book) Chapter 11. p. 152

https://recoveredman.com/287

Direct download: pfr287.mp3
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Hope Ray returns to Porn Free Radio today and asks Matt the questions partners want to know. 

Questions like: What do you teach men about accountability?  When should guys make out reach calls? What kind of attitude should guys have about being honest and vulnerable? What's the power of men connecting in a group? Will groups always be necessary? Does recovery for men ever getting easier? And more.

https://recoveredman.com/286

Direct download: pfr286.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:11am CST

Drew Boa from Husband Material, is sitting in on Porn Free Radio today. He shares how understanding your sexual fantasies can lead to greater freedom in recovery.

Drew is professional coach and podcaster who helps men outgrow pornography. He the author of Redeemed Sexuality and host of the Husband Material Podcast. Drew lives in Santa Barbara, California with his wife and two kids. 

https://recoveredman.com/285

Direct download: pfr285.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:38pm CST

Hope Ray, is sitting in on Porn Free Radio today and answering questions porn free men ask about their partners.

Questions like: How can I build the skill of ongoing honesty if any confession is interpreted as betrayal? What can I do if my partner is uncomfortable with me being involved or leading a recovery group? And more.

https://recovereredman.com/284

Direct download: pfr284.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:20am CST

We often think Summer is a time for kicking back and taking it easy. But that kind of thinking flows towards our weaknesses.

Building on PFR 282 - Reframing Summer, how can we create some fun growth opportunities this season?

In this podcast: 10 Ideas To Electrify Your Summer designed to challenge and inspire you to action.

https://recoveredman.com/283

Direct download: pfr283.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:51pm CST

Summer often brings with it challenges for guys in recovery. People wearing less clothes, triggering situations like beaches or pools, and changes to our normal routine (summer hours, vacations) can trip us up. But how we view these challenges can change how we experience them.

On this episode, we talk about the essential recovery skill of reframing.

https://recoveredman.com/282

Direct download: pfr282.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:34pm CST

Do you consider yourself a nice guy? Do you care a lot about what people think of you? Do you often put people's needs and wants before your own? Do you ever think if you could just eliminate porn from your life then everything would be okay? So what's so

So what's so wrong about being a nice guy?

Nice guys are inherently dishonest. They show people one version of themselves, the "nice guy" in order to get approval. They hide anything else they find unacceptable. This can include needs, flaws, mistakes, wounds, emotions, and desires. This practice fundamentally undermines the process of recovery. 

On this episode, Jason George from the GRIZ podcast joins this episode of Porn Free Radio. The guys discuss integrity, "nice guy syndrome", and what's needed to live a whole, undivided life. 

https://recoveredman.com/281

Direct download: pfr281.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:11am CST

Aaron, a 38 year-old married man, from South Carolina (by way of Staten Island, NY) joins us on the 1 year anniversary of being porn free.

We talk about Wu-Tang Clan, the New York Jets, and Aaron's inspiring porn free journey.

https://recoveredman.com/280

Direct download: pfr280.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:40am CST

Craig Perra, coach and founder of the The Mindful Habit, joins PFR for his record-setting 6th episode.

Craig shares about his recent trip to Coachella, what's exciting him now in coaching, and he makes a big TV announcement.

https://recoveredman.com/279

Direct download: pfr279.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:28pm CST

The hits keep on coming. It’s another EPIC PFR crossover with the Pure Desire Podcast. Trevor Winsor and Nick Stumbo joined me back in PFR 233 for a great discussion about recovery.

On today’s show we talk about my book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn. We discuss self-rejection, connection in recovery, and the power of groups.

https://recoveredman.com/278

Direct download: pdf278.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:28am CST

It's another EPIC PFR crossover with the Pirate Monk Podcast. Nate Larkin and Aaron Porter joined me in PFR 214 for a great discussion about recovery.

On today's show we talk about what the guys have been up to since 2019. We discuss my new book, music, and even skateboarding. 

https://recoveredman.com/277

Direct download: pfr277.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:57am CST

On today's show it's another EPIC PFR crossover podcast with Unleash the Man Within with Sathiya Sam.

Sathiya is a former pastor, coach, and author of the new book, The Last Relapse.

https://recoveredman.com/276

Direct download: pfr276.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

Twice a month, I have a REV Coach Meet-Up with Vern Tompke (ep. 266) and Chris White (ep. 270.) I learn a lot from these guys as we discuss leading our groups and life in recovery. So I asked them to come on PFR and do a live meet-up.

We start by discussing the Johann Hari's quote that that "the opposite of addiction is not sobriety, it's connection" and we go from there.

https://recoveredman.com/275

Direct download: pfr275.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:07am CST

Author and Master Coach, Steve Chandler, shares some of his biggest ideas for tranformation and growth. His own recovery from addiction became a springboard for reinventing himself and his habits. Steve credits much of the creativity in his writing and coaching practice to this process. 

Grab a coffee and listen to my fun and relaxing conversation with Steve. It will inspire you!

https://recoveredman.com/274

Direct download: pfr274.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:53pm CST

On today's show it's another EPIC PFR crossover podcast with The Flip Side with Noah Filipiak. Noah is a pastor and author of Beyond the Battle: A Man's Guide to His Identity in Christ in an Oversexualized World.

https://recoveredman.com/273

Direct download: pfr273.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:24pm CST

In this episode, I share one of the biggest take-aways from my new book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn (visit https://pornfreebook.com.)

"Porn is not the problem for us," I write  "It's the solution."

https://recoveredman.com/272

Direct download: pfr272.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:42pm CST

New Years' resolutions generally fail for one of two reasons; they are either too BIG or too BORING.

BIG resolutions often fail due to lack of commitment and a specific plan. It's easy to lose sight of the goal quickly and give up.

BORING resolutions are usually based on a trying to adopt good habit the you think you SHOULD do. But they are rarely exciting or motivated.

If you want to grow in 2022, consider something BOLD.

In this podcast I present 10 Bold Recovery Ideas designed to challenge and inspire you to action.

I'm also excited to announce the publication of my new book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man That Does Not Look at Porn. Available at https://pornfreebook.com.

https://recoveredman.com/271

Direct download: pfr271.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:28pm CST

Coach Chris White joins Porn Free Radio today. In this episode, Chris shares his experience growing up in the shadow of Shelley Manor in the beach town of  Bournemouth, England.

He details his struggle with porn and the big shift he made when he joined a powerful recovery group.

https://recoveredman.com/270

Direct download: pfr270.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:52pm CST

What's your single, motivating purpose for going porn free? We're looking to tap into is your own intrinsic motivation for recovery. I call this your WHY and it's the starting point for all of my paid clients.

In this episode, I teach you the 3 steps find your WHY.

https://recoveredman.com/269

Direct download: pfr269.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:38am CST

After relapse we often feel dejected and confused. We sometimes begin to question our ability to fully recover.

But what if we looked at relapse as a path to progress? What if our struggle could fuel our growth?

https://recoveredman.com/268

Direct download: pfr268.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:17pm CST

In PFR 242 – How To Avoid A Big Crash, I share recovery insights from a career pilot. To protect his anonymity and security clearance I referred to him as “Major X.”

The main takeaway was how successful pilots avoid crash landings. Hint: it's all about their approach.

“A stable approach usually leads to a good landing, while an unstable approach often leads to a bad landing. ” — Major X

Well Major X is back, in person this time, with more recovery wisdom from flying.

https://recoveredman.com/267

Direct download: pfr267.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:59am CST

This episode is all about the tipping point in recovery.

The tipping point is the point at which a series of small steps becomes significant enough to cause a large more significant change.

Coach and podcaster, Vern Tompke, joins Porn Free Radio this episode.

https://recoveredman.com/266

Direct download: pfr266.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:25am CST

If we define addiction as "an extreme version of a habit." Then recovery is the process where we transform our habits.

But what new habits do we need to create to get free?

In this episode, I will show you how to identify the areas that drive our cravings and porn use. Then how to map new habits for greater freedom. 

https://recoveredman.com/265

Direct download: pfr265.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 7:51pm CST

Organizational psychologist and bestselling author, Dr. Benjamin Hardy, joins Porn Free Radio today.

On this episode, we'll discuss the most empowering and healthy way to measure yourself from his new book with Dan Sullivan, The Gap and the Gain.

If you get this concept it will lead to more happiness and fulfillment in your life and your recovery.

https://recoveredman.com/264

Direct download: pfr264.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:36am CST

The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2021 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Kris Pavone, and your host Matt Dobschuetz.

Join three coaches for special PFR episode about our shared passion, NFL football.

If you’re not an American football fan, you might just be after you listen to this episode!

https://recoveredman.com/263

Direct download: pfr263.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:34pm CST

Recently, a client of mine noticed a pattern. The day after a relapse he would have more clarity about his life and recovery. He would be aware of his feelings and some immediate actions he needed to take. Often he would feel prompted to reach out to another guy in his recovery group.

All of these were positive benefits. So he asked the question, “How do I relapse without relapsing?”

https://recoveredman.com/262

Direct download: pfr262.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:23am CST

This is the final episode of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else?

On this episode, we examine the outside-in belief that your happiness is determined by your life conditions.

https://recoveredman.com/261

Direct download: pfr261.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 7:30pm CST

This is the third of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else?

On this episode, we examine the belief that our value comes from what people think of us.

https://recoveredman.com/260

Direct download: pfr260.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:28pm CST

This is the second of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else?

On this episode, we examine the assumption that your past performance indicates your future results.

https://recoveredman.com/259

Direct download: pfr259.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:16am CST

This is the first of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else?

On this episode, we examine the idea that your personality is permanent.

https://recoveredman.com/258

Direct download: pfr258.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:47am CST

Therapist Hope Ray, from Hope Ray Therapy, joins Porn Free Radio for part 2 of 2 partner-focused episodes.

https://recoveredman.com/257

Direct download: pfr257.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

Shawna Meek from Living Stones Coaching joins Porn Free Radio for part 1 of 2 partner-focused episodes.

https://recoveredman.com/256

Direct download: pfr256.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:49pm CST

On today's episode, we tackle 3 loaded questions...

  1. If there was no moral problem with your porn use, would it be okay?

  2. If your partner was cool with your porn use, would it be okay?

  3. If your porn use was 100% ethical, i.e. - no one was harmed or misused, would it be okay?

https://recoveredman.com/255

Direct download: pfr255.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:50pm CST

A mega-sized episode about relationships and recovery with Brendan Burns, coach and host of the Brendan Burns show.

https://recoveredman.com/254

Direct download: pfr254.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:07am CST

On today's show, we discuss how our sense of uniqueness and the stories we tell ourselves about our struggle can block our freedom and keep us isolated.

https://recoveredman.com/253

Direct download: pfr253.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:40pm CST

On today's show, we consider the challenging quote,

"Craving is NOT something that happens to you; it’s something you actively do." — The Freedom Model, p. 59.

https://recoveredman.com/252

Direct download: pfr252.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:40pm CST

I get asked this question a lot; "Why Do I Look At Porn?"

We think if we can figure out the root cause of why we look at porn it would help us quit.

In this episode, I share the short answer of why. It's what Blaise Pascal calls "the motive of every action of every man."

http://recoveredman.com/251

Direct download: pfr251.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:50am CST

We continue our discussion from episode 249 on perfectionism and our obsession with an acceptable image.

In this episode, I share listener emails and a powerful resource to deal with perfectionism.

https://recoveredman.com/250

Direct download: pfr250.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CST

This podcast is about the other p-word in your life: perfectionism.

If you don't identify with being a perfectionist now you may after hearing this episode.

https://recoveredman.com/249

Direct download: pfr249.mp3
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In part 3 of our 3-part series on Personal Mastery, we talk about creating a peak state model of the world. The goal is to spend the majority of your time in life feeling centered, strong, and fulfilled.

https://recoveredman.com/248

Direct download: pfr248.mp3
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In part 2 of our 3-part series on personal mastery, we discuss how you can change your state in challenging situations. In fact, the real Jedi mind trick comes when you begin to link your triggers to the actions that change your state.

https://recoveredman.com/247

Direct download: pfr247.mp3
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Over the next 3 episodes, we are discussing the 3 levels of Personal Mastery. In part 1, we discuss what shapes our decisions and how we get more control in our life.

https://recoveredman.com/246

Direct download: pfr246.mp3
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"Get an accountability partner" is the default advice given to guys early in recovery.

In this episode, I move past the common thinking about accountability and discuss a new way of thinking about this powerful recovery relationship.

Shout out to Jason George, host of the GRIZ Podcast, who contributes monthly to PFR. He suggested this important topic. Thanks GRIZ!

https://recoveredman.com/245

 

Direct download: pfr245.mp3
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Have you gotten stuck? Has your motivation slipped? Have you lost some of your desire to change?

In today's episode, I share the 3% tool to shift your thinking and get you back on track.

https://recoveredman.com/244

Direct download: pfr244.mp3
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Seventeenth-century, philosopher and mathematician, Blaise Pascal argued that "there are two opposing secret instincts in men."

The secrets confuse us and lead us to a search that can never be satisfied.

https://recoveredman.com/243

Direct download: pfr243.mp3
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In this episode, I share recovery insights from a career pilot. You'll learn the secret of how successful pilots avoid bad landings.

https://recoveredman.com/242

Direct download: pfr242.mp3
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In this episode, I reveal my 10 porn rules. Your rules may look different, but if you see one that could help you, try it out! It could be the difference between you going 10 days porn free and 10 years porn free.

https://recoveredman.com/241

Direct download: pfr241.mp3
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In a follow-up to episode 239, I discuss the difference between failure and results in recovery.

For more on the Owner/Victim choice described by Steve Chandler listen to PFR 213 - Are You An Owner Or A Victim?

http://recoveredman.com/213

Direct download: pfr240.mp3
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In this episode, I talk about what it means to be ALL IN.

"The decision had been made and all that was left to do was whatever it took. And that involved no consideration. There was no more deliberation."

— Chris Dorris, ALL IN!

https://recoveredman.com/239

Direct download: pfr239.mp3
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In this episode, I talk about the fear of being misunderstood. The irony is we give so much energy, in life, to what people think and how we're perceived. But despite our best efforts we still are misunderstood. 

https://recoveredman.com/238

Direct download: pfr238.mp3
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In this episode coach and podcaster, Brendan Burns, hosts a crossover episode about why now is the best time to make positive changes in your life.

This episode features Don't Trust the Cloud by Lee Rosevere. Visit http://leerosevere.bandcamp.com

https://recoveredman.com/237

Direct download: pfr237.mp3
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Do you care a lot about what people think? Do you struggle with feeling good enough? Do you avoid conflict? When you relapse to you feel a lot of shame?

If so you may be living life in what Steve Chandler calls the "Social Self." In this episode, we define the "Social Self" and contrast it with our goal in recovery, the "Authentic Self."

http://recoveredman.com/236

PFR is sponsored by BetterHelp
https://trybetterhelp.com/recoveredman

Direct download: pfr236.mp3
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"I’m committed to being porn free because I’m sick and tired of living off of chicken nuggets and french fries and I want more ski slopes, Hulk rides, and BBQ in my life.”

— The Epic Why Statement from a PFR Listener

Is your recovery boring? Here’s how to start reclaiming your creativity and imagination today.

https://recoveredman.com/235

Direct download: pfr235.mp3
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Nick Stumbo and Trevor Winsor join me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Pure Desire Podcast.

https://recoveredman.com/233

Direct download: pfr233.mp3
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In this episode, I discuss what Tony Robbins calls the two driving forces in life that motivate us. I also share a quick exercise you can use to take action on things you are avoiding.

Direct download: pfr232.mp3
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For years I struggled with unaccountable time. The idea that there were situations where I was alone and not accountable. But it's a myth. All time is accountable. It's measured. It's limited. And we ALWAYS choose how it's spent.

https://recoveredman.com/231

Direct download: pfr231.mp3
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The things you have learned from recovery can actually help you lead and serve others in challenging times.

I'm excited to announce a new PFR sponsor: BetterHelp. To get 10% off your first month of professional counseling go to https://trybetterhelp.com/recoveredman.

Direct download: pfr230.mp3
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Jason George aka "The Griz" rides shotgun on this episode where I share 5 powerful anchor habits you can build into your recovery right now.

https://recoveredman.com/229

Direct download: pfr229.mp3
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Recovery Coach Jay Pyatt joins me for the final episode of the coaches trilogy that started in PFR 226. We discuss current events, sheltering-in-place and Covid-19. Jay also shares some awesome recovery ideas from his own journey and from coaching others.

https://recoveredman.com/228

Direct download: pfr228.mp3
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Podcaster and Coach, Kris Pavone, joins me for a conversation about current events in early 2020. Kris is a teacher, former WWE Wrestler, and the host of the Kris Pavone Show.

https://recoveredman.com/227

Direct download: pfr227.mp3
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We're facing a tsunami of feelings and emotions these days. How do we deal with emotions in a skillful way? In this episode, I share a powerful tool you can use today.

https://recoveredman.com/225

Direct download: pfr225.mp3
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In this episode, I talk about how to deal with uncertainty in turbulent times, 6 leadership lessons we can learn from polar explorer, Sir Ernest Shackleton, and the practical ways we can apply them to our recovery.

https://recoveredman.com/224

Direct download: pfr224.mp3
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How do we grow and transform in our lives? We have to go through the 4 C's of Recovery. And no one recovers without going through a period of courage. "Having courage and pursuing a goal despite fear," Dan Sullivan writes. "Is what moves us forward." In this episode, you'll learn the stages of recovery and why you may be stuck.

https://recoveredman.com/223

Direct download: pfr223.mp3
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