Business and Life Coach Brendan Burns joins me for a crossover podcast. In this super-sized episode, we talk about recovery, sushi, sex, dating, relationships, and kicking ass in life.

Learn more about Brendan at https://www.brendanhburns.com.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/219

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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At some point in recovery, you have to put in effort and hard work to move forward. Internally we resist this. We see effort as pain and we want to avoid this fact. But our happiness and success ultimately depends on our growth.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/218

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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On today's show, I share a powerful daily habit that creates focus, gives you more clarity in your thinking, and actually makes recovery easier.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/217

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

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Does your personality or the way you define yourself get in the way of recovery?

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/216

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

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What is the motivation for recovery? If it's primarily fear we have a problem. Fear-based recovery can inspire action at first but eventually exhausts us.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/215

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

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Nate Larkin and Aaron Porter join me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Pirate Monk Podcast. 

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/214

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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When it comes to situations in your life, how do you often respond?

Are you in habit of being an owner or a victim? Your ability to go porn depends on this...

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/213

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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Today, I am asking some questions... why do we struggle with commitment and follow-through? Why do resist creating healthy boundaries? And finally, if "the opposite of addiction is connection" why do we avoid it?

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/212

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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We focus on triggers a lot in recovery. Anticipating them. Avoiding them. Reducing them. But our thoughts, especially the ones that feel automatic often prompt our behaviors. This episode is about becoming aware of our thoughts and how to change them.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/211

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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In this episode, I share about one of my heroes, my rusty Buick, and the most unpleasant success principle in the world.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/210

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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What story do you tell yourself after a setback?

• That you're not disciplined enough?
• That you're lacking confidence?
• Or will power?

The truth is we simply lack commitment.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/209

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz

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Following up on episode 207, Pain Not Transformed is Transmitted, I answer the specific question of how our pain is transformed.

"We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship. Indeed, we cannot be fully healed outside of a relationship."

— Harville Hendrix, Getting The Love You Want

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/208

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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"If we do not transform our pain," Richard Rohr writes. "We will most assuredly transmit it." On today's show, I talk about how we avoid pain with porn and how the work of recovery is about transforming pain.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/207

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

http://recoveredman.com/thisyear

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Our culture would have us believe that all we can't fully enjoy life if we choose recovery.

But the opposite is true.

When we put the proper boundary on porn and our addictions, we get access to the rest of life.

In this virtually coaching session, we talk about how you can begin to design a kick-ass life.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/206

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 206 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 5: Kicking Ass In Life appeared first on Recovered Man.

Do you have an idea of some actions you should take in recovery?

Or is there a behavior that you know you need to eliminate?

What's stopping you?

In this virtual coaching session, I explain how our excuses reveal our beliefs.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/205

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 205 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 4: How Our Excuses Reveal Our Beliefs appeared first on Recovered Man.

I have a stack of emails today and I'm answering your questions...

What's the best way to tell my girlfriend about a relapse?
Is a realistic goal to abstain from masturbation when there is no relationship in sight?
Should I tell my accountability about the massage parlor?
Can you help me understand my horrific, porn withdrawal experience?

AND MORE...

1-on-1 Coaching
Interested in having a custom coaching experience with me? Send an email to matt@recoveredman.com with the subject "Coaching."

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/204

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 204 – My Horrific, Porn Withdrawal Experience appeared first on Recovered Man.

Recently I was dealt a crushing blow. Because of a flight cancelation, I went from having a first class ticket to a middle seat in the back of the plane.

On this episode, we talk about dealing with disappointment and why we feel what we focus on.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/203

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 203 – We Feel What We Focus On appeared first on Recovered Man.

My interview with Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/202

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 202 – Unwanted with Jay Stringer appeared first on Recovered Man.

Today's episode is about being kind to yourself, having compassion, and finding self-care.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/201

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 201 – Being Kind To Yourself appeared first on Recovered Man.

Superfan, Jon Jones, interviews Matt in a special show to celebrate 200 episodes of Porn Free Radio.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/200

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 200 – Superfan Takeover appeared first on Recovered Man.

Gentlemen, we're not alone in this.

In this episode, we break down the ingenious PFR theme created by Adam the producer.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/199

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 199 – PFR: Behind The Music appeared first on Recovered Man.

The first step in recovery is exposure, whether it's from getting caught or getting courage. The exposure helps us press into honesty.

In this episode, we talk about the why we avoid exposure and the gifts of being known.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/198

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 198 – Getting Caught or Getting Courage appeared first on Recovered Man.

We draw big conclusions from the type of we've looked at. Feelings like we are unique. We are disgusting or abnormal. But these are tricks of our ego to keep us stuck.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/197

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 197 – What Does the Porn I Look At Say About Me? appeared first on Recovered Man.

In today's episode, I share what we can learn about recovery from the John Wick saga.

Get access to my new audio series, Coffee with the Dobber, on Patreon.

Link:
https://recoveredman.com/contribute

The post 196 – John Wick Focus appeared first on Recovered Man.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/196

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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It's confession time on Porn Free Radio. My sobriety is intact, but I have been struggling with a mistaken belief in two areas of my life. And it's time to come clean.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/195

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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The post 195 – Mistaken Belief: If I Don’t Try, I Can’t Fail appeared first on Recovered Man.

On today's episode, your questions...How do you rebound after edging? What's the connection with porn addiction and depression/anxiety? And a crazy topic, I have never discussed on Porn Free Radio plus more.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/194

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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The post 194 – How Do You Rebound After Edging? appeared first on Recovered Man.

In the second of 2 episodes, Matt finishes our discussion on the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by Cal Newport.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/193

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 193 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man.

In the first of 2 episodes, Matt digs into the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by author and Computer Science professor, Cal Newport.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/192

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 192 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man.

When we feel rejected we think, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody."

Rejection is a huge trigger and can be an obstacle to healthy recovery.

It keeps us isolated and alone.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/191

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 191 – Rejection appeared first on Recovered Man.

Need a boost?
A 7-day stretch goal can help energize your recovery this week.

In this episode, you'll learn what a 7-day stretch goal is, why it's important, and how to set one.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/190

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 190 – 7-Day Stretch Goals appeared first on Recovered Man.

In episode 113 of PFR, a listener named Jon wrote, "I'm becoming the type of man who does not look at porn."

This idea has connected with many listeners since it posted back in 2017.

Today, I read a letter from Rob who shares his inspiration for becoming the type of man who does not look at porn.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/189

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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The post 189 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man.

Hope Ray, therapist and partner specialist, returns to discuss recovery, relationships, and more.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/188

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

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The post 188 – More Hope appeared first on Recovered Man.

On this episode of Porn Free Radio, I open up my inbox and answer your questions:

Should I get rid of anything that triggers me? If you’ve gone porn free for a few years before you get married do you have to tell your spouse about it? How much do I need to tell my wife after a slip? How do I help my (ex)boyfriend? What if I am addicted to something more addicting than porn alone? Help! I’m not sure what’s wrong with me… AND MORE.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/187

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 187 – What I want to do, I can’t do. I do what I hate. appeared first on Recovered Man.

Sometimes I focus on the struggle too much. It's hard walking in recovery. I want to be honest about that.

But then I think what am I doing to kick ass in life?

What excites me? What sparks joy?

On today's show, we're talking about what it means to pursue a great life.

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/186

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 186 – Success Comes From 50% Recovery Work And 50% Kicking Ass In Life appeared first on Recovered Man.

Most relapses start with edging. Edging is any unsound activity that mimics our old patterns with porn.

In this episode, you'll learn to shift your thinking away from "this is not porn" mentality. 

Get the full show notes here:

https://recoveredman.com/185

PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:

Porn Free This Year (Free video course)

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The post 185 – How Successful Guys Overcome Edging appeared first on Recovered Man.