Do you see yourself as broken or an addict? Then this episode is for you.

Over the last 10 years, I have had a shift in my thinking;  I have moved away from diagnosing and pathologizing porn behaviors (disease model.) And I moved towards a choice/ownership model. I invite the guys I work with to examine their choices, define problematic behaviors, developing their why for going porn free, and come up with creative solutions to solve their challenges.

I treat guys from day one as whole people with the capacity and capability to form new habits and change their relationship with porn.

This is part 9 in our series, The Choice is Yours.

https://recoveredman.com/334

Before recovery, I lived a divided life. I hid anything I found unacceptable from my friends and family including my problematic porn use. On the surface, I presented a "nice guy" version of myself to be liked and accepted. It was exhausting and painfully lonely.

In recovery, my why is "to be the same on the inside as on the outside." But this requires honesty.

This is part 8 in our series, The Choice is Yours.

http://recoveredman.com/333

We've all heard the phrase, “Fact vs. Fiction.” But a friend of mine said it should be “Fact vs. Fear.” It's fear that often leads us to our escapism and avoidance with porn.

This is part 7 in our new series, The Choice is Yours. 

https://recoveredman.com/332

Is stress based on our perception or is it objective? That was question we discussed in a recent REV group. The stressful situations guys described had one surprising thing in common. And it might change the way you look at stress. 

On this episode, we break down stress and examine what helps us return to calm. 

This is part 6 in our series, The Choice is Yours.

http://recoveredman.com/331

“You're either working on recovery or you're working on relapse” ― Old guy at my recovery meeting 

Coach Vern Tompke sits in on Porn Free Radio to talk about the line between recovery and relapse.  This is part 5 in our series, The Choice is Yours.

http://recoveredman.com/330