My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions:

- How do I start to feel again?
- How do you address incognito with browsers?
- Help! I'm a big sports fan and when my team loses, I relapse
- Do you have any advice for me on how to pick up the phone?
- Do you have any insight regarding the inevitable progression of the disease?
- How did your wife get past the betrayal?
- My accountability partner is not being honest...

... and more!

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In this episode, we open the Pornfree mail bag, read your letters and answer questions like:

- Do you have any tips for finding a group?
- How long is a reasonable time to think about opening myself up for possible dating?
- How honest is too honest especially this early in our romantic relationship?
- Guys keep dropping out of my recovery group, Help!
- If he doesn't believe he has a porn addiction despite my objection and pain ... do I just have no choice but to divorce?
- If you’re really about helping everyone... why are all your paid-for products so expensive?
- My accountability partner fell of the wagon, what do I do?
- My dad struggles with porn also, how can I help?
- My wife won't have sex with me. Now what?

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Pornography is a habit that is practiced in isolation and in secret. Isn't it just common sense that to break that habit you need others?

This is part 3 of our 3-part series for going porn free in 2017.

You'll learn:

- Why you need a tribe to recover
- Why committing to a group is the single most powerful action you can take to go porn free
- The 7 benefits of being in a strong recovery group

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"Winners anticipate, losers react."
- Tony Robbins.

Listeners who have had success listening to Pornfree Radio have one thing in common. They have a plan. A custom recovery plan is essential to getting free from porn addiction.

This is part 2 of our 3-part series for going porn free in 2017.

You'll learn:

- Why motivation is an exhaustible resource
- Why anticipation beats reaction
- The 8 components of a strong recovery plan

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The post 096 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 2: Your Plan appeared first on Recovered Man.

You need to know why you are eliminating porn from your life. The more clear you are, the better.

It can't just be for your wife, your faith, your family, your job, etc. You have all those things now and you're still stuck.

This is the first of 3 episodes on going porn free in 2017.

You'll learn:

- Why uncovering your true desire is essential to get free
- The difference between external and internal motivation
- A powerful exercise to reveal your why

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The post 095 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 1: Your Why appeared first on Recovered Man.

In this episode, we talk about... Goal Setting. For years goal setting was something I resisted. But in recovery it's become a growing strength.

Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series sits in.

You'll learn:

- Why setting goals matter and why it's essential to your recovery.
- What it means to be a lazy perfectionist?
- The 4 keys for follow through that doesn't suck (My Slacker's Guide To Accomplishing Goals.)

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The post 094 – My Intentions Are Good, But My Follow Through Sucks appeared first on Recovered Man.

How does a morning routine help keep you porn free? That and more are the focus of this episode. Ben Fraser from the Brick House web series sits in.

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A topic that keeps coming up is edging. Edging are the little behaviors that mimic our old ways of acting out.

Hashtags, images searches, channel surfing, second looks, all fall into this category. They seem innocent compared to our old addiction. But they can spell trouble.

Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series sits in and shares his thoughts.

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Matt shares a tool he has been using recently in 1-on-1 coaching to help clients identify the primary feelings in their life.

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"Matt, I'm not perfect. But you know what I am good at? Not relapsing."

One of my friends, with many years of sobriety, once told me this. The secret is what you do when you start getting shaky.

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The post 090 – I’m Not Perfect…But I’m Good At Not Relapsing appeared first on Recovered Man.

Alex Lerza from rTribe visits Pornfree Radio and shares why connection is the opposite of addiction. Alex by training is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. His work as a therapist has come out of his own recovery.

His journey led him to create an app in 2015, with fellow therapist, Josh Kalsbeek, to help people recover for porn addiction. rTribe is a social recovery app for porn and sex addiction. It connects thousands of people each day who are working on recovery from porn. Download the app or visit rTribe.org for more information.

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When looking for help with porn addiction, books seem like a safe way to learn. Especially when ordered online. But what do the search results from Amazon.com tell us about our porn addiction?

I saw some common themes in the books represented. I break down 3 types of the porn addiction books and ask the question: Do they help us recover or are they an excuse for not taking action?

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The post 088 – What I Found When I Searched for “Porn Addiction” on Amazon.com appeared first on Recovered Man.

Whether you're new to Pornfree Radio or have been listening from the beginning, there's a common journey we share.

We all start divided with an external life we show people and a hidden life where our addiction lives. Our ultimate goal is to be whole. To have the inside and outside match.

But how do we get there?

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The post 087 – A Man Divided Cannot Stand appeared first on Recovered Man.

What's missing in recovery? YOU.

Are you showing up? Are you supporting others? Do you know the value of your presence? In this episode, we discuss why everyone should be in a group.

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The post 086 Missing In Action appeared first on Recovered Man.

A year into my recovery, I attended the worst men's group ever. Nobody was having much success and I felt worse going home then when I got there.

In this episode, I share what was missing and how you can revive a struggling group.

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The post 085 The Worst Men’s Group Ever appeared first on Recovered Man.

In episode 75, I shared 5 lies that keep us coming back to porn. This was one of our most downloaded podcasts of the summer.

On a recent Reddit thread, I posted the original 5 lies and users contributed more lies in the comments.

In this episode, I share the lies here and 5 powerful truths that help overcome them.

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The post 084 More Lies That Keep Us Coming Back To Porn appeared first on Recovered Man.

Providing great accountability is more than just encouraging someone when they relapse. In this episode, we talk about 3 tools you can use to make your accountability stronger. These tools can be difference between a guy staying stuck and getting to the next level in their recovery.

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The post 083 Ask More Questions appeared first on Recovered Man.

Is your accountability partner a CHAMP? In this episode, we answer your questions about accountability and accountability partners. You'll also learn the 5 characteristics of great accountability partners.

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The post 082 The 5 Characteristics of Great Accountability Partners appeared first on Recovered Man.

Fresh off of Podcast Movement 2016, Matt welcomes Angus Nelson from the "Up In Your Business" podcast. On this episode, Angus opens up about his history with porn and gets vulnerable.

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The post 081 Up In Your Business w/ Angus Nelson appeared first on Recovered Man.

Matt shares two recent stories from coaching clients and the 1 consistent habit you need to stay porn free.

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The post 080 The 1 Habit You Need To Stay Porn Free appeared first on Recovered Man.

There are three choices you have when dealing with porn. In this episode, Matt shares an embarrassing story and how it applies to your recovery.

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The post 079 The 3 Choices You Have When Dealing With Porn appeared first on Recovered Man.

In episode 4 of Pornfree Radio, we talked about the biggest mistake people make when quitting porn. This episode is one of our most popular and has been downloaded over 5000 times.

In this follow up, I revisit the topic with some further thoughts with how guys get stuck.

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The post 078 The Biggest Mistake People Make When Quitting Porn Pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man.

In each Pornfree Radio podcast, a sale is made. Either you buy what I'm selling about being porn free or you sell me an excuse why you can't.

In this episode, we talk about the seven deadly excuses that come up when trying to quit porn.

DISCLAIMER: These excuses are not aimed at anyone specific. If they sound familiar it's because I hear them a lot.

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I've talked to over sixty guys 1-on-1 this past year about their struggle with porn. When I asked what it has cost them, there is a common answer that comes up over and over again.

But is it the whole story? In this episode, we look at what they said and dig deeper.

In this episode:

- The #1 thing we say porn costs us
- How we dishonor our value with porn
- How porn overrides our lives
- How porn snowballs into the next day
- Why it robs us of our presence

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The post 076 The #1 Thing Porn Costs Us appeared first on Recovered Man.

There are 5 lies I hear over and over again from guys trying to quit porn. These are the mistaken beliefs that go through right before we act out.
In this episode, I label the 5 lies and share 5 powerful truths to help overcome them.

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In episode 70, Hope Ray joined us from HopeRayTherapy.com to discuss the Partners' experience. Hope returns to answer questions from partners, wives, and girlfriends.

In this episode, we answer:

- How do I begin a conversation with my significant other about his porn use?
- Do ultimatums work?
- What if my husband is a brick wall?
- What if he says he's sorry, but doesn't change?
- What if my husband looks at teen porn?

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The post 074 Hope Ray Returns: Partners’ Q&A appeared first on Recovered Man.

Summer is here. And with it brings time off, vacations, new schedules, bikinis, and summer clothing. In this episode, Matt shares ten porn free hacks you can use this Summer to stay on the right track.  Don’t miss hack #8. It’s a new one that goes against popular advice. Sprint Coaching 3-Month Summer Special Fill […]

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Can I be a recovering porn addict and an artist at the same time? What about drawing nudes? Or what about art that is erotic? In the art world, the line between porn and art can be thin. In some cases, one person's "art" is another person's porn!

How can one balance being an artist, viewing art, drawing from life and avoid being triggered?

Hope Ray (from Episode 70) returns Monday, June 6th to answer your questions about recovery and relationships. Email matt@pornfreeradio.com to ask a question.

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https://recoveredman.com/072

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The post 072 Can A Recovering Porn Addict Be An Artist? appeared first on Recovered Man.

The nagging question after any relapse is 'Why?" Why did I look at porn when I was committed not to? Why did I look at porn even though it's harmful to my relationship? Why did I look at porn and put my job at risk?

There are two reasons that drive us to porn and they have little to do with brain science or our capacity for lust.

Hope Ray (from Episode 70) returns Monday, June 6th to answer your questions about recovery and relationships. Email matt@pornfreeradio.com to ask a question.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/071

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The post 071 Why Men Look at Porn appeared first on Recovered Man.

It's been 2 years of Pornfree Radio and this is a show unlike any other. On this episode we focus on partners. We discuss disclosures, coming clean, check-ins, and the partners' experience.

Counselor Hope Ray sits joins Matt for an informative discussion that will help both motivated guys who want to quit looking at porn and the partners who love them.
In this episode:

What and when to tell your wife
The disclosure process
What staggered disclosure is and why it's damaging
F.A.S.T.T. Check-ins

Hope Ray returns Monday, June 6th to answer your questions about recovery and relationships. Email matt@pornfreeradio.com to ask a question.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/070

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

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Opening the mailbag once again this week with a stack of questions from you the listener.

In this episode:

"Is sex in recovery okay?"
"What about hard mode?"
"What about sex when your older?"
"What happens when you and your partner have a different sex drive?"
"What if you're addicted to images that aren't traditional pornography?"

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/069

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

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On this episode, Matt digs into the PFR mailbag and answers some questions listeners want to know.

Questions covered:

"Are you still doing the podcast?"
"How long does it take to quit porn?"
"What worse to relapse in porn or masturbation?"
"Can you recover if you have not hit rock bottom?"
"Where can you look for an accountability partner?"

"We don't think our way to right action, we act our way to right thinking."
- AA Recovery Quote

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/068

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 068 How Long Does It Take To Quit Porn? appeared first on Recovered Man.

Sometimes we discover that we just plain want to hang on porn. We want to be passive and put the responsibility of moving forward on someone else. But it's time to make a decision.

In Episode 66, I asked the question, "Do you really want to fix this?"

This episode struck a nerve with the audience. I received more email then I ever have before. Some guys were worried I was quitting podcasting. Several guys thought my sharp comments were directly at them. And many more shared the action they were taking as a result from this show.

So I thought I would go deeper into what set me off. It's the passive will and a failure to take responsibility.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- The quote that almost got me in a fight
- What we discover about our struggle
- What the passive will is
- About the decision we must make
- What it means to decide

"Sometimes we discover that we just plain want to hang on to the sinful behavior, and some of us even have to face the fact that we then hope to blame God for not "healing" us. We see right away when we are dealing with a passive will, someone who looks lumpishly to a counselor or minister of God to do what only he himself can do. All such things as these come to the fore, along with the memories of where the heart opened itself to envy, bitterness, lust and so on. Then in full confession of our sins of God, we acknowledge our rank foolishness and our propensities to pride and rebellion, and we make a decision about sin."

- Leanne Payne, The Healing Presence

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/067

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

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This show resets the vision of Pornfree Radio. If you are new listener feel free to listen to some old shows. If you're a long timer, it's time to have an honest conversation: Do you want to fix this? Do you really want to fix this?

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/066

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

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This is the final episode in a 3 podcast series about dealing with porn at work. We've identified in episode 63 the risks of using porn at work. In episode 64 we talked about how your leadership is compromised.

In part 3, Ben from the Brick House Web Series, joins me to discuss strategies for eliminating porn at work and getting things done.

If you don't pay appropriate attention to what has your attention, it will take more of your attention than it deserves. - David Allen, Getting Things Done

In this episode, you'll learn:

- What GTD is
- Why you need to treat your work environment as a project
- Why you need a plan for work
- What are the unique emotional triggers, mistaken beliefs, and weak links at work
- How to take action at work
- Why we need a self care at work

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/065

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

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This is part 2 of 3 episodes on porn use and the work place. Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series joins me again. This time we discuss the effect of porn use on your leadership at work.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- How porn steals your focus at work
- How it
- How it zaps your vision and erodes your confidence
- How it compromises your moral leadership
- Why even if people don't find out, they will experience the effects

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/064

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 064 Not Safe For Work Pt 2: The Impotent Leader appeared first on Recovered Man.

According to a survey* conducted by the Barna Group in the U.S. in 2014: 63% of adult men have looked at pornography at least one time while at work in the past 3 months; 38% have done so more than once.

It's a BIG issue. And there are HUGE risks to viewing porn at work.

Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series joins me for 1st of 3 podcasts on porn use at work.

*2014 ProvenMen.org Pornography Use at Work Survey (conducted by the Barna Group)

In this episode, you'll learn:

- About your personal risk of using porn at work
- The jaw dropping stats of porn at work
- What triggers work place porn use
- The 4 main areas of risk
- The harm of "working under the influence"
- Why porn steals more than just your time

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/063

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

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Matt is joined by Brick House web series creator, Ben Fraser. Ben first visited Pornfree Radio for episode 24 on Creativity and Recovery.

In this episode, Matt and Ben discuss the second season of Brick House (now available on YouTube.) Then they turn their attention to a passionate letter from a listener.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/062

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The post 062 A Bone To Pick appeared first on Recovered Man.

Saying goodbye to your stash is hard to do. It's been with you a long time. It's like a security blanket. But it is something that has to be done if you want freedom.

In this episode, we talk about the strength to delete it all. We also discuss the things to watch out for when you get close to 30 days porn free.

You'll learn:

- About my second chance offers for 2016
- The details of a listener success story
- What it took to finally delete that old stash
- 4 things to watch out for when your near the 30-day porn free mark

2016 Second Chance Offers
http://recoveredman.com/secondchance

Get access to Your Porn Free Playbook or 1-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz at a great rate through February 5, 2016. Save $100 off Your Porn Free Playbook Course OR $300 off a 3-month coaching package.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/061

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

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In this episode, recorded on my 5th anniversary of being 100% porn free. I share the 5 biggest things that have helped me stay porn free since January 2011.

In this episode you'll learn:

- About my last relapse
- Why I need consistent, transparent relationships with other guys
- Why open communication and trust with my wife was key to my success
- Why I eliminated dangerous media in my life
- How I took a hard line on edging
- How helping others helps keep me porn free

Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course)
Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community.
http://recoveredman.com/playbook

Sprint Coaching Openings
Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you.
http://recoveredman.com/coaching

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/060

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

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Continuing our discussion on relapse from episode 58. In this show we talk about the lies we believe and how to prevent relapse.

In this episode you'll learn:

- Matt's favorite character from Star Wars: The Force Awakens
- Common lies we believe when in relapse
- Warning signs of relapse
- How to avoid relapse
- Why bringing even small things into the light helps us
- Listener Question: What do you do when you're trying to sleep and lustful thoughts keep pounding your mind?

Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret. But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible, for anything that becomes visible is light.

- Ephesians 5:11-14 (ESV)

Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course)
Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community.
http://recoveredman.com/playbook

Sprint Coaching Openings
Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/059

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

http://pornfreebook.com

Join a REV Group

http://recoveredman.com/rev

1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

https://recoveredman.com/coaching

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