Porn Free Radio

Business and Life Coach Brendan Burns joins me for a crossover podcast. In this super-sized episode, we talk about recovery, sushi, sex, dating, relationships, and kicking ass in life.

Learn more about Brendan at https://www.brendanhburns.com.

https://recoveredman.com/219

Direct download: pfr219.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:40am CDT

At some point in recovery, you have to put in effort and hard work to move forward. Internally we resist this. We see effort as pain and we want to avoid this fact. But our happiness and success ultimately depends on our growth.

https://recoveredman.com/218

Direct download: pfr218.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:39am CDT

On today's show, I share a powerful daily habit that creates focus, gives you more clarity in your thinking, and actually makes recovery easier.

https://recoveredman.com/217

Direct download: pfr217.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:51am CDT

Does your personality or the way you define yourself get in the way of recovery?

https://recoveredman.com/216

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:23am CDT

What is the motivation for recovery? If it's primarily fear we have a problem. Fear-based recovery can inspire action at first but eventually exhausts us.

https://recoveredman.com/215

Direct download: pfr215.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:20am CDT

Nate Larkin and Aaron Porter join me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Pirate Monk Podcast. 

https://recoveredman.com/214

Direct download: pfr214.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:35pm CDT

When it comes to situations in your life, how do you often respond?

Are you in habit of being an owner or a victim? Your ability to go porn depends on this...

https://recoveredman.com/213

Direct download: pfr213.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:36pm CDT

Today, I am asking some questions... why do we struggle with commitment and follow-through? Why do resist creating healthy boundaries? And finally, if "the opposite of addiction is connection" why do we avoid it?

https://recoveredman.com/212

Direct download: pfr212.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 9:38pm CDT

We focus on triggers a lot in recovery. Anticipating them. Avoiding them. Reducing them. But our thoughts, especially the ones that feel automatic often prompt our behaviors. This episode is about becoming aware of our thoughts and how to change them.

https://recoveredman.com/211

Direct download: pfr211.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CDT

In this episode, I share about one of my heroes, my rusty Buick, and the most unpleasant success principle in the world.

https://recoveredman.com/210

Direct download: pfr210.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:56am CDT

What story do you tell yourself after a setback?

  • That you're not disciplined enough?
  • That you're lacking confidence?
  • Or will power?

The truth is we simply lack commitment.

https://recoveredman.com/209

Direct download: pfr209.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:35am CDT

Following up on episode 207, Pain Not Transformed is Transmitted, I answer the specific question of how our pain is transformed.

"We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship. Indeed, we cannot be fully healed outside of a relationship."

— Harville Hendrix, Getting The Love You Want

https://recoveredman.com/208

Direct download: pfr208.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:56pm CDT

"If we do not transform our pain," Richard Rohr writes. "We will most assuredly transmit it." On today's show, I talk about how we avoid pain with porn and how the work of recovery is about transforming pain.

https://recoveredman.com/207

Direct download: pfr207.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:01pm CDT

Our culture would have us believe that all we can't fully enjoy life if we choose recovery.

But the opposite is true.

When we put the proper boundary on porn and our addictions, we get access to the rest of life.

In this virtually coaching session, we talk about how you can begin to design a kick-ass life.

https://recoveredman.com/206

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CDT

Do you have an idea of some actions you should take in recovery?

Or is there a behavior that you know you need to eliminate?

What's stopping you?

In this virtual coaching session, I explain how our excuses reveal our beliefs.

https://recoveredman.com/205

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Direct download: pfr205.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 6:09pm CDT

I have a stack of emails today and I'm answering your questions...

What's the best way to tell my girlfriend about a relapse?
Is a realistic goal to abstain from masturbation when there is no relationship in sight?
Should I tell my accountability about the massage parlor?
Can you help me understand my horrific, porn withdrawal experience?

AND MORE...

1-on-1 Coaching
Interested in having a custom coaching experience with me? Send an email to matt@recoveredman.com with the subject "Coaching."

https://recoveredman.com/204

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 6:23pm CDT

Recently I was dealt a crushing blow. Because of a flight cancelation, I went from having a first class ticket to a middle seat in the back of the plane.

On this episode, we talk about dealing with disappointment and why we feel what we focus on.

https://recoveredman.com/203

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:34am CDT

My interview with Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing.

https://recoveredman.com/202

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:29pm CDT

Today's episode is about being kind to yourself, having compassion, and finding self-care.

https://recoveredman.com/201

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Direct download: pfr201.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 11:25am CDT

Superfan, Jon Jones, interviews Matt in a special show to celebrate 200 episodes of Porn Free Radio.

https://recoveredman.com/200

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Direct download: pfr200.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:23pm CDT

Gentlemen, we're not alone in this.

In this episode, we break down the ingenious PFR theme created by Adam the producer.

https://recoveredman.com/199

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 5:48pm CDT

The first step in recovery is exposure, whether it's from getting caught or getting courage. The exposure helps us press into honesty.

In this episode, we talk about the why we avoid exposure and the gifts of being known.

https://recoveredman.com/198

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Direct download: pfr198.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:30pm CDT

We draw big conclusions from the type of we've looked at. Feelings like we are unique. We are disgusting or abnormal. But these are tricks of our ego to keep us stuck.

https://recoveredman.com/197

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Direct download: pfr197.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 7:53pm CDT

In today's episode, I share what we can learn about recovery from the John Wick saga.

Get access to my new audio series, Coffee with the Dobber, on Patreon.

Link:
https://recoveredman.com/contribute

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:34am CDT

It's confession time on Porn Free Radio. My sobriety is intact, but I have been struggling with a mistaken belief in two areas of my life. And it's time to come clean.

https://recoveredman.com/195

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:48pm CDT

On today's episode, your questions...How do you rebound after edging? What's the connection with porn addiction and depression/anxiety? And a crazy topic, I have never discussed on Porn Free Radio plus more.

https://recoveredman.com/194

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 5:47pm CDT

In the second of 2 episodes, Matt finishes our discussion on the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by Cal Newport.

https://recoveredman.com/192

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Direct download: pfr193.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:01am CDT

In the first of 2 episodes, Matt digs into the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by author and Computer Science professor, Cal Newport.

https://recoveredman.com/192

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 12:02am CDT

When we feel rejected we think, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody."

Rejection is a huge trigger and can be an obstacle to healthy recovery.

It keeps us isolated and alone.

https://recoveredman.com/191

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Direct download: pfr191.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 3:17pm CDT

Need a boost?
A 7-day stretch goal can help energize your recovery this week.

In this episode, you'll learn what a 7-day stretch goal is, why it's important, and how to set one.

https://recoveredman.com/190

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Direct download: pfr190.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 1:16pm CDT

In episode 113 of PFR, a listener named Jon wrote, "I'm becoming the type of man who does not look at porn."

This idea has connected with many listeners since it posted back in 2017.

Today, I read a letter from Rob who shares his inspiration for becoming the type of man who does not look at porn.

https://recoveredman.com/189

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Direct download: pfr189.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 10:53am CDT

Hope Ray, therapist and partner specialist, returns to discuss recovery, relationships, and more.

https://recoveredman.com/188

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Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 8:41pm CDT

On this episode of Porn Free Radio, I open up my inbox and answer your questions:

Should I get rid of anything that triggers me? If you’ve gone porn free for a few years before you get married do you have to tell your spouse about it? How much do I need to tell my wife after a slip? How do I help my (ex)boyfriend? What if I am addicted to something more addicting than porn alone? Help! I’m not sure what’s wrong with me… AND MORE.

https://recoveredman.com/187

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Direct download: pfr187.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:07pm CDT

Sometimes I focus on the struggle too much. It's hard walking in recovery. I want to be honest about that.

But then I think what am I doing to kick ass in life?

What excites me? What sparks joy?

On today's show, we're talking about what it means to pursue a great life.

https://recoveredman.com/186

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Direct download: pfr186.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 4:32pm CDT

Most relapses start with edging. Edging is any unsound activity that mimics our old patterns with porn.

In this episode, you'll learn to shift your thinking away from "this is not porn" mentality. 

https://recoveredman.com/185

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Direct download: pfr185.mp3
Category:Porn Free Radio -- posted at: 2:37pm CDT

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