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"Get an accountability partner" is the default advice given to guys early in recovery.

In this episode, I move past the common thinking about accountability and discuss a new way of thinking about this powerful recovery relationship.

Shout out to Jason George, host of the GRIZ Podcast, who contributes monthly to PFR. He suggested this important topic. Thanks GRIZ!


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Have you gotten stuck? Has your motivation slipped? Have you lost some of your desire to change?

In today's episode, I share the 3% tool to shift your thinking and get you back on track.

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Seventeenth-century, philosopher and mathematician, Blaise Pascal argued that "there are two opposing secret instincts in men."

The secrets confuse us and lead us to a search that can never be satisfied.

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In this episode, I share recovery insights from a career pilot. You'll learn the secret of how successful pilots avoid bad landings.

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In this episode, I reveal my 10 porn rules. Your rules may look different, but if you see one that could help you, try it out! It could be the difference between you going 10 days porn free and 10 years porn free.

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In a follow-up to episode 239, I discuss the difference between failure and results in recovery.

For more on the Owner/Victim choice described by Steve Chandler listen to PFR 213 - Are You An Owner Or A Victim?

Direct download: pfr240.mp3
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In this episode, I talk about what it means to be ALL IN.

"The decision had been made and all that was left to do was whatever it took. And that involved no consideration. There was no more deliberation."

— Chris Dorris, ALL IN!

Direct download: pfr239.mp3
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In this episode, I talk about the fear of being misunderstood. The irony is we give so much energy, in life, to what people think and how we're perceived. But despite our best efforts we still are misunderstood.

Direct download: pfr238.mp3
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In this episode coach and podcaster, Brendan Burns, hosts a crossover episode about why now is the best time to make positive changes in your life.

This episode features Don't Trust the Cloud by Lee Rosevere. Visit

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Do you care a lot about what people think? Do you struggle with feeling good enough? Do you avoid conflict? When you relapse to you feel a lot of shame?

If so you may be living life in what Steve Chandler calls the "Social Self." In this episode, we define the "Social Self" and contrast it with our goal in recovery, the "Authentic Self."

PFR is sponsored by BetterHelp

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"I’m committed to being porn free because I’m sick and tired of living off of chicken nuggets and french fries and I want more ski slopes, Hulk rides, and BBQ in my life.”

— The Epic Why Statement from a PFR Listener

Is your recovery boring? Here’s how to start reclaiming your creativity and imagination today.

Direct download: pfr235.mp3
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Guys in recovery are often focused on sobriety. But what is your sobriety for? What does it make possible? And in light of the recent tragedy, in Minnesota, how does our recovery journey inform our response to the situation.

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Nick Stumbo and Trevor Winsor join me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Pure Desire Podcast.

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In this episode, I discuss what Tony Robbins calls the two driving forces in life that motivate us. I also share a quick exercise you can use to take action on things you are avoiding.

Direct download: pfr232.mp3
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For years I struggled with unaccountable time. The idea that there were situations where I was alone and not accountable. But it's a myth. All time is accountable. It's measured. It's limited. And we ALWAYS choose how it's spent.

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The things you have learned from recovery can actually help you lead and serve others in challenging times.

I'm excited to announce a new PFR sponsor: BetterHelp. To get 10% off your first month of professional counseling go to

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Jason George aka "The Griz" rides shotgun on this episode where I share 5 powerful anchor habits you can build into your recovery right now.

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Recovery Coach Jay Pyatt joins me for the final episode of the coaches trilogy that started in PFR 226. We discuss current events, sheltering-in-place and Covid-19. Jay also shares some awesome recovery ideas from his own journey and from coaching others.

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Podcaster and Coach, Kris Pavone, joins me for a conversation about current events in early 2020. Kris is a teacher, former WWE Wrestler, and the host of the Kris Pavone Show.

Direct download: pfr227.mp3
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How can we reframe the challenges that come from disruption, travel restriction, and sheltering in place?

Business and life coach, Brendan Burns, visits again for a cross-over podcast about Covid-19, recovery, and more.

Direct download: pfr226.mp3
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We're facing a tsunami of feelings and emotions these days. How do we deal with emotions in a skillful way? In this episode, I share a powerful tool you can use today.

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In this episode, I talk about how to deal with uncertainty in turbulent times, 6 leadership lessons we can learn from polar explorer, Sir Ernest Shackleton, and the practical ways we can apply them to our recovery.

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How do we grow and transform in our lives? We have to go through the 4 C's of Recovery. And no one recovers without going through a period of courage. "Having courage and pursuing a goal despite fear," Dan Sullivan writes. "Is what moves us forward." In this episode, you'll learn the stages of recovery and why you may be stuck.

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Step One of any 12-step program says, "We admitted we were powerless..." But are we powerless? And if so how does it help us to admit this?

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With each new year, we reflect on what happened in the past 12 months and wonder, "what's next?"

Well, what if I told you that life will have more meaning and satisfaction for you this year. Today's show is about painting a vision for you in 2020 and beyond. Let's go!

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It's a New Year and it's expected that we talk about goals. But I am not going to do that. Because I see things a little differently...

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