Porn Free Radio (Porn Free Radio)

Join Matt and Sam Dobschuetz as they read listener letters celebrating 10 years of Porn Free Radio. Take hope and take action!

https://recoveredman.com/335

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:51am CDT

Do you see yourself as broken or an addict? Then this episode is for you.

Over the last 10 years, I have had a shift in my thinking;  I have moved away from diagnosing and pathologizing porn behaviors (disease model.) And I moved towards a choice/ownership model. I invite the guys I work with to examine their choices, define problematic behaviors, developing their why for going porn free, and come up with creative solutions to solve their challenges.

I treat guys from day one as whole people with the capacity and capability to form new habits and change their relationship with porn.

This is part 9 in our series, The Choice is Yours.

https://recoveredman.com/334

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:43pm CDT

Before recovery, I lived a divided life. I hid anything I found unacceptable from my friends and family including my problematic porn use. On the surface, I presented a "nice guy" version of myself to be liked and accepted. It was exhausting and painfully lonely.

In recovery, my why is "to be the same on the inside as on the outside." But this requires honesty.

This is part 8 in our series, The Choice is Yours.

http://recoveredman.com/333

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:12pm CDT

We've all heard the phrase, “Fact vs. Fiction.” But a friend of mine said it should be “Fact vs. Fear.” It's fear that often leads us to our escapism and avoidance with porn.

This is part 7 in our new series, The Choice is Yours

https://recoveredman.com/332

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:08am CDT

Is stress based on our perception or is it objective? That was question we discussed in a recent REV group. The stressful situations guys described had one surprising thing in common. And it might change the way you look at stress. 

On this episode, we break down stress and examine what helps us return to calm. 

This is part 6 in our series, The Choice is Yours.

http://recoveredman.com/331

Direct download: pfr331.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:18pm CDT

“You're either working on recovery or you're working on relapse” ― Old guy at my recovery meeting 

Coach Vern Tompke sits in on Porn Free Radio to talk about the line between recovery and relapse.  This is part 5 in our series, The Choice is Yours.

http://recoveredman.com/330

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:57am CDT

MMA coach, Firas Zahabi, emphasizes that consistency in training beats intensity. Consistency is where we build skill and endurance without burning out. And our training volume over time leads to mastery. This powerful concept can be applied to our recovery.

This is part 4 in our series, The Choice is Yours.

https://recoveredman.com/329

 

Direct download: pfr329.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:56pm CDT

When you started recovery, the challenge was overwhelming (high) and your skill level was low.

And chances are if you have not significantly changed your habits, the challenge feels about the same.

For a long time the only tool in your tool box was willpower. Some version of "JUST SAY NO."

But often willpower is easily exhausted. It gives out when we need it most.

What if I told you success in recovery is not about increasing your willpower, it's about building skills.

This is part 3 in our series, The Choice is Yours.

https://recoveredman.com/328

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:25am CDT

“Porn is not the problem for us,” I write in my book. “It’s the solution.” It may feel like the problem in your life that needs to be fixed. But if you’re using porn there is a need that is driving it. It’s a solution.

This is part 2 in our series, The Choice is Yours.

https://recoveredman.com/327

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:06am CDT

Author Steve Chandler often says there are two types of people in the world; owners and victims. Victims see themselves as victims of their situation or circumstance. Life happens to them. Owners on the hand while they can't control every situation and circumstance, they control their reaction to any situation. Learning the habits of thinking like an owner is essential to be porn free. 

This is part 1 in our new series, The Choice is Yours.

https://recoveredman.com/326

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:50pm CDT

Matt Dobschuetz is back with a fresh episode of Porn Free Radio. Sam Dobschuetz joins in-studio to discuss Dobber recently reaching 13 years porn free. Take hope and take action! 

https://recoveredman.com/325

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:27am CDT

“What we call personality,” Steve Chandler writes. “Is just a history of habits.”

Fixed beliefs about who we are can block us from making the commitments that lead to transformation.

On this episode, Sam Dobschuetz joins Matt to discuss.

https://recoveredman.com/324

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:15pm CDT

Do you struggle making time for self care? Do you suck at being creative? In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, we break down 15 self care habits that take 5 minutes of less.

https://recoveredman.com/323

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:02am CDT

I asked a group of coaching clients recently, "what is your weakest link in your recovery?"

Answers ranged from objectifying women to old iPads, from social media to working at home alone. Even feelings like rejection and entitlement were part of the mix.

On this episode, I'll explain what's behind these weak links and how to eliminate them

https://recoveredman.com/322

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:40am CDT

Sam Dobschuetz joins Porn Free Radio for a super-sized episode. In this show, you'll learn Matt's 17 Porn Free Pro Tips.

These powerful tips will help you level up your recovery. Many are brand new ideas. (#16 is a game changer IMHO.)

https://recoveredman.com/321

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:11pm CDT

Being sick brings many situations that can lead to slips.

For example, feeling fatigued, out of routine, being alone, bored, entitlement, need to rest, entertainment/browsing, no exercise etc.

In this episode, we talk about the tools we can use to get better without relapsing.

https://recoveredman.com/320

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:00pm CDT

In this classic PFR episode, I share the 12 commitments that led to mastery in my journey to quit porn.  Originally published January 24, 2018.

https://recoveredman.com/319

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:53am CDT

New to PFR... its our PUNK episodes.  A four-part coaching series.

Part 4 is reducing the effort and sacrifice required. It takes less work to succeed than to fail!

https://recoveredman.com/318

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:39am CDT

The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2023 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., Matt “The Dobber” Dobschuetz and your host, Sammy D (Sam Dobschuetz.) 

Join three coaches for our third annual episode about our shared passion, NFL Football.

https://recoveredman.com/317

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:27pm CDT

New to PFR... its our PUNK episodes.  A four-part coaching series.

Part 3 is about decreasing the time it takes for you to see progress and get to your end goal.

https://recoveredman.com/316

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:25am CDT

New to PFR... it's our PUNK episodes.  A four-part coaching series.

Part 2 is about increasing your perceived likelihood for success and building your confidence. 

https://recoveredman.com/315

Direct download: pfr315.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:59am CDT

New to PFR... it's our PUNK episodes.  A four-part coaching series.

Part 1 is about maximizing your porn free dream. Getting more clarity about where you're going. 

https://recoveredman.com/314

Direct download: pfr314.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:49pm CDT

Michael and Aaron visit PFR to celebrate 2 years porn free. Both listeners reached this milestone earlier this Summer.

In this episode, the guys share about life before the streak, their current recovery habits, and dealing with temptation. They also consider the future impact as a result of this transformation. 

https://recoveredman.con/313

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:08pm CDT

In recovery we focus a lot on triggers. Avoiding them. Reducing them. Anticipating them.

But our thoughts, especially the ones that feel automatic, often prompt our behaviors.

This PFR classic episode, from Oct of 2019, is about becoming aware of our automatic thoughts and how to change them.

https://recoveredman.com/312

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:43am CDT

In recovery circles we often use labels rather than descriptions. Words like sex addict or porn addiction are hastily applied or adopted. But often we miss getting a greater understanding of ourselves and the truth of our situation.

Bill Herring, LCSW, CSAT joins Porn Free Radio to share his framework for assessing problematic sexuality. It can easily be used to assess problematic porn use.
https://recoveredman.com/311

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01pm CDT

In this episode, you’ll learn how to create a hyper-focused 7-day recovery plan.

Originally published March 1, 2017.

https://recoveredman.com/310

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:06pm CDT

It’s another EPIC PFR crossover podcast. This time with Vern Tompke from Finding Traction. 

In this episode we talk about hope for two types of guys:

  1. A guy new to recovery and
  2. A guy who's been at recovery a while, but has only experienced mixed success. For him doubts are starting to creep in.

Whether you relate to one guy or the other, I share with you 5 ways to get more hope in your recovery.

https://recoveredman.com/309

Direct download: pfr309.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:45am CDT

In PFR episode 307, we looked at problematic porn use through Dr. Robert Vallerand's passion framework.

Dr. Vallerand proposes two types of passion; obsessive passion and harmonious passion.

When letting go obsessive passions it is necessary to cultivate harmonious ones. On this show we talk about how to find your harmonious passions.

https://recoveredman.com/308

Direct download: pfr308.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:01pm CDT

Sam Dobschuetz, cohost of Coffee with the Dobber and the 2 Ramblers Podcast, joins PFR this week. On this episode, we discuss looking at problematic porn use through a passion framework. We compare the two types of passion proposed by Dr. Robert Vallerand (Université du Québec à Montréal) and some takeaways for transforming your passions.

This was originally released as a Coffee with the Dobber, our exclusive podcast for contributors to PFR

Direct download: pfr307.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:36am CDT

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share how successful guys overcome edging.

Edging is any unsound activity that mimics our old patterns with porn. It's one of main habits that blocks long-term recovery and success. 

And chances are if you don’t know what it is, you’re probably doing it.

https://recoveredman.com/306

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:00am CDT

Coach Jay Pyatt, from The Couple Cure, returns to Porn Free Radio for a discussion about lying.

Matt has often said that lying was the "second addiction" he had to recover from. The habits around lying, hiding, keeping secrets, omission, and minimizing were just as strong as the porn was.

Our long-term recovery depends on us building the skills of honesty.

https://recoveredman.com/305

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:18pm CDT

Golf season is officially here in the U.S. and Texas golf pro, JR Bohn, joins us on Porn Free Radio.

We discuss the parallels between golf and recovery including building skills, the importance of your approach and set up, and recovering from bad shots. 

We discuss the parallels between golf and recovery including building skills, the importance of your approach and set up, and recovering from bad shots.

And for you guys who love taking care of your lawns, we talk grass and the secret to growing bent-grass greens in Texas.

FORE!

https://recoveredman.com/304

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:40am CDT

In part 2 of our Excuses series, Matt shares some powerful questions to challenge the negative and distorted thinking revealed in our excuses.

If you missed part 1, listen to PFR 302 – Excuses Pt. 1: The Top 50 Revealed w/ Vern Tompke and Jason George.

All progress starts by telling the truth.”
— Dan Sullivan

https://recoveredman.com/303

 

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:05pm CDT

In part one of a two-part series, Vern Tompke and Jason George join Porn Free Radio. In this episode, we discuss the top 50 excuses guys make for keeping porn in their life.

In part 2, Matt shares some tools for overcoming denial and eliminating excuses in your recovery.

https://recoveredman.com/302

Direct download: pfr302.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:42pm CDT

Guys often see relapse as an event where a bottom-line behavior in engaged in. In this scenario recovery is measured by the absence of relapse events.

It's more helpful to see relapse as a state that we can easily enter in and out of based on our thoughts and actions. It's full of hiding, unsound activities, and unhealthy living.

https://recoveredman.com/301

Direct download: pfr301.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 6:15pm CDT

We celebrate episode 300 of Porn Free Radio with the return of Dr. Benjamin Hardy, author of Be Your Future Self Now.

In this episode you'll learn about your "Future Self" and how you can leverage this powerful concept in your recovery today. 

https://recoveredman.com/300

Direct download: pfr300.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:11pm CDT

In this SUPER-SIZED episode, I'm hitting the Porn Free Radio mailbag and answering questions like... How do I watch TV during recovery? What can you do to guard yourself against temptation? Do you recommend any good books on forming good habits? What wisdom can you share with struggling teens? All this and more.

https://recoveredman.com/299

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:27am CDT

Getting long-term sobriety is similar to getting your car to go 300,000 miles. It's going to take really good maintenance habits. 

On this episode, Matt shares 10 Keys to Long-Term Sobriety with REV Coach, Vern Tompke.  

https://recoveredman.com/298

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:28am CDT

Jason Portnoy, author of the memoir, Silicon Valley Porn Star, shares his road to healing from porn and sex addiction in the midst of silicon valley success.

https://recoveredman.com/297

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:26am CDT

In recovery, we often measure success with days, streaks, and sobriety dates. But should we? What's the value?

On today's episode, Matt Dobschuetz is joined by REV Coaches, Chris White and Vern Tompke.

https://recoveredman.com/296

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:50am CDT

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share my 10 porn rules for my recovery.

Now your rules may look different, but if you see one that could help you, try it out! It could be the difference between you going 10 days porn free and 10 years porn free.

Originally published October 1, 2020.

https://recoveredman.com/295

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:31pm CDT

The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2022 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., and your host Matt Dobschuetz.

Join three coaches for our second annual episode about our shared passion, NFL football.

https://recoveredman.com/294

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:42am CDT

Porn Free Radio is full of Matt's porn and recovery stories. But for 292 episodes, one voice has been conspicuously absent; Matt's wife, Janice Dobschuetz.

In this episode, Janice tells her side of the story.

Together with Hope Ray, Janice recounts her memories of discovering Matt's porn use in marriage and the early days of recovery. She also shares her advice and hope for partners in the same situation now.

https://recoveredman.com/293

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:48pm CDT

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share 5 common lies I hear from guys trying to quit porn and 5 powerful truths to overcome them.

https://recoveredman.com/292

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:06pm CDT

In early 2022, the Chicago Bears hired a new head coach. Matt Eberflus, previously the defensive coordinator for the Indianapolis Colts, has a philosophy that he instills in all his teams. In this episode, we apply Coach E's HITS Principal to our recovery. Bear Down!

https://recoveredman.com/291

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:22pm CDT

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share my interview with Psychotherapist Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. Originally published July 2, 2019.

https://recoveredman.com/290

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:42pm CDT

Nick Stumbo, Executive Director for Pure Desire, sits in on Porn Free Radio Today. In this episode, Matt and Nick talk about being all in with recovery, basketball,  the 2022 Pure Desire summit, and our favorite decade, the 90's.

https://recoveredman.com/289

Direct download: pfr289.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:52pm CDT

Dr. Jake Porter, Founder & President of Daring Ventures, sits in on Porn Free Radio today.

In this conversation, Dr. Jake shares about the powerful connection between attachment and recovery. You'll learn about the hopeful process of earned secure attachment, where as adults, we can learn to rebuild security and attachment in our relationships.

https://recoveredman.com/288

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:54pm CDT

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share a vision for you. The hard work you're doing to be porn free today WILL lead to more satisfaction in your future if you embrace connection and fellowship. Originally published January 10, 2020.

“The most satisfactory years of your existence lie ahead.”
Alcoholics Anonymous (The Big Book) Chapter 11. p. 152

https://recoveredman.com/287

Direct download: pfr287.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:06am CDT

Hope Ray returns to Porn Free Radio today and asks Matt the questions partners want to know. 

Questions like: What do you teach men about accountability?  When should guys make out reach calls? What kind of attitude should guys have about being honest and vulnerable? What's the power of men connecting in a group? Will groups always be necessary? Does recovery for men ever getting easier? And more.

https://recoveredman.com/286

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:11am CDT

Drew Boa from Husband Material, is sitting in on Porn Free Radio today. He shares how understanding your sexual fantasies can lead to greater freedom in recovery.

Drew is professional coach and podcaster who helps men outgrow pornography. He the author of Redeemed Sexuality and host of the Husband Material Podcast. Drew lives in Santa Barbara, California with his wife and two kids. 

https://recoveredman.com/285

Direct download: pfr285.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:38pm CDT

Hope Ray, is sitting in on Porn Free Radio today and answering questions porn free men ask about their partners.

Questions like: How can I build the skill of ongoing honesty if any confession is interpreted as betrayal? What can I do if my partner is uncomfortable with me being involved or leading a recovery group? And more.

https://recovereredman.com/284

Direct download: pfr284.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:20am CDT

We often think Summer is a time for kicking back and taking it easy. But that kind of thinking flows towards our weaknesses.

Building on PFR 282 - Reframing Summer, how can we create some fun growth opportunities this season?

In this podcast: 10 Ideas To Electrify Your Summer designed to challenge and inspire you to action.

https://recoveredman.com/283

Direct download: pfr283.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:51pm CDT

Summer often brings with it challenges for guys in recovery. People wearing less clothes, triggering situations like beaches or pools, and changes to our normal routine (summer hours, vacations) can trip us up. But how we view these challenges can change how we experience them.

On this episode, we talk about the essential recovery skill of reframing.

https://recoveredman.com/282

Direct download: pfr282.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:34pm CDT

Do you consider yourself a nice guy? Do you care a lot about what people think of you? Do you often put people's needs and wants before your own? Do you ever think if you could just eliminate porn from your life then everything would be okay? So what's so

So what's so wrong about being a nice guy?

Nice guys are inherently dishonest. They show people one version of themselves, the "nice guy" in order to get approval. They hide anything else they find unacceptable. This can include needs, flaws, mistakes, wounds, emotions, and desires. This practice fundamentally undermines the process of recovery. 

On this episode, Jason George from the GRIZ podcast joins this episode of Porn Free Radio. The guys discuss integrity, "nice guy syndrome", and what's needed to live a whole, undivided life. 

https://recoveredman.com/281

Direct download: pfr281.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:11am CDT

Aaron, a 38 year-old married man, from South Carolina (by way of Staten Island, NY) joins us on the 1 year anniversary of being porn free.

We talk about Wu-Tang Clan, the New York Jets, and Aaron's inspiring porn free journey.

https://recoveredman.com/280

Direct download: pfr280.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:40am CDT

Craig Perra, coach and founder of the The Mindful Habit, joins PFR for his record-setting 6th episode.

Craig shares about his recent trip to Coachella, what's exciting him now in coaching, and he makes a big TV announcement.

https://recoveredman.com/279

Direct download: pfr279.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:28pm CDT

The hits keep on coming. It’s another EPIC PFR crossover with the Pure Desire Podcast. Trevor Winsor and Nick Stumbo joined me back in PFR 233 for a great discussion about recovery.

On today’s show we talk about my book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn. We discuss self-rejection, connection in recovery, and the power of groups.

https://recoveredman.com/278

Direct download: pdf278.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:28am CDT

It's another EPIC PFR crossover with the Pirate Monk Podcast. Nate Larkin and Aaron Porter joined me in PFR 214 for a great discussion about recovery.

On today's show we talk about what the guys have been up to since 2019. We discuss my new book, music, and even skateboarding. 

https://recoveredman.com/277

Direct download: pfr277.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:57am CDT

On today's show it's another EPIC PFR crossover podcast with Unleash the Man Within with Sathiya Sam.

Sathiya is a former pastor, coach, and author of the new book, The Last Relapse.

https://recoveredman.com/276

Direct download: pfr276.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CDT

Twice a month, I have a REV Coach Meet-Up with Vern Tompke (ep. 266) and Chris White (ep. 270.) I learn a lot from these guys as we discuss leading our groups and life in recovery. So I asked them to come on PFR and do a live meet-up.

We start by discussing the Johann Hari's quote that that "the opposite of addiction is not sobriety, it's connection" and we go from there.

https://recoveredman.com/275

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:07am CDT

Author and Master Coach, Steve Chandler, shares some of his biggest ideas for tranformation and growth. His own recovery from addiction became a springboard for reinventing himself and his habits. Steve credits much of the creativity in his writing and coaching practice to this process. 

Grab a coffee and listen to my fun and relaxing conversation with Steve. It will inspire you!

https://recoveredman.com/274

Direct download: pfr274.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:53pm CDT

On today's show it's another EPIC PFR crossover podcast with The Flip Side with Noah Filipiak. Noah is a pastor and author of Beyond the Battle: A Man's Guide to His Identity in Christ in an Oversexualized World.

https://recoveredman.com/273

Direct download: pfr273.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:24pm CDT

In this episode, I share one of the biggest take-aways from my new book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn (visit https://pornfreebook.com.)

"Porn is not the problem for us," I write  "It's the solution."

https://recoveredman.com/272

Direct download: pfr272.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:42pm CDT

New Years' resolutions generally fail for one of two reasons; they are either too BIG or too BORING.

BIG resolutions often fail due to lack of commitment and a specific plan. It's easy to lose sight of the goal quickly and give up.

BORING resolutions are usually based on a trying to adopt good habit the you think you SHOULD do. But they are rarely exciting or motivated.

If you want to grow in 2022, consider something BOLD.

In this podcast I present 10 Bold Recovery Ideas designed to challenge and inspire you to action.

I'm also excited to announce the publication of my new book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man That Does Not Look at Porn. Available at https://pornfreebook.com.

https://recoveredman.com/271

Direct download: pfr271.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:28pm CDT

Coach Chris White joins Porn Free Radio today. In this episode, Chris shares his experience growing up in the shadow of Shelley Manor in the beach town of  Bournemouth, England.

He details his struggle with porn and the big shift he made when he joined a powerful recovery group.

https://recoveredman.com/270

Direct download: pfr270.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:52pm CDT

What's your single, motivating purpose for going porn free? We're looking to tap into is your own intrinsic motivation for recovery. I call this your WHY and it's the starting point for all of my paid clients.

In this episode, I teach you the 3 steps find your WHY.

https://recoveredman.com/269

Direct download: pfr269.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:38am CDT

After relapse we often feel dejected and confused. We sometimes begin to question our ability to fully recover.

But what if we looked at relapse as a path to progress? What if our struggle could fuel our growth?

https://recoveredman.com/268

Direct download: pfr268.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:17pm CDT

In PFR 242 – How To Avoid A Big Crash, I share recovery insights from a career pilot. To protect his anonymity and security clearance I referred to him as “Major X.”

The main takeaway was how successful pilots avoid crash landings. Hint: it's all about their approach.

“A stable approach usually leads to a good landing, while an unstable approach often leads to a bad landing. ” — Major X

Well Major X is back, in person this time, with more recovery wisdom from flying.

https://recoveredman.com/267

Direct download: pfr267.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:59am CDT

This episode is all about the tipping point in recovery.

The tipping point is the point at which a series of small steps becomes significant enough to cause a large more significant change.

Coach and podcaster, Vern Tompke, joins Porn Free Radio this episode.

https://recoveredman.com/266

Direct download: pfr266.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:25am CDT

If we define addiction as "an extreme version of a habit." Then recovery is the process where we transform our habits.

But what new habits do we need to create to get free?

In this episode, I will show you how to identify the areas that drive our cravings and porn use. Then how to map new habits for greater freedom. 

https://recoveredman.com/265

Direct download: pfr265.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 7:51pm CDT

Organizational psychologist and bestselling author, Dr. Benjamin Hardy, joins Porn Free Radio today.

On this episode, we'll discuss the most empowering and healthy way to measure yourself from his new book with Dan Sullivan, The Gap and the Gain.

If you get this concept it will lead to more happiness and fulfillment in your life and your recovery.

https://recoveredman.com/264

Direct download: pfr264.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:36am CDT

The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2021 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Kris Pavone, and your host Matt Dobschuetz.

Join three coaches for special PFR episode about our shared passion, NFL football.

If you’re not an American football fan, you might just be after you listen to this episode!

https://recoveredman.com/263

Direct download: pfr263.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:34pm CDT

Recently, a client of mine noticed a pattern. The day after a relapse he would have more clarity about his life and recovery. He would be aware of his feelings and some immediate actions he needed to take. Often he would feel prompted to reach out to another guy in his recovery group.

All of these were positive benefits. So he asked the question, “How do I relapse without relapsing?”

https://recoveredman.com/262

Direct download: pfr262.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:23am CDT

This is the final episode of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else?

On this episode, we examine the outside-in belief that your happiness is determined by your life conditions.

https://recoveredman.com/261

Direct download: pfr261.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 7:30pm CDT

This is the third of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else?

On this episode, we examine the belief that our value comes from what people think of us.

https://recoveredman.com/260

Direct download: pfr260.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:28pm CDT

This is the second of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else?

On this episode, we examine the assumption that your past performance indicates your future results.

https://recoveredman.com/259

Direct download: pfr259.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:16am CDT

This is the first of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else?

On this episode, we examine the idea that your personality is permanent.

https://recoveredman.com/258

Direct download: pfr258.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:47am CDT

Therapist Hope Ray, from Hope Ray Therapy, joins Porn Free Radio for part 2 of 2 partner-focused episodes.

https://recoveredman.com/257

Direct download: pfr257.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CDT

Shawna Meek from Living Stones Coaching joins Porn Free Radio for part 1 of 2 partner-focused episodes.

https://recoveredman.com/256

Direct download: pfr256.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:49pm CDT

On today's episode, we tackle 3 loaded questions...

  1. If there was no moral problem with your porn use, would it be okay?

  2. If your partner was cool with your porn use, would it be okay?

  3. If your porn use was 100% ethical, i.e. - no one was harmed or misused, would it be okay?

https://recoveredman.com/255

Direct download: pfr255.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:50pm CDT

A mega-sized episode about relationships and recovery with Brendan Burns, coach and host of the Brendan Burns show.

https://recoveredman.com/254

Direct download: pfr254.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:07am CDT

On today's show, we discuss how our sense of uniqueness and the stories we tell ourselves about our struggle can block our freedom and keep us isolated.

https://recoveredman.com/253

Direct download: pfr253.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:40pm CDT

On today's show, we consider the challenging quote,

"Craving is NOT something that happens to you; it’s something you actively do." — The Freedom Model, p. 59.

https://recoveredman.com/252

Direct download: pfr252.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:40pm CDT

I get asked this question a lot; "Why Do I Look At Porn?"

We think if we can figure out the root cause of why we look at porn it would help us quit.

In this episode, I share the short answer of why. It's what Blaise Pascal calls "the motive of every action of every man."

http://recoveredman.com/251

Direct download: pfr251.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:50am CDT

We continue our discussion from episode 249 on perfectionism and our obsession with an acceptable image.

In this episode, I share listener emails and a powerful resource to deal with perfectionism.

https://recoveredman.com/250

Direct download: pfr250.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CDT

This podcast is about the other p-word in your life: perfectionism.

If you don't identify with being a perfectionist now you may after hearing this episode.

https://recoveredman.com/249

Direct download: pfr249.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:11pm CDT

In part 3 of our 3-part series on Personal Mastery, we talk about creating a peak state model of the world. The goal is to spend the majority of your time in life feeling centered, strong, and fulfilled.

https://recoveredman.com/248

Direct download: pfr248.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:17pm CDT

In part 2 of our 3-part series on personal mastery, we discuss how you can change your state in challenging situations. In fact, the real Jedi mind trick comes when you begin to link your triggers to the actions that change your state.

https://recoveredman.com/247

Direct download: pfr247.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:27am CDT

Over the next 3 episodes, we are discussing the 3 levels of Personal Mastery. In part 1, we discuss what shapes our decisions and how we get more control in our life.

https://recoveredman.com/246

Direct download: pfr246.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:25pm CDT

"Get an accountability partner" is the default advice given to guys early in recovery.

In this episode, I move past the common thinking about accountability and discuss a new way of thinking about this powerful recovery relationship.

Shout out to Jason George, host of the GRIZ Podcast, who contributes monthly to PFR. He suggested this important topic. Thanks GRIZ!

https://recoveredman.com/245

 

Direct download: pfr245.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 5:29pm CDT

Have you gotten stuck? Has your motivation slipped? Have you lost some of your desire to change?

In today's episode, I share the 3% tool to shift your thinking and get you back on track.

https://recoveredman.com/244

Direct download: pfr244.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:18pm CDT

Seventeenth-century, philosopher and mathematician, Blaise Pascal argued that "there are two opposing secret instincts in men."

The secrets confuse us and lead us to a search that can never be satisfied.

https://recoveredman.com/243

Direct download: pfr243.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:31pm CDT

In this episode, I share recovery insights from a career pilot. You'll learn the secret of how successful pilots avoid bad landings.

https://recoveredman.com/242

Direct download: pfr242.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:32pm CDT

In this episode, I reveal my 10 porn rules. Your rules may look different, but if you see one that could help you, try it out! It could be the difference between you going 10 days porn free and 10 years porn free.

https://recoveredman.com/241

Direct download: pfr241.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CDT

In a follow-up to episode 239, I discuss the difference between failure and results in recovery.

For more on the Owner/Victim choice described by Steve Chandler listen to PFR 213 - Are You An Owner Or A Victim?

http://recoveredman.com/213

Direct download: pfr240.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:51pm CDT

In this episode, I talk about what it means to be ALL IN.

"The decision had been made and all that was left to do was whatever it took. And that involved no consideration. There was no more deliberation."

— Chris Dorris, ALL IN!

https://recoveredman.com/239

Direct download: pfr239.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:07pm CDT

In this episode, I talk about the fear of being misunderstood. The irony is we give so much energy, in life, to what people think and how we're perceived. But despite our best efforts we still are misunderstood. 

https://recoveredman.com/238

Direct download: pfr238.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:43pm CDT

In this episode coach and podcaster, Brendan Burns, hosts a crossover episode about why now is the best time to make positive changes in your life.

This episode features Don't Trust the Cloud by Lee Rosevere. Visit http://leerosevere.bandcamp.com

https://recoveredman.com/237

Direct download: pfr237.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:11pm CDT

Do you care a lot about what people think? Do you struggle with feeling good enough? Do you avoid conflict? When you relapse to you feel a lot of shame?

If so you may be living life in what Steve Chandler calls the "Social Self." In this episode, we define the "Social Self" and contrast it with our goal in recovery, the "Authentic Self."

http://recoveredman.com/236

PFR is sponsored by BetterHelp
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Direct download: pfr236.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:48pm CDT